He was my good friend b4 we dated and now that we have dated we have broken up a lot and ended up getting back together but i know i cant keep doing this to myself....it hurts and everytime i try and get away from him he txt messages me nonstop and its even harder i shouldn't have to change my number because of him I know he doesn't care about me so I don't know why he just doesn't let it be?
2006-08-01 10:10:58 · 10 answers · asked by Ashley A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I lived with my ex girlfriend for 3 years 10 months, which was 2 months shorter than our relationship. When two people are together for a long period of time, they can begin to meld into one person (I know that sounds wierd, but bear with me). We become attached and intertwined with one another and often become co-dependant, that is feel like we can't function without the other individual. That is why complete seperation is preferrable after a long relationship. We need to remember how to function and live with ourselves again... Which can be annoying, frustrating, and sometimes... damn near impossible, depending on the person. I think that if he is continuing to try to establish a relationship with you than perhaps he has an insecurity that he's not dealing with in a healthy way. He obviously doesn't understand where you're coming from because the message doesn't seem to be communicated to him in a way he can comprehend... Sometimes, they never do. I dated a girl once and when *she* broke up with me, I was able to see myself as myself again. When she started calling all the time and continued to tell me she loved me, I would just say *I know, but that will change in time*. It was a hard thing to say, but it was how I felt. I gues the bottom line is that it ISN'T easy. One thing I think you need to ask yourself is: Are you doing anything to give him false hope? I know that most people would immediately say "NO", but what we perceive as one thing, can be looked at differently by another. If he's texting you and you're answering, he might see that as *hope*. I know you probably don't want to ignore him, so what I might do is let him know how you feel (which you've probably done countless times, by the sound of it) and don't respond to him for awhile. There has to be a firm cutoff at some point, otherwise he won't get the message. Finally, let me give you advice that I found for myself: People aren't alone, they feel lonely. There is a HUGE difference.
2006-08-01 10:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Nismobug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-01 10:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-01 10:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, maybe he does care, but I don't know the details so...
Anyway, just let him know that you don't want to be with him any more, but you two can still be friends; but only call him once in a blue moon. Hang out with other single people who are enjoying life being single.
2006-08-01 10:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him about this.
Tell him that you don't want to date him and ask him to stop texting you so much.
No, you shouldn't have to change your number because of him.
It sounds like HE is the one with the problem. He sounds like a guy who is so insecure that he doesn't want his exgirlfriend to be happy and independent.
2006-08-01 10:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a really really tough situation here, actually I think you are the only person in the world going through something like this, this is very rare.
good luck
2006-08-01 10:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jr Thompson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't care about you then find someone you does, simple as that!!
PS. Have your number changed!!
2006-08-01 10:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stop the relationship.
obviously you can't count on him to stop contacting you.
you have to stop responding and he will quit eventually.
2006-08-01 10:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new bf
2006-08-01 10:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by mandy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think again....he may really loves you.......
2006-08-01 10:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by ati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋