ok friday i got a call at work from my bf (the father of 2 of my 3 children) and he said that my son broke his leg. when i got home they both said that it happened on the crib when he was getting out he got his leg caught. on the way to the hospital i asked my son again and he said the same thing. but when the social worker asked him i was shocked when he said my bf did it and now they have taken my children from me and i dont know what to do. nothing like this has ever happened before and i have never sensed anything was wrong between my bf and my children.(i.e. bruises, complains, etc....) and they would have told me. i dont know what to do b/c they are trying to get me for neglection: neglecting to provide a safe and caring environment. i cant afford a attorney or lawyer and im afraid they are not going to give them back. in 3 days ive lost my whole family..... im so lost and lonley. and its not my fault!!! and no im not on here messing around im at work and its okay if im on here.
2006-08-01 08:24:53 · 8 answers · asked by clownluv♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the 1st thing u need to do is be honest w/the social worker and the judge when u see one.. u'll be given a public defender.. as soon as u find out who that person will be representing u contact them asap to discuss everything so that when u appear in court they'll know exactly whats going on..
because they will question ur children to see if u knew of about any of the abuse and what did u do to prevent it.. they'll also question them to see if u've been abusing them to..
but one of the most important things u could do is get rid of that sorry a$$ excuse for a man that u call a bf out of ur house and life.. go press charges against him as well....
stay in contact w/the social worker, ask her when can u see the kids and tell her that u don't care if the visit is supervised or not because they need to see u so that u can explain what's going on.. also see if a family member can care for them til this gets sorted out..
and just a lil hint cause i'm sure u've seen a million cases like this on tv, never leave ur children w/ur bf.. some of them can't be trusted, some of them don't like children, or don't have childrent themselves, so how can they care for someone elses, especially if they have no patience.. everyday when u come home from wk u should question ur children one on one to make sure..
many children die everyday @ the hands of the bf, babydaddy, stepfather and even mothers.. so u gots to be more careful because they can't be replaced....
2006-08-01 08:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are your kids? You think they just got scared and lied to the social worker? You should be able to get a state attorney their free. Have you talked to your bf? You should get the real story maybe he could help you in court once you figure out what really happened! That's not neglect because you were at work and left your kids with a responsible adult. Good Luck hope all goes well!!
2006-08-01 08:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by not_your_average*chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one thing i know about the child protective services is that you son must have said something or else they wouldn't no scratch that couldn't take them away if you want your kids back you need to leave your boyfriend and assume they are telling the truth because even if your son really broke his leg on the crib someone said something so there is definitely something up leave him pack you're bags run don't walk prove to the social workers that you will go to the end of the earth for you're children and volunteer to go to parenting classes and admit your faults you are not the victim as far as the social workers are concerned your children are good luck.
2006-08-01 08:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to a public defender and seek council to get my kids back. The one thing you have to look at is that kids have a real sense of wanting to please. Maybe your son told you that it wasn't your boyfriend because he is scared of him. He was scared that you would get mad and didn't want to make you mad. Maybe when he saw the social worker he felt safe.
I know you love your boyfriend but breaking a leg getting the child out of the crib is not a normal occurrence. My toddler has gotten his leg stuck in the rails of a chair and although it was scary and took a while to get it loose, there didn't need to be any bones broken. If anything the crib rail should've been broken not your baby's leg. You have to put your kids safety first.
2006-08-01 09:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soooo sorry! Certainly the social workers will see that you are not a neglectful parent. If you can get signed affidavits from people that see you w/your children on a regular basis saying that you are a good mother. Take this to the social workers and do anything they tell you to get your children back! I can't imagine the heartbreak you are going thru right now. Good luck to you.
2006-08-01 08:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by wannabebeachbum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first ask you bf to stay some place until this is resolved ask social services to give your bf a lie detector test if he lied file charges if not you have the test to take to court your bf hopefully has no record of abuse that means fist fights ect... you shouldn't`t worry about them charging you it wont happen you weren't aware of any problems and had no way of knowing he was like that if he did it. you will have d.h.s. in your life for at least a year after you get them back. most likely the will make you take parenting classes and make sure you get to see the kids while their away from you it will be supervised but if you don't push for it the will bring it up in court that you didn`t try to see them and always bring some one with you when you have to talk to d.h.s because the will twist your words to suit their view of things my sister went through this and i was with her most of the time so i know how it works
2006-08-01 08:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to boot your boyfriend and get your kids back. Then you need to investigate on your own and decide what really happened. They must have had more reason than just a guess to even involve a social worker. Bones dont break just cause a foot got caught, furthermore, why would your little one decide to say that if it werent true?
2006-08-01 08:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why was your son in a crib if he is old enough to talk and get himself out? That was your first mistake. What does your boyfriend say about this? Maybe it was more the fact that you had a child old enough to speak clearly (and climb out !!!) still in a crib?
2006-08-01 08:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋