I have a daugther (5yrs), and a boy of (21moths) I'm expecting my thrid baby. The problem is that my daugther wants a girl & she is convinced that it is a girl, we don't know yet I berly 3 months, I try to talk to her that maybe God will not send us a girl maybe he wants to send us a boy, but she insist that it is a girl, the same thing happend when I was pregnant with my boy, she was positive that it was a boy & when we find out she even told me .."I told you it was a boy" so now we don't know how to make her understand that maybe she is right maybe not .... What to do ?? any advices.....
2006-08-01 10:48:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She'll figure it out soon enough. Maybe there is something special about your daughter that the rest of us don't understand. That said, I would point out all the lovely newborn boys that your friends, neighbors and family have had. At the store, point out the baby boy. "Look at that new baby boy. Isn't he cute? They sure are lucky to have a baby boy." And do the same for girls. But point out the boy for awhile first, and after a couple of days, point out all babies, because they're all cute.
You could also, depending on the maturity level of your daughter, tell her how lucky you (or other parents) are to have baby, because all babies are special, boy OR girl.
2006-08-01 10:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Joanne M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there's any reason to try and convince her that it may not be what she wants it to be. Just let her think it will be a girl. Make a contest out of it and give her something if she wins. If it ends up being a girl.. all the power to her.. if it's a boy.. tell her that God wanted her to have another little brother..
There's no reason for controversy right now.. let her think what she wants.. then when the new baby comes.. you'll see if she was right or not.
2006-08-01 18:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She may be disappointed but she'll get over it if it is not what she says it is. When I was pregnant with my last child my son (only one)(he was 5 then) so much wanted a boy but was disappointed when I had a girl. He loves his sister to bits. He says that the baby is his favourite sister (i have 3 girls). He is at the stage now where we are not allowed to kiss him (is in Grade 1) but Aaliyah can. She will love her little brother or sister. Just remember to get her involve with the baby. Delegate big sister duties to her and she will be fine. Also give her and her baby brother lots of attention too when you bring the baby home just so they do not feel left out. Good Luck and Best Wishes
2006-08-01 18:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by zaazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that God may not think your family needs a girl, if she asks why say this new baby is to have a job in your family, like it may save save you one day. Or say I think it's a girl/boy and have her guess too, and when you find out you can see who is right.
2006-08-01 17:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty/Penguin Jillian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes little children have a hunch about what thier parents are having. I mean considering that its a 50/50 chance of being right. You should just let her believe what she wants but when you find out, if she is wrong, just try to explain to her that she gonna have another little brother.
2006-08-01 18:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by wyckedli_sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any reason to try and convince her, but, how do you feel about sharing name ideas with her. That way you can say, "If it's a boy, his name will be Jacob, and if it's a girl, her name will be Leah." (Or whatever you choose!)
Best wishes!
from a grandma-aged person who loves the names Jacob and Leah!
2006-08-01 17:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants a little sister for companionship. Explain to her that whether the child is a boy or a girl, it will most definately be her friend, and her sibling whom she will love.
2006-08-01 17:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Emily I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let her think what she wants you told her how it is already and the "we'll see" answer works. She was right the first time if she's right again just be glad she didn't say twins *smiles. Congrats on the baby to be
2006-08-01 18:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's psychic?
otherwise, i would let her enjoy be a kid and very righteous. i guess would keep saying it could be a boy or it could be a girl. this will just be something you can tell her when she's older--and laugh about. or maybe you can find some books or videos.
2006-08-01 17:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by crazymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time she mentions it, don't a deal about it, just say "we'll see..." and then wait till the ultrasound. i don't think she'll throw a tantrum if it turns out she was wrong... just don't rub it in her face when that time comes, make no mention of her incorrect prediction (if she is incorrect)
2006-08-01 18:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by Karen H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋