how do i correct my 12 month old?

Question

my son recently "forgot" what the word "no" means. he used to listen and would stop the action if we said "no!" firmly...now..forget about it. i tried popping his hand when he would get into stuff, but if i did that everytime, i would pop his hand 1000 times a day and i don't want to do that. i've tried telling him "no" and showing him what he is allowed to play with, but he goes back to the computer keyboard (for example)...i've put most everything up out of his reach...but somethings you can't...also he hits me and whoeverelse is holdin him in the face...how do i stop this behavior?

ok i didn't mean my son "forgot" the word, no..i was simply being humerous or trying to. also, my son has plenty of stimulation and plenty of loving attention from me and other family members.

Answer 1

The truth is you need to count to three before you discipline him. If he hits you, say "OUCH" just like you would if anyone else hit you. And say, "That hurt!" Then get down on your knees, look him in the eye and say, "You hit me, and that hurt."

If he attempts to take something that he should not have say, "One". Tell him, if you continue to touch things that are not yours you will be punished. If he continues to reach for it or touch it, say, "TWO". If he still continues say "THREE". and always, always discipline him at three. If you are consistent he will learn that you mean business. Then all you will have to do is start the counting process and he will stop because he knows "THREE MEANS DISCIPLINE". You will find that you count alot at first but eventually he will look at you for pre-approval to touch things that he has questions about. You can say no-no too.

Answer 2

I totally feel you.... Dont listen to people judge you for hitting his hand, its a reaction and not only does your kid learn from it, so do you, right? You said you would pop his hand and now your saying your having a problem with him hitting. He learned that was ok because thats what mom does. I dont think He "forgot" the word no, he's just testing your limits.I have a 2 year old son... I couldnt believe how much different my son acts when Im not around, but as soon as I get around, he is into everything, doing anything that will make me frustrated, whining constantly and he knows what he can and cant do! I really dont understand why kids do this, all I know is that its a test of boundaries for them, they know what your capable of and he probably already knows that if he does "X", you'll do "Y". Anyways, I have been trying the "time out" thing and for the most part, it works!If I want him to pick up his toys and he doesnt want to, I just ask him if he wants to go to bed or timeout and he doesnt so, slowly but surely, those toys get picked up!

Answer 3

I've got an 18 month old who also doesn't understand NO.

We try waving a finger to visually back up the cross tone and the word NO. This seems to help a bit but for the most part he's testing you.

Popping his hand also doesn't work - you'll find him doing it back to you or other children. - though I'd condone it for dangerous things - like stay away from the hot iron etc.

I recommend getting a Baby Dan baby den - section off the areas you don't want him to get to but try to offer stimualtion too so he's not trapped alone behind the gate.

Failing that, do what most parents of young boys do - fit lots more high shelves!!!!

Good luck!

Answer 4

Hey there :)

Isn't it annoying when you ask a question and everyone condems you for your behaviour on trying to correct it yourself! ;) ... In any event, no worries! After reading some other answers, I'll say, don't ever give a time out to a 12 month old, they won't understand. Their attention span lasts no more than your trip to said time out spot. Speak clearly and directly, Telling him "no", you can tell him "the keyboard is for Mommy" and re-direct. He's gonna go back, absolutely - but you just need to be consistant. As for him hitting you, you don't need to pretend to be happy about this just because he's a baby. You can hold his hands and tell him "no hitting, that hurts" ... You don't want to be screaming at a baby, but yes you can be a little firm. He hurt you, and you want to instill in him that he shouldn't be hitting. He's gonna hit you again though, like I said, it's just about consistancy. Redirect him to areas where he can play and engage him in his toys. Always be on your baby's level, try not to always pick up the child every time you want to talk to them either. They are not an object (just a lil extra)...

Anyways, good luck! Be consistant! :)

Answer 5

Unfortunately while you were poping his hand, you were teaching him how to hit. He is exploring his world and testing his own body and the world around him. Create a area that is safe for him to explore and block off areas that are dangerous. My friend taught her little girl the word "danger". Say things like hot, sharp, danger, hurt, and cold when he gets close to areas that are not appropriate for him, and move him away from these things, he will learn new vocabulary and at the same time you are giving him reasons not to touch something. This way he is hearing something other than no. When he does hit something hot or sharp say that word a few times reinforcing the term.

Answer 6

Your child is naturally curious, so he is seeing what he can and can not do, as well as what you will do.

My son is almost a year old and has started to ignore "NO" as well. My son LOVES my keyboard (but I have found every child does). He probably sees you on it and wonders well why can I not do this. You can buy him a play keyboard (music one) and give that to him and say this one is yours (then point to your keyboard) and say this one is Mommy's/Daddy's.

Just be patient. Hitting his hand is teaching him it's ok to hit and that is probably why he hits when he does. He has learned that when he is doing something you do not like you hit his hand, so in return he is hitting because you or someone else is doing something he does not like.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

My baby, too, is 12 months old and doesn't know what "No" means. Sounds like you need to baby proof your home a little better as a "pop on the hand" isn't going to do it especially when your baby doesn't understand. It's not that your baby forgot, he doesn't understand. He's only 12 months. How much do you feel that you remembered at 12 months of age??? Geesh!

Answer 9

I am mother also, and I am also in nursing school, which requires me to take child psych. My first suggestion would be to always get on the child's level; meaning, never talk down on your child, also get eye level with your child with a firm, but not loud, tone in your voice. Correct your child and try to redirect the child in something else. Also, try having fun things for your child by the computer, so the child may be directed to play with them instead of the computer keyboard. Good Luck!!

Answer 10

He is a baby but he does need to learn boundries, put him on time out in his playpen or crib and let him cry for a little bit when he does that. It is never to early to teach them boundries. I think slapping his hand is ok too that is what is wrong with the world today everyone thinks that everytime you slap your kid it may be the lightest slap in the world but everyone thinks its abuse for god sakes don't say that unless you are a parent!! If you don't know what it is like to be a parent don't answer parenting questions.