i said i was cheating on devin with jordan, but i had been going with devin longer and devin pops the question and i say yes. so i dump jordan and he finds out and says " i never loved you anyway"
but i know he does i don't think i can go through with the wedding, because truth is i still love jordan more than anyone or more than almost anything. devin can help me out because he has enough money to put me through school jordans broke and so am i . they are both good men but i'd be happy with either 1 of them i can't have both which one should i choose help me!!!!
2006-08-01 10:19:46 · 30 answers · asked by cutie pie!!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok all i have to say is fallow you heart don't go on this and ask what to do yor heart has the answer. ok and i know you love them both so picture your life with both of them and see witch you like better and most of all fallow your heart and i know you know what you have to do pick the one you love more! :) ok so yeah think this over change the day of the wedding if you have to just think it over for you and the two men!
2006-08-01 10:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 4⤋
sounds like you already know the answer. Don't marry devin because he has money or just because he asked. If you were cheating on him in the first place you guys obviously don't have the best relationship. Jordan probably said he never loved you because he was hurt.. but don't expect him to come bouncing back either. If you love jordan be with jordan, if you love devin marry devin.
2006-08-01 17:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't deserve either one! How do you plan to build a marriage based on lies??? I once heard this and I thought it was a great way to look at this because my ex husband was a cheater and big lier. Lets say you and him are building a house on sand. The first thing you need is a firm foundation, right? Well lets say your relationship is the foundation and whenever you lie to him a piece of the foundation goes away. You may think that the house is doing well but in reality because of the missing pieces in the foundation you house is sinking because of all the lies.But anyways It doesn't even sound like your ready for marriage. All you see is dollar signs. You need to maybe call off your wedding and take a break and figure out what it is you like. And you really need to stop the cheating. If I was either one of thoughs guys and knew you were cheating I wouldn't take you back nor marry you. Because I'm sure there are many women out there, like me that don't cheat and will treat a man right just like how I expect to get treated as well.
2006-08-01 17:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is improve the gene pool by breaking up with both men and joining a convent. Not only will both Jordan and Devin be far better off but society will benefit too.
2006-08-01 17:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly... you don't deserve Devin and Jordan already said that he "didn't love you anyway". Call it off and move on with you life but next time..... if you're not happy in a relationship and are thinking about cheating then leave before you cheat b/c it's obviously not working at that point
2006-08-01 17:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by jesfow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE get another boyfriend (ONE ONLY), because you don't deserve Jordan or Devin!!!! Jordan will move on anyway so don't worry about him (not that you did, because then you wouldn't have gone out with him in the first place). A way better decision is to choose between no one....because you are the cheater in this situation it seems. And besides, Devin might hold it against you in the future.
2006-08-01 17:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Moonfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what a GUY would do: Marry Devin for the dough; use Jordan as your boy toy; get a good education; then dump both the losers.
2006-08-01 17:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, "Do you only want Jordan b/c now you can;t have him?" if so, then you are not in love w/ him, you are in love w/ the chase. You should not marry Devin b/c it sounds like you don't love him enough, and you should distance yourself from Jordan to find out if its the man you want, or just the chase to get the man. it's only fair to both of them for you to know for sure which you would want to be w/ and stop flip-flopping between the two.
2006-08-01 17:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by mcmillae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you need some alone time to figure out what you want. Personally I don't think you're ready to marry either one of them at this point in time. And does Devin know you cheated on him? Because you need to tell him. And don't marry for money that will only lead to divorce.
2006-08-01 17:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by italian_swim_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose the one your heart really wants.which sounds like jordan.or marry devin for his money and have an affair with jordan.
2006-08-01 17:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating u shouldnt have done. but dont ever go for money thinkin it will bring you happiness cause it will not. y be unhappy w/ the person you are with just to be happy about something that is just a material. go with your heart. go with the one you truly love. you wanna be happy dont you. you can always work hard to achieve material things but you can never change being happy or unhappy with the person you choose. i hope you make the right choice.
2006-08-01 17:38:39 · answer #11 · answered by mandy l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋