My 13 yo daughter is a C cup. I worry about her breasts health and guys staring at her boobs, so got her bras with full coverage and support. She doesnt like them but though I'm a soft and understanding mom on this point I used my authority. Out of her bra types one gives the most support and has to be worn at least 4 days a week and she can't spend 2 consecutive days without wearing it. The other days she can pick one of the other types,which also give full coverage and good support. She hates this bra rule. One reason is it makes her wear the bra with most support at least 1 day on weekends preventing her from wearing shirts w/ thin straps. This bra is at http://www.anita.com/de/en/0,1,0,0,39236__products-detail.htm?brand=147&ovs_ber_wgr=104&ovs_ber_fgr=1478&ovs_ber_cup=C... It has 4 hooks in the back She says its not the bra for a 13 yo but I dont agree, it's really good. All I want is her best. She complains but obeys (very unwillingly its true),shes a sweetie. Am I overprotective?
2006-08-01 09:03:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should teach her to be responsible for herself and to think for herself. Teach her to be smart, and suspicious of peoples true intentions. Teach her the difference between positive attention, and negative attention. This will keep her out of more trouble than imposing ridiculous and embarrassing bra rules. She will think you are stupid, unreasonable, and unfair and loose trust for your judgment, and turn to her friends for advice. Your lying to yourself if you think "support" is why she should wear that god awful thing. Poor girl, being a teen is awkward enough. If your afraid of her having sex, attracting perverts etc. then you need to educate her about perverts, negative attention, horny boys, boys lies, STD's, emotional consequences, pregnancy, etc. That way she will do whats right when your not around, otherwise she will have no respect for you and do whats wrong first chance she gets, if not now then in college. You asked the question, now its time to ACCEPT the answer. Give her a chance to be good on her own, let her know that you are putting your trust in her and that if she blows it, its her fault. Bottom line, give her a break!
2006-08-04 17:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Give the girl a break! I looked at the bra and I can understand why she is upset. FIRST she is only 13 and has to deal with breasts, that alone is a lot of guff from her peers and to add to that you give her a bra that is noticeably different from the bras her friends are wearing--you should let her have some decision of what she wears. Teach her to be modest, but let her have a little style and keep that bra for weekends. There are probably bras with the same support that are a little more for young ladies. You don't have to let her be slutty or anything just let her be a kid GEEEEEEEEEZ
2006-08-01 09:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystell L. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are over-protective. I have never heard of anyone enforcing a 'bra rule' like you have. Let the girl wear a GIRL'S bra...not some old lady's bra. They make bras for girls that are supportive but not old ladyish. I could see some jerks in her middle school making fun of the four hooks in the back.
Girls these days have bigger boobs...she is not going to be the only 13 year old with C cups.
2006-08-01 09:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by brains 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That poor girl. She can be modest without having to wear a bra for an old lady. Yes, you are being over protective. Get rid of that old lady bra, unless you want it... let her wear something modest be age appropriate.
You have her wearing a bra my grandma would wear. If you don't want her wearing shirts with thin straps, make that the rule.
2006-08-01 10:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, your being overprotective. i can understand that she needs to wear a bra, but thats not going to keep boys from looking at her. besides, your job as a mother is to teach her to be a adult. you chould give her the freedom to choose her own underwear! besides, if she hates it so much, she'll just end up hating u for making her wear the damn thing. if you want her to wear a bra, at least let her choose it, she'll like it more, and keep it on. what are u going to do when she's 18, and she can make her own choices?
2006-08-01 09:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you trying to get her a bra? or attempt to reverse her growing process? which won't work how much you try. i also bloomed at an early age, and my mom tried to bind my chest [like they did in the old days]. but i still grew. and it will hurt her self esteem more later if you continue to make her feel uncomfortable about her chest. instead, you should comfort her and let her know that girls develop at different ages in different ways. you should let her know that she has you to come to if she doesn't feel comfortable. instead, you're sending her the message that there is something to be ashamed of. are you overprotective? no. but you are being foolish and not doing the best for your daughter.
2006-08-01 09:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by sweeternity2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already asked this and I already answered it once. I'm starting to think you are a bit psycho lady. Let your daughter be a kid and stop making her wear uncomfortable bras because you are a freak!
2006-08-01 09:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are wack because it doesn't matter how many bra rules you give her. her boobs will still grow you can't make them stop. SO STOP GIVING HER A BRA RULE you are not doing anything just let her go.
2006-08-01 09:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by sweet heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y r u asking this again?...y?....we already answered this...go back and read r answers...stop being so desperate and STOP trying to make a big BIG deal abt this
2006-08-01 09:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by chaand5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you already ask this question?
2006-08-01 09:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋