my mom didn't raise me with religion, church or any of that stuff. i am an athiest and she's driving me crazy trying to push her beliefs onto me. i've asked her to stop, but to no avail..... what should i do?
2006-08-01 08:45:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The problem with living in a Chrisitan household, is that you have to tolerate all of the negatives that come from this religion, until you move out. Over 20 years ago, I had to use reverse psychology on my mother, to get her to leave me alone, without severing my relationship with her. I realized that the more I argued, the more she was obsessed with trying to convert me.
Do not ever try to please her by engaging in Christian worship or Christian activities such as bible study, and so forth if you are not open to religion. You will be miserable, and if you have already made up your mind that you are an atheist, you will become a bitter, angry, depressed atheist pretending to be a Christian to please your mother.
The only thing you can do, if you still live with her, is nod, smile, say "yes or ok Mom" and nothing else. Always let your mom have the last word on religion. Don't argue with your mother. Become distracted, and think of things that you can do, so that you are not around your mother that much. Limiting the amount of time you have with her, will lessen the opportunities for her to preach to you. This is really all you can do, until you live on your own. Eventually after not arguing with you for awhile, she'll leave you alone.
If you are an adult, do not live with your mother, and are not dependant on her for money, the solution is simple: ultimatum. That means you tell your mother that you will no longer speak about religion to her, and if she brings up the issue, you will not visit, or call. She'll probably test your bluff, but you have to have a strong will and stick to your ultimatum. Tell her you love her, and then hang up, or leave.
If you are living away from your mother, and also dependant on your mom for money, don't let religion screw that up for you. Just change the subject when it comes up, tell her you love her, but you got to go and take care of _______. (some random important task).
2006-08-01 09:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is not going to give up. However, there are some things you can do to curb her. Saying things like, "Mom, I'd appreciate it if you didn't push your beliefs upon me. If you continue to do so, I will be forced to ___________." A couple of suggestions? I will force my beliefs upon you. I will leave. I will tune you out. I won't communicate with you anymore. Whatever you do, leave the room, or whatever, and you mom doesn't act loving, then use it against her. "that's not very christian is it, mom?" And also, you must do what you say you're going to do. Don't threaten. Do. For instance, If you say, I will not talk to you when you talk about your religion, you must go through with it. She'll stop after a while. Just be consistant. good luck.
Remember everyone, Christianity is in ACTIONS and few words. Show love by respecting your children and listening to them instead of pushing your ideas down their throat.
2006-08-01 08:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by punkdrunkard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't want to hear it, and when she ignores you and continues on with her preaching, change the subject.
Then, when she continues, stop talking to her. Tell her you'll talk to her when she recognizes that you're an adult with your own beliefs and choices.
(Ah yes, life is 'easier' as a christian... truly a brilliant reason to join a religion. Not that you believe it or it'll save your soul, or make you a better person... join because you're lazy. I imagine even other Christians would hate that piece of advice. Just think, you'd be Buddhist or Muslim or Shinto had you been born in another country where it was just so easy to be that instead...)
2006-08-01 08:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kiari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she recently convert? Recent converts tend to be particularly annoying, but they often burn themselves out and leave their religion completely behind. This happens as soon as they figure out that their new religion isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Maybe her religion is fulfilling a need she has in her life, and if she finds some other way to meet that need, she can lose the religion. I don't know.
In any case, she'll probably cool off within a few months, and then she can go back to being a productive member of society. Until then, there's not a lot you can do except refuse to support her new religion. If she sees that she has to give up family, she might snap out of her brainwashing.
2006-08-01 08:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Minh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you will decide on your beliefs on your own schedule and that religion is an important decision that requires a lot of consideration. She'll probably understand that and get off your case for a while. If she asks you if you've made up your mind just say no and if she tries to get you to go to christian activities that you don't want to go to just tell her that you're feeling overwhelmed by it and that she's driving you away from christianity, that'll definitely get her thinking.
2006-08-01 08:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by robert k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christians were the first to provide computerized get entry to into heaven and forgiveness of all sins for killing. Islam referred to the worthiness of this and further virgins. wager you're favor you've been Islamic now do not you.
2016-11-27 19:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to listen to the one she claims is her own leader, Jesus Christ. He once said "What you wish others to do to you, do likewise to them". I'm a Christian (NOT a fundamentalist Christian), BUT, I do not try to force my religion on ANYONE. Let her know if she wants to explain her beliefs to you in a respectfu, non-judgemental way, you're ok with that, but you don't appreciate her pushing it on you.
2006-08-01 08:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should be happy that your mom is trying to make up what she neglected a long time a go , very few moms do that, any way give it a try you might like beeing a religious fundee your self, , dont make openions with out giving it a try best of luck nothing lost for trying it out
2006-08-01 08:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by cluelesskat maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a sweetie and listen to her beliefs. Don't fight her so much. When you leave your home, you can retain whatever beliefs you want, but be peaceful and respect your mother in the home she provides for you while you are young. When you have your own home, you can ask your mom to respect your home by not bringing her beliefs to your home, but in the meantime, as long as you are in her home, please respect her beliefs. For the sake of your sanity and her own, just be patient and loving.
2006-08-01 08:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough, move out. If you are not old enough, I guess you'll have to try and sit down and have a very mature, reasonable discussion with her and hope she listens. If all else fails, either get real good at ignoring her or get real good at diffusing her when she starts getting on your case.
2006-08-01 08:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by xenomorph_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋