what do i do about my pregnant girlfriend?

Question

okay my girlfriend is pregnant and she is about 6 months well last night i told her to give the baby up for adobtion because im not ready to be a father and i want to go into the mariens well she told me and she was not going to and that i should have said something earlier and i should be supporting her not giving her a hard time right now well im not ready to be a father and i think we should so i can have a life in the marines what do i to convice my girlfriend to or do you think it's wrong that i am even mentioning it to her because she was crying last night about it i don't know what to do im just so mad at her she wont do what i want her to do what do i do? and trust me i am thinking about me and her i do love her and i want us to have good lives and she can not give me one good reason why she wants to keep with baby all she says is it is hard to explain and that she is attached i dont see how that baby is not here yet she is being so selfish towards me

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you are the one being selfish. Your girlfriend has made her decision.

If you really want no part in it's life, accept that you will have to give up your girlfriend, join the marines and sign off all parental rights after the child is born.

Next time, keep your pants on.

Answer 2

She is NOT being selfish toward you, YOU are being selfish. You cannot possibly understand what its like to have a small human growing and thriving within your body. Knowing it is YOUR child. If you werent ready to be a father you should have discussed birth control BEFORE having sex. Hers or you useing condoms. But its too late for that now. You can still have a good life with a child. You can still go into the marines. It will be hard at first but stick it out. Plus if you go into the marines and retire from there your family will be set finacially and youll still be young enough to
get a job when you get out. Dont press her to put the baby up either deal with it (nicely) or leave but dont be shocked if she has any sense shell nail you to the wall for support!

Answer 3

Well, what she needs right now is a lot of love she is probably scared and confused. Well I think you need to put the baby up for adoption. So she won't be alone raising a baby. And when she get's married she will have the chance to start over . and her husband wont have to deal with a step child. Because your baby was i'm guessing an accident. And she will feel better knowing her baby has a good home with a mother and a father. I know someone who can't have babies so she have to adopt an infant. So it is a good thing Just don't leave your girlfriend. that happens a lot. Hope I helped.

Answer 4

I doubt you were thinking about the Marines when you were in the sack creating that baby 6 months ago. Why is it so important to you now. Or, is it a honorable sounding reason to abandon your girlfriend and your baby?
This baby has been growing inside her for 6 months. She's felt it move. She's seen the ultrasounds. She's planned for its future, from what it will look when born, to where to send him to college, or envisioning her wedding. To her, this baby is (and truly is) a real person.
You need to do some serious growing up, not by going into the Marines, but by standing up and accepting responsibility for your child. You don't want to marry her, fine - no need to compound one mistake (unprotected sex) with another, getting married.
But, make no mistake, you are responsible for providing for this child financially for the next 18-21 years. So, get yourself a good job, and plan on being a part of this child's life - being a parent.

Answer 5

Go join the Marines. seriously. Tell her you are going to do it and go. Sign up now, before the baby is born. When you get out of boot and A school you will have a good career and a future for all of you. Tell her you want the best for everyone and this is the only way you see that you can provide for the family. don't push her to give the baby up. If she wants to keep the baby keep the baby, just make sure you can support them. If she can't support your decision to join then go anyway...when she sees that you can be a military man and parent she will come around.

Answer 6

Don't you think that you should have thought about your future BEFORE you were having sex??? Six months into the pregnancy is REALLY late to change your mind about being a father.

Your girlfriend has your baby growing inside of her - she loves you - you say that you love her. So, she probably has been fantasizing for around 4 months about how the baby will look, what songs she is going to sing for it, how the baby's room will look, etc. She probably sees the baby as a result of your love, or a manifestation of your love. Now you are telling her to get rid of it.

Sorry - I cannot have any sympathy for you. You seem to be an immature person who is only worried about his own life and getting to do what he wants to do - regardless of the affect it would have on anyone else.

Hopefully, she will leave you, keep the baby, and raise it in a wonderful single parent environment. I hope that you show up for all of your court dates and keep a job so that you can pay child support. UGH! Men like you make me sick!

Answer 7

You are being selfish how insensitive.You should have mentioned it right when you found out not now there is a huge connection at 6 months along that baby is apart of her and growing inside of her it is an amazing thing. If she does do it or not which I hope she keeps it I know she will leave you that is horrible you want to give away your own flesh and blood poor girl I can only imagine how she feels right now having you totally abandon her right now when she needs you the most wow that is bad. Good luck dude

Answer 8

If you are going into the military, they will make you pay child support no matter what. Since you don't want to be in the child's life, you can give up your parental rights. If she wants to keep the baby, you should respect her wishes and deal with it especially if you love her. It's not right to make her do something she doesn't want to and it's equally not right to make the child suffer because of it. Regardless of what you think, a baby won't prohibit you from having a life in the marines. It may even be benefical and your child may grow up wanting to be like it's dad. Try thinking of it that way.

Answer 9

If you are old enough to have sex, then you are old enough to take responsibility for your actions. As a mother you do become attached to your child before it is ever born. You should have considered all possible outcomes before you had sex. Now, you and your girlfriend should both sit down and weigh out the good and the bad of the situation. The child needs to be your biggest concern. Consider things such as can you provide it with a home, food, healthcare, etc. . . These are the basics, and if you cannot, then it is probably in the childs best interest to be given up for adoption.

Answer 10

Cut your balls off with a pair of rusty scissors so you can never procreate again you worthless bastard. I don't know whats worse that your so selfish about your future career as a bullet sponge(Marine learn how to spell it before you choose it as a career) or that you're such a ignorant A** for not understanding why she would be upset about this and unwilling to comply. I hope you do become a "marien" get deployed to Iraq and find a I.E.D or sniper.