please help me; I m a gay at 19. nowadays I feel so alone,don t know what to do. no1 knows I m a gay cos my family is so conservative, n also in turkey it is much harder to tell u r gay..I dont want a relationship attached to only sex. I m looking for some1 to love n be loved. but I m so pessimistic about finding a guy , especially in my city ..( plz help me, tell me what to do ; those who mock plz don t answer.. thanks
2006-08-01 08:54:43 · 12 answers · asked by lonelyboylookingforlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wish I could move to another country..and also to be a gay is not my choice, I can t change my sexuality ( even now I m trying to be straight , trying my best , but I can t )
2006-08-01 09:06:21 · update #1
Hi sweetheart. Man, all that pressure from the religions we were brought up with and the desire to conform and not hurt anyones feelings really sucks.
If you are gay then please do not start a relationship with a female, accidently get her pregnant then bust out the closet 5 years later. If you're gay then you're gay.
Contrary to popular belief there is nothing wrong with being gay. If that's what you're attracted to then go for it.
You should start a yahoo group for men in Turkey who are gay and afraid to come out. You can connect with others in your area that are just as petrified (scared) as you are.
Have you condidered moving to the UK, or Europe where it is tolerated?
Let me know if you need to talk
Diva
2006-08-01 09:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by black_bi_diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wtf? how can anyone advise to become straight? that is so ridiculous... don't let people tell you crap like that...i can imagine it must be terribly difficult in turkey but don't let anyone mock you because of it.. i don't know it might be a bit harder to find someone for a relationship, as usually gay people are more open about everything than straight people but still i think it is possible to find a real, good, working relationship and if all else fails and you have to hide it there from family, friends or whoever maybe moving i snot the worst idea after all...i know a lot of gay guys that are in relationships.. so that can let one hope.. good luck
2006-08-01 16:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the first place i dont believe that gay or lesbians can truly find TRUE love, cos its all about one night stands, infidelity, etc etc, even if you know of a couple who are together for a long time, trust me they will either break up in no time, or they have been unfaithful, and no don't tell me i am generalising....
My advise, BE STRAIGHT, its a choice.
2006-08-01 15:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by gpetit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try one of those dating sites, or if you are willing to you can move to USA or Japan, it's much easier to find someone there. Good Luck!
2006-08-01 15:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus. Repent of your homosexual and other sins. we all have sins. Jesus can heal and mend all pain. but unrightousness can't be around God, so repentance is necessary to start this process.
true love cannot be found in gay relation. i used to be bi-s before coming to Christ. gay relations are based on sex, always have and always will.
i'll pray for you.
2006-08-01 16:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try using the gay sites your more apt to find a partner.
2006-08-01 16:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise and no offense. God did not intend us to be gay. that is why there is a man and a women. My advise read your KING JAMES VERSION BIBLE and then get on your knees and pray about it and in time God will give you your answer.
2006-08-01 16:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by leanna0263 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not answer this question, I can just offer a little support. And knowledge you are not alone. Everyone is looking for a little love!
2006-08-01 15:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Another Face in the Crowd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't no the answer but,here goes anyway. How does anyone you meet someone you find them attractive . Don't let your head rule your heart. but don't be stupid you never no lighting could strike
2006-08-01 16:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by froggerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enter yahoo chat gays room , will find pple from turkey ....sorry i cant help u more than this dude
2006-08-01 15:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋