g/f need's space !?

Question

my g/f left last week saying she needs more space !
to think about what she wants out of life.she say's if she wanted to be in a relationship it would be with me .she say's she love's me ,I said i would have her back ,if she changed her mind and wanted to be with me.she repleyed" it might be sooner then you think"
im getting a lot of mixed messages from her .in one hand she want's to be with me ,and the other she wants her feedom to do what she wants .and be on her own.she has allso said today to me "she would like to make a go of it but she cant say how long she needs to be on her own for .it could be a few week or a few years she dosent no how long .but i shouldnt wait for her and to get on with im life ...
can some body help tell me what to do
thanks

Answer 1

Move on. She has told you everything you need to know. She is not ready for a serious relationship right now and she doesn't know when she will be. Maybe when she is ready she will call you. If your free great. Maybe she will find someone else that will make her ready now. You just never know. For now though it looks like you are single. Who knows maybe when she finds out you will not always be on stand by she will decide that you are not something she is willing to lose.

Answer 2

Some clear things come out of this .....
[1] This girl shows no real commitment to you
[2] This girl doesn't know her own mind
[3] This girl is putting you through torment that she may or may not be aware of
[4] This girl may be into another relationship, stringing you along and keeping her options open
[5] This girl needs to grow up, be taught the meaning of commitment and not to mess with people's lives
[6] This girl is simply not there for you right now, perhaps never will be .....
[7] You deserve better than what she offers ..... do you really want to be with a girl that doesn't know her a*se from her elbow ........
[8] This is the epitomy of mind games ..... and it's hurting you.
[9] Have respect for yourself here, tell her that it's over and see her reaction ....
[10] If she is just as vague as ever ..... simply wave goodbye and move onto someone who will be there for you today, tomorrow and possibly for ever ..... you deserve that!

Answer 3

AEveryone who is young goes threw this. All she needs is time do not call her and go on with your friends for awhile the more time she has alone the more she will now. Meaning that she will be coming back to you. She might be thinking r u the right one? You probly r but for now just have fun without her have a guys night out. And when she calls do not tell her how much u miss her. Keep the conversation normal how was etc... she will realize u respect her space and say WOW... he really gets what I need. Good Luck!

Answer 4

it seems like your girlfriend is unsure of her life at the moment, there not much you can do she need to figure this one out for herself.
but she must understand that while you love her you cant wait for her forever, you have your own life too. what i would suggest is to give her the space she needs, maybe a few weeks, and then talk it over. if she is still unsure then you should explain that its not doing either of you any good to wait around. after all life is too short.
until then my friend all you can do is bide your time untill the right moment arrives.
i know it hurts, and you are prbably getting that feeling in the pit of your stomach, like something is broken. and at the minute you most probably feel somewhat lost. things will work out for the good or the bad. just be strong and hold your head up, maybe theres light at the end of the tunnel.
take care x

Answer 5

No disrespect or anything to you mate, but I think its probably over. All the things she is saying would seem to be a way of letting you go without hurting your feelings because she probs does care for you.....just not like that, I would try and move on and stop the contact. Whilst you have the contact you are always going to be in hope that you might let get back with her and it will stop you moving on with your life.

She cant have her cake and eat it - and you wont be free to meet anyone else if you stay as you are.

Good luck and best wishes to you.

Answer 6

Ask yourself this, are you prepared to hang around waiting for her until she makes up her mind what she does want and are you going to be pretty angry if she turns round in a few months and says your not what she wants in her life anymore, I think you should decide what is a reasonable time to give her to make her mind up about what she does want and your going to be included, I think she is been very selfish if she expects you to hang around waiting for her to make her mind up about you especially if she thinks it could be two years down the line, though I think her telling you that you shouldn't wait for her is the answer you need, life is too short to wait for people to make a decision on what is your future as well, Listen to "I need a little time" by Beautiful South and see if that helps at all, good luck.

Answer 7

I am going through something similar. All you can do is learn to let go. If she really loves you and it is meant to be, she will come back. If she doesn't come back she wasn't the one. And honestly, do you want to be with someone who always has one foot out the door?

In the meantime, use the space to figure out what you want from your life. Get all of your ducks in a row so to speak. Maybe along the way you will find she wasn't the one for you.

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

she is just going through something that you need to help her with. Tell her how much you love her and care for her and just keep asking her why she wants to be away from you. She might be having family issues or something in that area so ask her friends if she has been telling them anything. If she is just going plain crazy then you shouldn't have to wait for her. Hope it works out!

Answer 9

when a girl says "i need my space" she really means that your over crowding her. such as giving her to MUCH atention and that she needs to be left alone for a litle bit i would just wait a littl bit before going back for her. she might also think that you are also two clingy and need to take a step back away from her. well ok bye!♥

good luck☺

Answer 10

She sounds really confused. You need to sit down and talk with her. Tell her to be more clear about what she wants. If she can't make up her mind, then you should move on.