My daugther is 5 yrs, and she wants to go & spend a weekend with her dad she has being calling him every week since the first week of may, and he haven't call her back , she have left messages to him but he seems not to care.. I can't lie to her about a fake call because she has memorized his phone number..She wants for me to take her to her dad's house but I don't think it is Okay since he haven't call...I have try to call him too, so I can know what it is going on and that he need to give her an explanation..... I just try to take her places or play with her or do some fun activities so she can forget about going there for a while but it seems not to be working, I don't know what else to do .. I don't want for her to bed sad or to feel more bad than she is feeling right now .. What do ?? How can I explain to her something that I don't even know the answer!!! any advices
2006-08-01 11:37:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I understand especially when they are young and want to spend time with the other parent no matter what you do they won't forget. I would call him and explain the situation if he really wants to see her he will come up with something if not then I would ask him to tell her that he is busy for it is not up to you for he may have said something that has triggered this reaction cause as we all know Kids DON'T Forget certain things. But if he refuses I know this sounds bad but think of an excuse for him you may know he is a jerk, but he is her father and will never be a jerk to her even though you may not be able to stand him. At least her feelings are not hurt and that is all that matters for sometimes one parent has to give the love of 2!
2006-08-01 11:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by mom 2 mean kids 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Keep it short and simple age appropriate when talking to her about this situation... You might point out when SHE brings the subject up that her daddy may not have called but that you know he loves her very much since she is such a special little girl. Emphasize that you love her very much too and that you will do your best to let her daddy know that she wants to spend time with him. Let her know that you hear how she feels and that you care about her feelings. Then tell her that she has done nothing wrong to keep her daddy away and that you are handling this. Give her a big hug and redirect her attention (a great way to this at this age is to have her "help" you with a task - gardening, reading a book, coloring etc) Then the next time this situation happens do the same thing over and over until she hears those key things... this is not her fault, she is special and loved!
Also you may want to consider giving her some male attention by letting her hang out with her grandpa or uncle. Talk to someone in your family and see if they might be able to go to the park or play a game with her! Good luck and enjoy your daughter, she is lucky to have a loving mom.
2006-08-02 02:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by annabellerenea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bad mouth her daddy because then shell think your just a "mean mommy" and you cant have your daughter thinking your the bad guy and hes the good guy so all you have to tell her is that daddy is working really really hard and here soon hell come to see her or she can go see him mean while keep trying to get ahold of in just in case something is wrong maybe try to get a hold of his mother or father and make sure he's okay if that doesnt work just tell her that her daddys is going through some things right now and he needs to be alone or hes on vacation and try to get her involved with other friends in family members
2006-08-01 19:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when children are going to school or daycare they see other childrens Dad's bringing them to school, picking them up, giving them hugs and kisses. For the kids that know their Dad's, and don't get to see them, it makes it very hard. If she wants to talk about her Dad, talk to her in a positive manner. You didn't say how far Dad lives from you, but, if possible, the two of you could drive to his house. She could see him, or see that he is not there. Let her draw pictures for him and the two of you mail them to her Dad. If he doesn't come around, she will eventually not ask. I guess, what I am trying to say is, don't you be the bad guy.For whatever reason(s) she wants to be with him right now, she does't need to hear negative remarks about her Dad. Let her set her own opinions...Good Luck! It's really hard on the parent that cares!
2006-08-02 02:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth that her daddy is too busy for her but never bad mouth her dad in front of her. expliain it without telling her the whole truth that her dad is a loser, and does not want to see her. because one day he will want to see her and she will be over him, and choose not to see him
2006-08-01 20:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by sister4818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-02 12:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth, that daddy is a loser, and she may be sad now but she's gotta learn some time.
2006-08-01 18:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Amangela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋