I recently broke up with my ex of 5 yrs. He cheated on me and still talks with the girl whom he slept with. so i told him not to contact me unless you wanna stop talking with the girl.he never contacts me since then..
but i just found out that my ex was checking all my Q&A in this website. He answered my question and also most of the questions that i've answered recently....
I don't know what he is thinking. i told him that "i don't wanna talk to you unless you stop talking with the girl." i believe if he REALLY LOVES me, he would have chosen me (stopped talking with the girl) and contaced me by now. but he didn't, so i thought he chose the girl...
I'm really confused. i've done a lot of thing to him and hurt him sooo much. that was my fault, so i'm trying to fix those bad aspects including my personality. and if possible, i wanna get back with him. but if he doesn't wanna stop talking with the girl, i want him to leave me alone.. don't know what to do... help plz!!
2006-08-01 10:36:19 · 14 answers · asked by makerunanrk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you ever cheat on him though? If not then I don't think you hurt him nearly as much as he hurt you. When I was with my ex we had problems but I never would think about messing around with someone else no matter how mad I got. I don't think that anyone that truly loves someone would ever do that. I know we had problems sometimes but I knew I loved her so that's why I never tried to see other people. But maybe that's just me.
2006-08-01 10:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
I have three questions for you in return:
1. Is this actually a message for your ex (as you know he is checking your q&a)?
2. Would you honestly go back to him after he cheated on you after 5 years of relationship? Does it matter to you really if he talks to this other girl or not?
3. What on the Earth you still want to tell him? You are really so forgiving?
And by the way, if you hurt him so badly he would have done much better thing if he simply left you. Cheating on you is so low and doesn't tell anything good about your ex. Just get over him!
2006-08-01 10:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by hellothere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you, he would have never cheated. I hate it when women blame themselves. If a man cheats it's not your fault. Irregardless of what is going on in a relationship, there's never a reason to cheat. If things are not going the way that you think that they should in your relationship either discuss it and try to work it out or be a stand up adult and part ways. Move on and let her have him. He's already shown you his true colors and it's probably only a matter of time before he does the same thing to her that he did to you.
Your personality is what makes you unique from all other people. Learn to love yourself and only make changes if you see for yourself that they need to be made. Never change for anyone else. Have the courage to move on find yourself someone who likes you for you and someone who is deserving of you and all that you have to offer.
2006-08-01 11:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he doesn't want to let go of you completely and he doesn't want you to stop thinking about him but you've both hurt eachother pretty bad so it is best to leave eachother alone and let some time go by. You really need to try and be strong and tell him that he needs to leave you alone. Stay busy and hang out with your friends to help keep your mind off of him. Its not doing you any good by letting him stress you out.
2006-08-01 11:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by JanLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save more pain and move on..i know its hard my ex was also seeing another girl and it made me so sick to my stomach it sucked and hurt...u should start focusing on getting over him bcuz i did and feel so much better...yes it does take awhile..day at a time...its been 3 months and i still think about him everyday but im WAY better then i was 3 months ago..im not crying anymore and i really dont care that hes banging this blonde disgusting girl that has a flat face
2006-08-01 10:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first it takes two to make something work or go down the drain. you know two sides to everything. he's the one that decided to cheat not you. you did the right thing by getting rid of him. you are no confused.the devil(satan) is just messing with your head. somewhere in the bible it says a womans value is worth more than rubies. keep telling yourself you dont like him, ignore him. and before you know it. youll be over him. guys like that are just to lazy to wait for class and are so hesitant to go for trash.
2006-08-01 10:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by applejack80@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This equal factor occurred to me buh we had three years off and on.. buh i nonetheless speak to him as a pal and he is aware of whilst i've a boyfriend an all and generally he will get jealouss buh i simply transfer on with my lifee i nonetheless consider approximately him generally buh i simply attempt to restrict it you will have to do the equal simply uncover any one neww.
2016-08-28 14:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change yourself for a guy, just not right (unless it's a bad habit or whatever). Get over him and don't regret anything. Good luck to you.
2006-08-01 10:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to "fix" you personality to get someone to like you. You are who you are. If he doesn't respect that then you don't need him. If he choose the other girl then leave it at that and quit beating yourself up over him.
2006-08-01 10:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by jesfow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard because you have to think of it as giving up 5 yrs. which could have been spent with someone else. What you really need to do is to find someone that will appreciate you and respect your wishes......Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-08-01 10:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by thicksauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋