my boyfriend of 2 years is leaving with his mom to new york , what should i do?

Question

me and my boyfriend live in san diego but he has to leave with his mom to new york. I don't know what to do, im really sad!

Answer 1

Spend what time you can together before he goes, then wish him well. You have to set him free - if it's "for real," he'll be back.
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Answer 2

How old are you, that makes a big difference. Also it makes a difference if he is living with you or his mother. If you are both over 20 and he is leaving with his mother then you should question why he doesn't value you to a great degree [perhaps there is a family situation that pulls him to New York or perhaps he is seeing an easy way out of your relationship]. If you are under 20 then understand that you both are in great need of parental support to live [I know people often think 18 is the age for this, but 20 is a safer value] and that he probably has little choice in the matter. You need to talk openly with him about it, either way. Good luck.

Answer 3

Umm that's sorta hard to answer but I'll try...

Option A: If his mom's "forcing" him to go, well then you can't change that. I usually don't advise long-distance-relationships, but you've been dating him for quite a while so ya'll probably have the stability to overcome the obstacles that are associated l-d-r's.

Option B: He's leaving on his own terms, all you can do is try and make him stay if thats what you want. But stop and think about what would be BEST for him. Does he have a job in NY? Is there something health or family related going on in NY? If you want him to be happy and he has a good reason to go, let him. I know that's not what you want to here, but if you really love him you'll let him go.

NOW it comes down to what you want and need... follow your heart. What's it telling you to do?

Answer 4

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Answer 5

See if it works out long distance and if it doesn't: Then it wasn't meant to be. I'm very sorry to hear this, I do hope it works out for you - He may dump you before he leaves or say it just won't work long distance, but if he doesn't then you can always try it long distance - it does have many disadvantages, but just see how it goes - if its not working, you'll know soon enough.

Answer 6

if hes moving there and you can't move with him

wait it out until you can move or until he gets back

remember

absence makes the heart grow fonder

my girlfriend has been gone for three weeks and the relationship has only gotten stronger it hurts knowing shes so far away but theres a sort of magic to it too

Answer 7

Well there isn't much to do I'm sorry to say that, I guess you two will just keep in touch, hey you never know long distance relationships might work out for you!

Answer 8

im guessing hes under 18 if a girl as high quality as you is dating a guy who is moving with his mom, just date other guys then go back to him once your old enough, if you break up you wont need to worry that hes cheating on you,

Answer 9

let him go, i did the same kind of thing, i left my man of 2 years to be with my mom and little sister while she was going through her divorce and i am now married, not to my ex who let me go, but a wonderful man and i'm completely happy. If you love someone let them go. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Tell him you cannot have a long distance relationship or if you really love him be pen pals and get each others phone number.