He has a girlfriend, I have a boyfriend, he doesn't know about my boyfriend yet, but met that guy recently. Today he told me that he liked me too much...in fact he loved me. I like him but not so much "like that." He's been asking questions like "what if I leave my girl for you?" and making comments like, "I like you better than I like my girl." I changed the subject but I know it'll come up again. What do I say? I really want to keep him as a friend.
2006-08-01 11:30:59 · 7 answers · asked by Cathy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell him the truth so he knows a relationship with you is out of the question. Tell him as soon as possible because you do not want to give him false hope.
2006-08-01 11:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is generally the problem of 'friendships' of this nature, one or sometimes both parties involved will believe they have feelings for the other and sometimes may act upon it as he did here. Friends need to stay friends and -not- bring up any feelings they may have for the other and let things proceed naturally. This wasn't your fault but you're going to need to fix it, tell him you want to keep things the way they are and that he should do the same. If at some point in the future you're both single then fine, perhaps try dating but for now let things take their course.
2006-08-01 18:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, he should show you he can be faithful with his girl before you give him your heart. lol. Not like you plan on it, right? Trust me, being a friend to someone you're really attracted to is a VERY difficult thing. He took a big leap in telling you. Go easy on him. Let him know you have a boyfriend and that you just can't be with someone you see as "liking the next new thing" as he is apparently doing. Best of luck.
2006-08-01 18:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by iambic_chatterbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth if u tell him later he will feel even worse the sooner the better you should tell him that u have a bf and that u really like him, tell him that u jus want to stay friends and if something comes up then it does but if it doesnt then u guys will still be friends. If u dont like him as more than jus a frend then tell him that and he should understand...
because the same thing happend to me..
you should really try to be as nice as possible so u dont hurt him..
2006-08-01 18:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by lilpinay06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe, sounds like my ex-boyfriend. He's in love with a girl friend of his and constantly gives it away that he wants to date her, but she never says anything or acts on it and doesn't seem to want to be more than friends with him, but he doesn't give up. I think the best thing you can do is just tell him straight up you only want to remain friends and nothing more.
2006-08-01 18:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just be honest with him with tell him how u feel...good luck
2006-08-01 18:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-01 18:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by s932 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋