I've been doing things with this guy and he's 26..I'm 19 and like when we're together it doesnt bother me, when I'm around him it doesn't bother me and when I talk to him it doesn't bother me--but when I talk to my friends about it..it really bothers me--they dont say anything bad about it..its all me--How do I fix it??
2006-08-01 09:52:07 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dated my husband when I was 18 and he was 25 it did not bother me we had a lot in common so much that a week before turning 19 I married him in 1988 and still married with 2 kids one is 16 and 5. My friends were bothered by it to but I was the one living with him if it's serious then tell them . Some young men are hard to deal with cause of the fact that they need to grow up and at times we get tired of waiting.good luck
2006-08-01 10:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is all you then it is guilt because you know that the age difference is a problem. At your age it is really difficult because you are an adult and 7 years is not a huge difference for people in their 40's. The problem lies in that your 19 and there is so much life to explore and experience between 19 and 27. Deep down you know that if your going to have and share those experiences with your friends then your relationship with this 27 year old isn't going to last. Ultimately what you have to do is decide if those experiences are worth giving up to be with this guy or if you should give up the guy.
2006-08-01 09:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that it doesnt bother you when it matters (ie when your with him), it is only an issue when you are talking to your friends about it - and it doesnt seem to bother them either. If you are happy with this guy then just get used to it - your friends seemed to have accepted it and if they havent its not them who is with the guy in the first place. Ultimately its between you and your man and if anyone else has an issue then that is their problem not yours, but from what you say your friends don't care about it anyway. Accept that they aren't bothered and forget about it. Why tell the man when there is no issue between the 2 of you? It could well cause unneccesary trouble. No point causing an issue when there isnt one. Good luck
2006-08-01 09:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by LifeChange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes we choose age as a reason not to be with someone because its easy. People will accept it and not question you.
Take it from a woman who is seeing a man who is 6 years younger than me. At first I too worried about what everyone else would think ... and finally it dawned on me that I really enjoyed this guys company in and out of the bedroom ... I realized that I was comfortable with him and we could talk and communicate ... nothing else has mattered since then.
Age is a number ... and as long as you are headed in the same direction with what you want in life then I say the heck with what everyone else thinks! Do you like the same kinds of things, some of the same activities, music, can you talk about what ever is on your mind. If you can ... then forget about his age and keep moving forward!!
Stay true to yourself and follow your heart. You yourself need to figure this one out ... because you are the only one with the answers!!
Good luck!!
2006-08-01 10:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live. Its that simple. If the only thing holding you back is the opinion of your friends, and by your account, they dont really have an opinion, then what gives. Go safely, be happy and live. If its over in a couple of weeks because you are bored, etc, whatever the reason, then c'est la vie. If you let something like your perception of your friends opinion of your mans age, youre gonna go crazy. Just let the relationship go where it needs to.
2006-08-01 09:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Todd P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you for a reason... you may want to quit seeing him for awhile and see how that bothers you, and if it bothers you. I know your friends haven't said anything, but maybe you are embarrassed by him and his age and you just don't see it until you are with and talking with your friends. you know, age is only a #. And 26 is still very young and sexy..... I hope you get over your issue... whatever it is. Good luck....
2006-08-01 09:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you fix it by asking yourself why are you with this guy if his age bothers you so much.... Do you love him? Do you care about him? Do you see yourself with him in the future... 5 years... 10 years from now.. if the answer is yes than start looking at the great possibilities and less of his age. If you don't see yourself with him let him know and move on.
2006-08-01 09:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girlfriend of mine is dating a 33yr old. She's 18... When they are together you would never know. Do whatever makes you feel good, if you don't feel comfortable, then don't date the guy. I think you are putting too much strain on a number. Try dating some 19yr olds for a while and you'll be begging for your 26yr old to come back. Trust me!
2006-08-01 09:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is with your friends and not his age. Maybe you care too much about what your friends will think of you? When I was 20 I dated a guy that was 27. Its really not a big deal.
2006-08-01 09:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're more afraid of what you think you're friends will think, or something like that. If they are really their friends, they will support you as long as they think the relationship is healthy and making you happy. It won't be a big deal when he's 37 and you 30 trust me.
2006-08-01 09:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by CrashCondon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋