Stupid guy problems. please help!!!! This is serious.?

Question

Basically i am talking to this really awesome guy. He likes another girl, who doesnt like him back, or atleast it doesnt sound like she does. Now that we are getting close i am starting to feel threatened by her. He told me about her before we started talking. They are not going out but they have history. He cant get over her because he had his first sexual experiences with her. I am definately way prettier than her, nicer, older, and probably smarter. We are so good for eachother. We have so much fun together and are interested in all the same things. from what he has told me sha doesnt even respect him. They have been " dating" for like two years but she wouldnt even go to prom with him so he didnt go to his own prom! ( BTW she went with someone else). I feel stupid on the sidelines but i really like him. He is so hard to pass
up. How can i convince him that i am the girl for him? I will do anything to make him happy. Or should i just give up on him, because he won't give up on her?

wow! Thanks for the great advice Tinman! I will grow up, and when i do i will contact you so that you can kiss my *** with your tounge out! And since you are so into politics, i would just like for you to know that your government considers me an adult old enough, vote, drink, and smoke, so once again, kiss my ***.Thanks again for the great advice!
BTW, he knows kinda how i feel because i told him without making it sound like i want him to get rid of her, because i feel like i dont have the right to ask him to do that yet. I am not going to have sex with him, nor anyone else for that matter. I also know that this sounds a little imature for all of you assholes who made smart remarks about it but i didnt know how to reword the question.

Answer 1

Try telling him what you just told half the computer-literate world. You want him to know that you're better for him than she is, TELL HIM! You want him to know that she doesn't respect him, TELL HIM! You want him to know that you feel stupid on the sidelines... tap coach on the shoulder and tell him you want to be in the game!

Anything you wish he knew, tell him
anything you can't understand how he doesn't know by now... tell him.
TALK TO HIM, be open and honest and sound secure and confident when you speak.
That's how you convince him that you're great for him, and if he doesn't realize that what he has in you--not perfect-- is at least a major improvement to what he has, then he might not be so great for you.

Dating is a learning experience with the purpose of eventually finding a future spouse... If you're better than she is, let him know. If he doesn't understand at first, don't wait around for him to decide or to finish with her.
Tell him, "Look, this bus is pulling out; either you leave homegirl on the bench at the stop or you catch the next bus, but I'm not going to put my ride in park so you can finish your trivial conversation with .
"Life is traffic, Oswald, and I'm not going to put my life and everyone in my lane on hold because you've got sticky fingers and can't let go of Miss Gertrude. I don't care if you walk, it doesn't bother me, but you and Gertude are stagnant and I've got places to go, so if you want on this bus, there's a seat right next to me, but if not, I might the best quality bus to come down this street for a long time."

Feel free to put a personal touch to it, he'll respect you being personal, but be firm and confident. Maybe you two aren't meant to be. But if you do everything you can to try to make a relationship happen, any shortcoming falls on him, and there's no way you can lose.

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Answer 2

You girls need to get a grip! PROM!!! This is teenage stuff! If you really want him and you'll do anything, then jump him. Don't let him say no, just rape his A$$. Two, if you come between her and him, she will feel threatened because you took her puppy away, you may have to let him go because she may get aggressive to get her doggy back. If she doesn't, you can keep the dog. Now having said that, Your a teenager or barely out of the teen years, Calm your emotions down, get your career going and then worry about guys. Besides, if he is going to let her step on him, then eventually you will end up stepping on him too. At that point you won't respect him or yourself for ending up with somebody so weak willed.

Answer 3

This is what I would do if I wasn't the shy person I am:

Sit your guy down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel, and tell him that you guys are better together than him and that other girl. If you tell him that the other girl does not even respect him, it might start to dawn on him. Have him remeber past encounters with her, and see if you can remember even one time that she concidered his feelings. If he doesn't, then tell him that you respect him, and care for him. If he still doesn't consider "leaving" her, then see if he'll make a deal. See if he'll date you for two weeks. If he doesn't change his mind, then still stay in touch with him. He'll get over her, and when he does, he'll remember all the times he had with you, and he'll think "You know I think she's better for me anyway. Because she cares about me." Plus, what really helps is, BE THERE FOR HIM! This will also dawn on him that YOU ARE BETTER! Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR WOMAN TO TALK TO A MAN, FOR MY WHOLE LIFE I HAVE BEEN TOLD BY WOMAN HOW MUCH BETTER TALKERS THEY ARE BUT THEY ALWAYS HAVE PROBLEMS TELLING SOMEONE WHAT THEY LIKE OR WANT. WHY IS THAT?
YOU CAN ONE LET HIM KNOW AND TAKE YOUR CHANCES.
PLUS YOU ALREADY KNOW IF HE FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE OR NOT.
TWO YOU COULD ACT MORE PHYSICAL WITH HIM, MEN DON'T NEED WORDS AS MUCH AS WOMEN DO.
BEND OVER ONCE IN WHILE
WEAR SOME SKIMPY CLOTHES OF COURSE YOU DON'T WANT TO LOOK LIKE A WHORE,
BUT STAYING QUIET AND DOING NOTHING IS GOING TO GET YOU NO WHERE, YOU ALREADY SAID YOU'LL DO ANYTHING SO HERE IS YOUR CHANCE, YOU HAVE THE TIME THE SPACE AND THE OPPORTUNITY.
THE QUESTION IS ARE YOU BOLD, OR ARE YOU JUST THAT TYPE OF WOMAN THAT IS ALL WORDS AND NOW ACTION. WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

Answer 5

Please don't take the following as mean or spiteful, it is only meant to be helpful....

Don't waste your time. You are not the one. He may be playing you. Ask yourself has he told her about you? If they aren't together then when does she have time to disrespect him? He's caught up on her, you're caught up on him, and she's probably off dating someone else. Best advice if after reading this you still want him, ignore him.... men love the chase. Be nice, flirtatious and unavailable...sometimes. Don't always be available, and if he likes you he'll ask for more, maybe not with words but with actions like calling to say "Hi", dropping by, or asking if you are free at least one week in advance.

Good Luck Sister.

Answer 6

You are already doing the best thing. Remain his friend. Be there for him as a friend and once he realizes she is not a good match for him he will start looking and you will be right there. If you make a move right now when he is not ready you could end up losing the friendship.

Answer 7

You can bring him the moon and that still won't change things. You'll end up wasting a lot of energy into this guy . If you need to "convince" him it's a waste. You're qualities are what he should be attracted to and if he's still hung up on someone else. Move on but you can still be his friend.

Answer 8

I had a big crush on this girl one time, we made out and fooled around occasionally, and she would flirt with me and hold my hand and stuff like that but she would never say yes when i asked her out, she would never let me take her out, she would always hook up with other guys at partys but every time i would talk to another girl she would come up to us and basically ruin it for me but never wanted to have sex with me, i finally started dating this other girl who did like having sex with me but i couldnt get my mind off of the first girl so I broke up with her, now i wish i didnt break up with her and we were still at least friends, so just be patient and he'll eventually get over her.

Answer 9

Well firstly don't do anything stupid to make him disllike her - cause chances are he'll dislike YOU for trying to force him. Maybe you should suggest to him that he should get over her - if he doesn't want to then maybe he's a lost cause, but if he does then you're in a good position to get his attention. However you shouldn't push it, cause if he does like her it might take time for him to get over her, and then he might push you away if he thinks you're coming to occupy a space he feels she should.

Whatever happens it might be a long game - so perhaps he might be worth coming back to when he is over her.

Good luck

Answer 10

well this is very interesting but nothing new these things have been like that forever. well have you told him how you feel about him? can u get on that level with him ? don't just come out with I love u or something but just see if u can find out what he thinks about u. then maybe u can kinda hint around that you like him allot. just be a friend to him its better like that than nothing at all , then wait and see what happens
good luck and let us know how it goes.

try not to get too attached just in case it doesn't work out for your own sake. but I think its better to friends than nothing at all right?
think about it first too allot of couples start off as friends first then bang it happens
it happened to me and now I have been with my guy for over 11 years and we have a girl together.
so there ya go.
PS.....do me a favor and don't listen to that guys answer about bending over