I suck at talking to people...esspecially people i don't know..i know communication is VERY important but when i talk to people i tend to say a few quick words and just smile and try to end the convo. i want to socialize and so many people try talking to me but i neither act bored or end it quickly...that's a big problem for me. What should I do? I see people that have really good communication skills and i know it gets them places...and also i don't want people to misunderstand me because I feel like they're thinking something else...I don't know..what should i do? i can only talk adn carry on a converstation with few people..but it just doesn't come out naturally! My ex and i also broke up because of this...i'm 18 by the way...
2006-08-01 09:47:21 · 7 answers · asked by Ashley! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
I would say that you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. People of today's world can be very scary and at times, I too have trouble with conversations. Just remember no one is perfect. Take your time and with a little bit of confidence in yourself I think that you will be fine. As for ...for your ex though......I think he made a big mistake because he didn't give you the chance or work with you on it. If he is like that then it's better that he's not there anyways. You are doing something about it by taking the first step and asking what to do and to me that it a terrific start. Take care and the best of luck.
2006-08-02 06:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by bad boy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You had no problem communicating this, did you? It must be shyness when you're face to face with people, and that is very difficult, especially when they think you're being anti-social and you're not. Could you try to be a good listener rather than a talker? Let the other person do the work! You could say things like: 'Tell me about your holiday/the film you went to see/ your new pet' - whatever! Then relax and listen. If you hear an interesting detail remember it, and if there's a pause, ask a question about it -e.g. 'So what did you do when you saw the shark?' People love a good listener! Good luck!
2006-08-01 10:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sumtimes u just have to open up... kinda how u did now. u didn't seem to have much of a problem tellin us that u 'suck at communicating' rite? maybe u lose ur nerve wen u get in front of ppl. n if u have a problem talkin at first, u should try n listen to the person very well cuz communicating goes both ways... u have to be able to listen to the other person to carry a good convo, u kno. n a lot of the time wen u act interested, u really do become interested... so maybe u should try being more enthusiastic during a convo... hope this helps!!
2006-08-01 11:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by da1deyluv2hate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem! Im really shy when Im face to face w/ppl. I move a lot and I stay in touch w/ my freinds via e-mail or IM and I think they know more about me now than they would have if I was with them there. I even talked to the guy who likes me and who I like too on IM, and I could have never done it face to face. dont see a psychiatrist for this!! thats just silly, lots of ppl are shy just like u and me but I think we both should take "mad"'s advise and try to be good listeners!
hope I helped
2006-08-01 12:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by mrsmoan92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 11:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are taking medication these days for extreme shyness. It is safe and helps a lot. Talk to your doctor and have her refer you to a psychiatrist.
2006-08-01 10:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by starcow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like ur fishing...try online dating, not yahoo answers
2006-08-01 21:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋