I really like this guy, and he said he kinda likes me but doesnt want a proper relationship. I really want him, he's asked me to sleep with him before and i said no, now i've changed my mind, but i'm not sure what to do or how to tell him. I cant get him out of my head. What should i do?
(Serious answers please)
2006-08-01 09:43:46 · 17 answers · asked by Baby Angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are both virgins too, if that makes any difference to the situation.
2006-08-01 09:55:53 · update #1
Go for it girl! But if he asked you if you wanted a shag then thats all he prob wants, is this what you want? You may end up feeling much worse in the end, more hurt. But you do only live once, do what you feels right, you can only have regrets, as long as you don't have a problem with living with regrets. Just don't want you to get hurt, just another name to add to his list of girls he's done
;-)
2006-08-01 09:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ha! that's funny I've just been in the same situation, but decided to sleep with him first. I recently had an encounter with him, but decided not to sleep with him (knowing now that it is def, def not going any where). I can't say that I feel any better for it at all. I still cried when he left and feel just as rejected if not more so, than when I did sleep with him.
My friends were all like NO! don't sleep with him, he'll break your heart etc. but I don't know. I liked him a lot before and I liked him a lot after. Situation doesn't really change. Although with the sex you get good memories!
If I was you, I wouldn't push it either way. The last thing you want is to look desperate or prudish. See how you feel when you next meet and take it from there.
Totally understand if you don't take my advice as I think its quite clear that I have made some not so great decisions myself!
2006-08-01 16:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want really. Personally I think you'd probably enjoy your first time far more if you were with someone you loved and who loved you, but that decision is yours to make.
Just make sure that by sleeping with him you're not actually just trying to make him see how great you are and reconsider about having a relationship with you. It won't work that way - he means it when he says he just wants a casual thing and you won't change his mind on that by having sex with him.
So long as you realise that you could end up hurt if you're not careful, then honesty is probably the best policy if you want to tell him something. Just be careful, and be safe.
Good luck.
2006-08-01 17:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it...if he doesn't want a proper relationship with you then he isn't worth your time. Even if you have really changed your mind you better rethink this because what is going to happen is he will sleep with you and then toss you aside. Are you really willing to give your self to a man just to have sex without any hope for a relationship? If you are then just call him up and tell him your feeling really horney and need his help, other wise just forget him and find a real man who is looking for more from you than just sex.
2006-08-01 16:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, don't sleep with him. All that he said just means that he wants to get some and that's it. keep your dignity child. I know you may think that you reeeeeeeeeeealy want him, but it'll go away in time. Trust me, once you sleep with him he'll think of you as crap. It's not worth it. What if he gets you pregnant or gives you an STD? What will you do then?
2006-08-01 16:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Fefe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never EVER sleep with a guy that you are not dating, you know in the back of your head the only reason your going to sleep with him is becuase you think it will enhance the chances of him wanting to date you. well if he dosent want to date you, then he dosent deserve to have sex with you. make him want it, play hard to get. a sure thing that always works is hang out with him ALOT! then disappear he will miss you, and come crawling back...dont tell him then he knows he has you and your under his power, let him keep guessing. you are a precious girl, dont elt anyone take your dignity away
2006-08-01 16:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ale[x]andra Aristocrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't suggest entering a relationship for sex alone.
He already stated that he isn't looking for a relationship anyway, just sex.
If you think after having a sexual interaction with him you may be able to develop a relationship, I'd also like to strongly disagree with that.
He is not worth your troubles.
Find someone that deserves your love, someone that is worthy of you.
There is somebody out there for everyone, give yourself a chance.
He is looking for you as much as you are looking for him.
I hope my advice helped.
Take care!
2006-08-01 16:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by flod_prfekshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do that you are opening yourself up for alot of hurt... If that is all he wants then you should move on and find someone that will care about you as much as you care about them.... If he came out and just asked you that he sounds like a real punk...... you can do better....... he needs to learn how to treat girls with respect.... good luck sweetie......
2006-08-01 16:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him ask him what's going on it seems like he just likes you for your looks because all he wants to do is sleep with you
2006-08-01 16:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by laurennn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sleep with although it sounds like you are very tempted. he will only think less of you in the end and think that he can use you any time he wants casual sex with no strings.
you are better than that.
2006-08-01 16:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by cross_sox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋