I met a man on the internet and spent about a month or so sending e-mails to him. He only lives a couple of miles from me and we physically met about six weeks ago. I have fallen for him really quickly but he won't talk to me about how he feels about me.
When I am with him he makes me feel very special and I want to spend every minute of him. However he only wants to see me once or twice a week. I am just left confused. It feels like a roller coaster relationship because when I'm with him I'm on a high and when I'm not I keep wondering how he feels about me and whether I am just a casual fling or whether he has stronger feelings for me. Am I just expecting too much too soon? What can you suggest I should do?
2006-08-01 08:54:08 · 15 answers · asked by Been there 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the feelings you have are all new and overwhelming. If you have to ask if your expecting too much too soon, then you already have a feeling that you are. Give your man some time to come to terms with his feelings. Remember this is all new to him too. Don't push a serious relationship this early. He may be open to it later, but if you push it, it will just push him away.
2006-08-01 09:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by pamela2406 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into things. Take it slow. Maybe he is in another relationship and is playing the side lines right now just to see if he wants to be with you or the other person. Maybe just for once it's not you. He might not know what he is doing. Hope you get better advice than what I can give. Good luck.
2006-08-01 09:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by MARISSA RAMIREZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is talk to him about how you feel cause if you don't your going to drive yourself crazy. I would word things carefully so that you don't scare him but definitly tell him. If he can't be respectful enough to be honest with what he wants he obviously doesn't know what he wantsor he wants to just play. Then you need to tell him to get lost cause this will just break your heart. But be honest then you will know what you need to do. If he feels the same talk about where it could go and what could change. Communication is the biggest part to a successful relationship. good Luck!
2006-08-01 09:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jolee N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take it easy and just enjoy what you two have right now, man are pretty hard to figure , especially since it sounds like you guys are intimate, just be careful and don't get your heart broken.Best thing to do is act like he does , don't initiate a lot of talk about future plans, just try to get to know the guy better.Good luck to you.
2006-08-01 09:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are trying to make him define the relationship. If you feel good about yourself he doesn't need to make you happy you jsut will be. sounds to me like he might have someone else in his life or is a busy man that doesn't want to make a huge commitment. Some people need more time. Let it go and give him space or you will have plenty of it when he stops seeing you. If he treats you good when he is with you, go with the flow and don't doubt yourself. he is seeing you.
2006-08-01 09:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man only wants to see you 1 / 2 per week , he only wants to see you 1 / twice a week. This man is happy alone.
I bet that if you push to meet more often he dont want to meet you again. He is afraid that he looses his time that he can not do anymore what he likes because you want to be with him. He looses his freedom.
2006-08-01 09:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that was my firstlove his name was charlie dumas the sweetest thing ever but only wanted to see me on the weekends...he is seeing someone else honey, you are just a email fling to him...and if by some remote possability you are not just a fling he will let you know but you wont find out until you leave his ***
2006-08-01 08:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just taking it slowly, he may have been burnt before. Be patient, if he likes you it'll all work out.
Alternately: Ask him what you just wrote here, If its not going to work out it'll end before you both get hurt, If it does work out then bonus! Guys generally don't like playing games :) good luck
2006-08-01 09:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mickenoss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very wary. How do you know there aren't another few of internet dates taking up his other nights?
Sorry to sound crap but been there and been bitten!!
2006-08-01 11:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lorraine R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your casual thts for sure, u need to just be patient, it sounds like he is thinkin bout u, he'll let u know some way or another
2006-08-01 08:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by start w/ laughs ends witha fight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋