He did it again, I asked him to stop... He didn't listen... He is much too strong for me... I want to die, I want to end it all right here, right now... I feel so dirty, You are all I got, You are the only one I can tell. It would just break my family apart. If I say anything, My grandma is going to die... I just don't know what to do... I am so dirty, I am so lost. I thought it was all over... I ...need help... I feel like I am in hell right now, I can't get his face out of my head. I am the most discusting thing on the phase of the earth... I don't know what to do... I have lost all my strength, all my will to live... How can I tell my hubby? I don't want him to commit a crime, I fear his reaction. He is going to think it was my fault. I want to die... Don't worry, this is not a suicide note, I am too much of a chicken, I'm just so desperate, I am so lost. There is so much noise in my head, it is all pain and conufusion... CAN YOU LIFT MY SPIRIT?
2006-08-01 11:19:00 · 16 answers · asked by Magy G 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am sorry, I should not have asked. I am so ashamed. My apologies...
2006-08-01 11:29:56 · update #1
I really do apologize for not making myself completely clear. I was raped for the second time by my father in law, I never agreed to anything, I am very confused and mad and so heartbroken. I try my best to be good to everyone and I get this in return. Is it something that I am doing wrong? Thank you all so much for your advice and prayers...
2006-08-02 03:13:57 · update #2
You have asked for help. It will come. Some of your help will come from within, and some will come from outside.
To seek within, you need to let your inner good communicate with the outer you. Sit down with a piece of blank paper in front of you, and a pen or pencil. Start writing short sentences that say something about you that 1) are positive and 2) are things you are or are things you do.
I can change the oil in my car. I can knit. I am a good person. (those are some examples that I would write about me). Write as many down as you can think of in 10 minutes. Then read the list to yourself. Add more if you think of them. Remember keep it to the positives - not the maybe positives.
Then keep this list with you and add to it daily.
It will remind you of the good person you are and the good you can, have, and will continue to do.
Then take the steps necessary to shut "him" down. Call the police. "He" will only do it again, if "he" is not stopped. And it will make you feel the same way all over again. You do not like the way you felt before, you don't like it now - you won't like it in the future - it won't get better. Call the police, then get a counselor. The counselor will help you through the telling of your husband. If "he" is already neutralized, your husband won't have any reason to commit a crime.
Then, take a self defense class or learn tai-kwon-do, so you can defend yourself.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
2006-08-01 11:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-28 14:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one of the other replies suggested, you should call a hot-line.
I believe that I know what's bothering you past what you've written, but you realize what's wrong and you are looking for help.
Again I say, hot lines can help.
They will most likely tell you some of what I'm telling you now.
No matter how bad things look, you can pull yourself up out of the despair you feel.
Again, I'm guessing but I believe that you're in an affair with another man.
If that's it, right now make up your mind that you will not see that rotten manipulator again.
Stick to it and go on with your proper life as if nothing has happened.
If that man continues to bother you look for a hot line or some other outside help without going to legal authorities unless you have no other choice. It sounds like that bum would do anything to keep control of you - get over him with no lapses on your part.
Do you have a relative who you can confide in?
You need the strength to do what you want to do.
Good luck.
2006-08-01 12:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by ha_mer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell the police. I know it's going to be hard, and you feel like no one will believe you, but this man needs to be arrested. You also need to see a doctor right away. The longer you wait, the less evidence there is that you were raped. Tell your best friend, a sibling, anyone, and ask them to help you. I don't know if you believe in God but remember, this man was in the wrong, and you ARE beautiful. Ask God for help and guidance in making sure that this man pays for what he did.
My mother was raped at 18. So this hits very close to my heart.
2006-08-01 11:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not sure whats going on, but nomatter what if somebody is abusing you then tell everyone , get it out in the open, dont be afraid of hurting anyones feelings, that person needs to be stopped, before it happens to someone else!
2006-08-01 11:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell your husband. But not while you guys are in the same house. Get him to go out with you for the evening then tell him. Have him take you to the hospital and file a police report. What if you had a child and he did this to the child? Would you NOT report it.
PLEASE..Protect yourself and other women he could do this to.
2006-08-01 11:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a victim, and don't wait for another crime to happen. If you are so scared and at the end of your rope then call the police. Nothing can happen that is as bad as how you feel now. Call the f*****G Police!!
2006-08-01 12:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell someone and get counsoling . Get away from the cause of your dispare now.You are not the cause of this and will not go to hell for it. i am not good with make you feel better words but seek help in real people close by.You are strong and this is not your fault. Go somewhere safe now.
2006-08-01 11:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
baby ,i dont know what is exactly in ur mind ,if u did something wrong ,thats everybody in the world r doing this ,dont worry ,i did all of my life ,just be relax ,everything gone be ok soon ,try running hard right know ,im sure u can come out from darkness soon .take it easy
2006-08-01 11:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kathie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm just going to pray for you and hope that things get better. I'm going through the same thing, just so you know you're not alone, same emotions differenct situation.
2006-08-01 11:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋