i recently ended a 9month relationship with my boyfriend b/c i just didn't see where it could go with our age difference, he has 2 kids and 2 divorces. we connected very well mentally almost like old buddies and physically but i did not see anywhere we could have progressed to. should i have put more of an effort into it cause i feel very sad?
2006-08-01 08:45:31 · 9 answers · asked by always thinkin 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After a breakup, it's common to think of only the good things and regret breaking up. Everyone does it. The problem becomes that you either downplay the real problems with the relationship (having nowhere to go), or you focus so much on the good times that you completely forget the bad. Remember... there was a reason you decided to break up with him. It was a good enough reason for you to pull the trigger on the relationship, so don't feel bad. If it was meant to be... it probably would have been.
2006-08-01 08:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by BeenThere69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't feel bad I was in a relationship with an 40 yr.old for two years and in my opinion it was a waste of time. we wanted different things and I just thought it was about time I was realistic about the situation. It sounds like the same thing happened to you. Your 21 you have so much time to find that person that is right for you all round. Of course your going to be sad because it's going to take some time to get over this guy and move on but my advice is do what your heart says.
2006-08-01 16:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, personnally, don't think age is a factor. If you really love him it wouldn't bother you. It seems as though you know there is something off and feel ending it would be better. Since it seems you were very close to him it makes sense that you feel sad now. I think if you give it some time, see if you still care for him, if not then you know it was the right choice.
2006-08-01 15:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by hawk200022000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is nothing. However, the fact this guy as 2 divorces notched on his belt is a great indicator. It isn't the age difference actually. It's him.
2006-08-01 15:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are about willingness. if you want it to, it will!
i've dated some younger, twice my age (with kids as well). we really wanted it and had a great 3 year relationship (even living together and hanging out with his son whom i was only 2 weeks older than). where there is a will, there is a way!
2006-08-01 15:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by madison018 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife is 18 years younger than me and we have been married 8 years and still love her very much
2006-08-01 15:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WILL WORK IF YOU ARE BOTH MATURE ABOUT IT
I DATED GIRL THAT WAS 26 WHEN I WAS 36. BUT I DID NOT HAVE ANY KIDS OR EX'S
2006-08-01 16:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by MAUI7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah look at tom cruise (44) and katie holmes(22)
2006-08-01 15:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by fifi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a b*tch......who cares about age?
2006-08-01 15:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋