im 14 and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him..should i?

Question

okay so he is 15 and we've been going out for 9 weeks and 4 days. He cheated on me 4 days after we started going out and i told him that i forgave him..which i did..dont ask why either because thats a long story..so anyway..i have a a strong belief in my religion..im Catholic..which also means i believe in chastity..(Not having sexual intercourse until your married)..but lately ive kind of been reconsidering it.. i really dont want to have sex and i REALLY need some support on how to tell him im not ready..he does the usual guy answer of "were gonna be together forever"..yeah sure we are..WERE ONLY 14 SMART ONE..so yeah please help i need some stuff i can say to him and yall's advice on what to do..Thanks

Answer 1

first off - stand up for yourself! if he loves you he'll wait...im 23 & my bf has waited a yr & he's willing to wait untill we are married b/c he respects me. his previous gf cheated on him & he would rather wait to be with a girl like me then be able to get it from a slutty girl like her. but on to the cheated part... he cheated on you & you have been able to forgive him - that doesn't mean you have to forget (espec. when it comes to the sex - remember u will sleep with every person he has & every person his partner has & every partner they've had...) & he should be on his knees grateful that you took his trashy butt back & if it means he's gotta wait till the cows come home - then that's what it means. if he can't respect the fact that you respect yourself then he's not worth your time. besides - i know u don't want to be told by a stranger you're still a child... but girl - trust me you've got plenty of time to find the right person.
i hope u do what's right for you
from 1girl2another...bekah

Answer 2

First question: Do you WANT to? If not, then obviously no.

Second question: Do you think he could handle the various
complications if something went wrong (a condom broke,
you gave him an STD ... all of the other things that are unlikely
but possible if you have sex responsibly). If not, then obviously
no.

Third question: Are YOU prepared for what might happen
if a condom broke or he gave you an STD? If not, then
obviously no.

Final question: Do you think you will be able to live with yourself
if he has sex with you and then simply forgets about you.
If you are not strong enough to deal with him if he pulls
something like that, then you should probably wait a few more
years.

It does happen, and people would be silly to deny that it
doesn't.

Finally, if there is any doubt left in your mind - WAIT. If you
lose him because of it, it wasn't likely to be a meaningful
relationship anyways.

Answer 3

Okay imagine this. You give and have sex with this boy. 3 months down the line you find out your pregnant. At 14 no less. Then you tell him you are pregnant. He demands that you get an abortion you refuse. He leave you and your stuck pregnant. When your 6 months pregnant you see him with another girl. Your very hurt by this. You go home and cry in your bed imagining him having sex with the other girl. That drives you crazy. Moving ahead. You finally have your baby. When you take the baby to see him he denies being the babies father. Next thing you know you can't go out with your friends because you have to take care of his baby that wakes you up all hours of the night to be fed, changed, burped, etc... Your friends begin to quit dropping by one by one. The next thing you know you are truly alone with very little friends if any at all and a baby. Is this how you want the rest of your teenage years to be. Because if you do have sex with him this is more than likely going to happen. Plus he won't want to use protection and he will try to con you into letting him do it with no condom. He'll claim it takes away the feeling. Now he may not want to stay with you because you won't have sex with him. But that is a blessing because you will not end up being this story. Plus you won't have parents that are mad at you for giving in to some kid. Keep this in your mind whenever he wants you to have sex. It's not worth it.

Answer 4

boys will want to have sex with you it's their nature. But you need to ask yourself if your ready. My boyfriend of a little over two years and i have never had sex and we are so happy. Of course it has come up but you dont need to cheat yourself out of sharing intercourse with that one special person that will mean the world to you one day. I really and trully think fourteen is too young to even be thinking about sex. God says your body is a temple and it is a sin to destroy it. I think starting this young would be like throwing a grenade in. Dont do it unless your ready. Have you tried anything else? If you need to talk then email me at [e-mail]. I hope this helps you.

Answer 5

Are you ready to potentially be a parent? Is he? How about possibly contracting a disease? Don't mean to be so grim, but the others are right, if you've gotta ask then you're not ready.
Believe me, 10 years from now you'll have the happy memory of standing up for yourself, respecting yourself and not being pressured into doing something you weren't quite ready for.
Stand your ground, chickie. Grrlz rule.

Answer 6

No. You should wait until you get married. Don't you know that today in this world we live in there are very few women who wait until they are married to have sex. I'm telling you this so that you won't make the same mistake I did. Besides you are too young to be having sex. Your boyfriend should be pressuring you to have sex. That should be your decision to make.

Answer 7

I am not gonna give you the abstinence speech (even though it is the best choice), but 14 is a little young, don't rush into adulthood, cuz that is what you are doing. You should listen to Lyfe Jennings' new song S-E-X

Answer 8

Of course your boyfriend wants to have sex with you!!!! But, if you are even asking this question it signifies that you are not ready. Wait until you really love a guy. You'll be happy you did.

Answer 9

No, don't I know to many kids that have made that mistake. Thinking 'oh it can't happen to me, I'm wearing a condom, I'm on the pill' what ever, it is a foolish thing to do. There's pleanty of time to do it in the future, just wait. You won't regret waiting.

Answer 10

At your age if everyone says "don´t do it" you will do it anyway just because... so i have to say " Do it". Sex is the only thing to think and to do, that´s why everybody have sex. So go on and fulfill what others tells you to do.