I'm stressed. My 9 year old sister and I, are staying with my dad in cali for the summer. My dad and uncle go to work all day. So I am stuck here with her all day at this house. I am active and I like to be doing something. But my sister is so lazy its not even funny. She just sits around watching t.v. or on the computer. I ask her everyday if she has eaten breakfast and lunch, and she always gives me a smart-*ss answer or yells "NO!" or "LEAVE ME ALONE!!!" I am trying to be the big sister and make sure she eats something. We live in La. So my mom is not here to help. And my dad cares, but all he does is buy her junk food. All she eats is Cheeze Puffs ALL DAY!!! And I try to get her to shower like she is supposed to, but she just ignores me. And she also tattles on me for everything I do. And I don't even do anything! I am fifteen years old. I absoloutely DO NOT want to be the parent. I AM NOT THE PARENT!!! I shouldn't have to be. Someone help me. I need to relax.
2006-08-01 11:38:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Also, I have told my mom already and she said she would tell my dad. But I don't think she has.
2006-08-01 11:45:52 · update #1
Thank you all for your answers. I appreciate it and ya'll are so right. Thank you again.
2006-08-01 11:48:25 · update #2
You definitely need to talk to your parents about that. If your dad doesn't listen then you need to talk to your mom. What your dad is doing isn't right and is possibly detrimental to your growth and mental development. You are not grown so you shouldn't have to act like you are. Talk to them about what it is making you feel. Being that she is 9 let her be. You don't have to be her parent. Just find some friends, some good friends that you can hang out with and spend time with. She will grow up but you don't need to play mommy. Just take care of yourself and don't let that crap stress you out like that.
2006-08-01 11:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ill Prophet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard being the oldest child. I think it's nice that you're trying to be a good big sister. You are a 'better person' for trying than to walk away. You'll have to talk to mom & dad about this but...... you are learning what it feels like to be mom.....not everyone experiences that and it's good you can understand some of your mom's frustration with kids!! I'm not saying it's right - but it's an opportunity to understand.
Definitely talk to your dad or talk to mom. They need to iron this out because it really isn't fair for you. Even though you're sister does not appreciate you - when she gets older - it just might make you closer. You are giving her the life memory (and maybe a story she'll tell some day) about how you cared for her - and tried to help her. She might stick her tongue out at you now - but it's love in the making..... be patient.... it's a thankless job to be a parent.....that is - until the kids grow up and see what it was you were trying to do.
2006-08-01 18:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' - you did more than enough! Leave her alone! If she doesn't want your companionship then don't give it to her. There is no reason that you should have to deal with it! Just like you said, you are NOT the parent. Once you step off she'll come to terms with it and play nice. And if not then her loss, at least you can say you tried. Don't waste your summer helping her ungrateful butt! Find something for yourself to do, inside and out. Go meet some people and take advantage! You sound like a good girl, sorry you have to deal with this. It's hard being the oldest. Good Luck
2006-08-01 18:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by koreanqt81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, you shouldn't have to be a parents to your sister. instead of your mom telling your dad about what your sister does all day, why don't you try telling him. you're the one who is with her all day and he doesn't see it first hand. if he doesn't do anything, leave her be. 9 is old enough to know that you need to shower and eat. if she doesn't want to do those things, she doesn't have to do those things. siblings aren't always alike. you and your sister are two separate people. you are active, she isn't. you can't hold it against her for being who she is.
2006-08-01 19:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unplug the tv and computer, tell her that they broke, hide the cheese puffs, tell your dad that you need money for a bus ride to whatever la has to offer, go watch the bums in the park, and the beach bums on the beach. You know you gonna be stuck with her, at least hit up daddy for babysitting money.
2006-08-01 18:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Amangela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear horsegurl,
Get your self a Bible and start reading Psalms 144. Read slowly and ask the Lord to help you. Keep reading until you get to Psalm 150. I also like Psalm 23, which I'm sure you have heard before. I hope this will help you. Also you may wnat to look at www.familyradio.com. It is a Christian website.
2006-08-01 18:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by pilgrim_153 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre definately right. Discuss the problem with your mom on the phone and then with your dad. Maybe there are parks or polls you can get to
2006-08-01 18:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father needs to take action in this. Definately try talking with him and see what he says. If nothing happens then there is nothing you can do about it. Tell him you are tired of this and need a break.
2006-08-02 09:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use reverse-psychology. Fix a meal for her and say "i have to go to the bathroom, don't you dare eat that!" or something
2006-08-01 18:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sally Pepsi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email me with ur probs stephanierox478@yahoo.com
2006-08-01 18:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by s932 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋