Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and he wants to have a threesome....i mean i couldnt never let him have sex with another girl in front of me ya know? i just couldnt..so i told him i might be up for doing a threesome thing but with no sex just fourplay i mean we could have sex just not them haha I'm just scared he will expect me to do it all the time and i feel like hes saying he doesnt want to just be with me and not have feelings for other girls help!!!!
2006-08-01 11:01:03 · 26 answers · asked by Bianca G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let lust control an otherwise good relationship. The two of you shouldn't be having sex yet, but inviting a 3rd party in letting him and his lusts get out of hand and out of control.
On the real note, tell him, "Look, fool, who you think I am, Punko'd'day? Hell naw it ain't gon be no tramp up in our relationship, and she got a worse chance than a hellbound snowcone of getting to you. Threesome!? If you have sex with another girl, it better not be in front of me. She's gonna need all the headstart she can get."
then mutter under your breath but loud enough for him to hear, "threesome my ***, I'll cut bofay'all trippin *** talkin bout some threesome...
I guarantee you, babygurl, that'a be the end of that.
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2006-08-01 11:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this crap about anything being okay between consenting adults. I have never seen anything good [that would include emotional security, trust, and a long-term relationship - marriage] come from casual sex with others. There is a reason that monogamy is so effective. Forget your boyfriend, he is not interested in just being with you [so yea, that means that he is more likely to cheat later]. He just wants some action [and to do that he must first treat you like an object and not another person that he cares about]. Oh, just so you are aware fourplay is almost as bad as a threesome [because the intent is same]. Your relationship will fall apart and you will feel terrible about yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-01 18:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by tothebeans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A threesome? Well, tell him you're in if you get to pick the 3rd person. Find the hottest guy you can findand tell him to meet at a certain time. Meanwhile tell Boyfriend that 3rd "person" is on the way. When the doorbell rings, watch bf jaw fall to the floor.
Lose this guy. If he wants to be with another girl...he'll do it with or without you. I have never met any couple that has made it through a 3some.
2006-08-01 18:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be on to something, maybe you should suggest a threesome, with you playing the only female role. Sounds like you two need to work out the love/sex part of your relationship. Try counseling.
2006-08-01 18:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by theoldguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wqants a threesome he doesnt respect you or your feelings. If you agree to this you will be ahunted for a long time, the trust would be gone, you will always be wondering when happen again. Tell him how you feel if he cant respect that send him packing. Even forplay is still unfaithful look in side your self only you will find the answer. Personally i wouldnt, i commit to one not 2.
2006-08-01 18:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is a popular guy fantasy... but if you are not into it then you shouldn't do it. If he pressures you, he is a jerk and you should not be with him.
Also, you can have your rules beforehand... but in the heat of the moment, all rules might go out the window. If you are not into it then guaranteed you are going to feel bad and insecure afterwards. Why put yourself through that to cater to a man?
2006-08-01 18:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to have sex in a threeway ,tell him you want it to be another guy.after he says no,tell him you feel the same way about another girl.if you give in once he will want to do it over and over again.if you aren't woman enough for him then maybe he should find someone who is.guys like him will end up as an abuser of some type or another.
2006-08-01 18:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it then tell him. If this is something you think you want to do talk to him beforehand about what you both can and cannot do. Set the rules and if he agrees then go ahead. Also, be sure to tell him that this will only happen once ( if that's what you want). But please be sure you do this willfully, not just to please him. If he truly loves you he will understand either way.
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2006-08-01 18:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not said how old you are. Anything between consenting adults is fine. Myself I would not want a man that wanted more than me. That is why we get in to relationships
2006-08-01 18:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by midget580 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think after he does it he'll never want to do it again. This is one of those things that appears my fun than it really is. Frankly it's more work than pleasure. (I'm assuming this is his first time, and he just wants to experiment)
You could raise the ante and state that you want a foursome.
2006-08-01 18:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ted Jordan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋