What is the best way to deal with death of husband?

Answer 1

You have just loss someone very close to you.So my best advice is to talk... talk.... talk.... I know that sounds redundant. However, having lost mine almost 5 years ago to a motorcycle accident, I found that talking about my loss and how I was feeling helped immensely. I lived in a VERY small town, where there were no support groups. So I counseled with my local pastor. Get a book on the grieving process. There are steps that each of go through. Sometimes we go through part of them while the decreased is still alive if they have a disease that takes a long time to progress before taking their life. Other times, like in my case, the loved one is gone in an instance. Do not be impatient with yourself and allow time for grieving. If you find that you are not progressing through the various stages and they can be mixed up, you might not go through in the same order as another person, I would suggest professional counseling. They can help you work through the process. We all progress through these stages at different rates.

I included some links at the bottom that talk about the grieving process and the steps involved. I hope the links help.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Slowly. It's going to take time. Don't be in a rush to change things in your life, because you may give away his things, only to wish you had some of them back. My Steve committed suicide last December 16, and I'm still adjusting. It seems you need to work out all the little details with this new major fact: you will find yourself getting teary-eyed over silly little things.

Lean on your friends. I could not have made it without my friends, and they really do want to help. It makes them feel better when they can do something for you, so let them. And don't be afraid to accept professional help if it is available. I am going to my last session with my grief counselor this Wednesday, and he's been a real help. Just sorting through the feelings, the practical matters (Steve drove a car, but I don't have a license; I need to re-think all my transportation hassles), and especially the financial matters. It has been over seven months, and I only just now re-wrote my will and sent in the change of beneficiary form for my 401K. If there is someone obvious to be your beneficiary, such as your offspring, it can probably be faced easier. I had no next idea, and had to let one best friend bubble to the surface.

Bless your heart, you know you will be OK eventually, so go ahead and have your cry, and talk to him in your heart whenever you need to. I'm not sure he can hear, but I'm certainly not sure he cannot.

Answer 4

That is a tough one and depends on how good the relationship was. Meaning how YOU felt about it.
But one universal thing that works always when losing a partner, regardless how, is hook up with someone else, and the sooner the better.
You may have to allow a certain amount of time for grieving, but that should be strictly on how YOU feel, not anyone else OR society.

Answer 5

Hmmm... a tough one... I would suggest socializing with your best friend(s) as much as you can, to take your mind off his death. You have enough time to think of him when you are alone, in your 4 walls.
My cousin lost her husband, and she just continued living her life in the same house they lived 20+ years. Of course there were a lot of tears. Time is the only remedy for you. Eventually the wound will get not as sharp.
My answer again: socialize, socialize ....

Answer 6

YOU do exactly what YOU need to do. Do it all, everything YOU believe will help YOU. And don't apologize to anyone. I did it when my father died, I did it again when my mother died and I credit that alone with my ability to recover from a couple of very traumatic events. They are two events in my life that the door is truly closed on.

I wish you the very best and stress one more time, you must take care of you. Remember you can do no more for your husband.

Answer 7

Go ahead and grieve. Don't give yourself any time limits by saying, "I should be over this by now," or thinking that "life goes on." When you lose someone you love, someone primary in your life, you have to go through all of the stages of grief and not try to rush yourself or push the grief down or away under the guise you need to function. If you don't go ahead and grieve now, it will just get buried deep inside and come out in other negative ways.

Answer 8

1. Settle your estate
2. Plan for your financial future
3. Comfort his family
4. Talk things out with close friends
5. Go places and do things
6. If you and your husband were close, he would above all want you to be happy.
7. make the remaining years of your life account for something.

Answer 9

Wow, that's tough question to answer. It depends on how you deal with other kinds of stress. I personally would need to be around people to keep me from dwelling on the problem. The more I think about something, the further I go into an emotioal black hole...I need friends to help me through.

Answer 10

As well as the awful emotional impact of such a loss, there are also practicalities to be dealt with. I suggest talking to your priest, rabbi or mentor, and maybe to a close friend about getting help. Certainly you should have someone to help with things like paperwork.