2006-08-01 08:24:41 · 13 answers · asked by *Benny B* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If u know it's going to end in heart-break then don't tell him but if u know deep down inside you love him and he loves you tell him how you feel!!!
2006-08-01 09:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by cutie pie!!! 2 · 7⤊ 3⤋
This is just not going to work out well, no matter what you do. Are you very friendly with him? If so, you might want to back away, cos you're just going to get more hurt the longer this goes on. I have to assume that you didn't have any kind of romantic relationship with him earlier. He probably has no idea how you feel, and if he's just gotten engaged, he is crazy about someone else.
I feel bad for you--I know how much it hurts to want someone you can't have. Let me tell you what he'll say--if he's kind. "I am flattered. I think you're a terrific person. If I weren't with my fiance, maybe I'd be interested, but I only think of you as a friend. I hope you aren't hurt--I hope this doesn't mean we can't still be friends."
Now think how humiliating that will be. Been there, done that! Leave it alone. If he breaks up with her, maybe then you can let him know, but I'd keep my feelings to myself, and start looking for someone available.
2006-08-01 15:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know enough about the situation to really give you a specific answer, but here's my take based on your question. It sounds to me like he was an old boyfriend? You two broke up....but I don't know how long ago or who broke up with who. It sounds like he broke up with you and you still have feelings for him....or you broke up with him but now that he's engaged you realize you still have feelings for him. In either case....whether he broke up with you, or you broke up with him.....he has definitely moved on. In order for him to be engaged, I'm assuming they have been together a while and he must really love her....enough so that he asked her to be his wife. If I were you, I would just move on and not start any trouble in his life.....think about if the situation was reversed and you were the one engaged and the old boyfriend all of a sudden shows up telling you he still has feelings for you.....if your fiance found out there would be hell to pay even if you didn't do anything....it would raise suspicions about whether you would leave him and go back with the old boyfriend(even if you wouldn't). By you confronting him with this, it will only stir up trouble and if you cause him trouble he will only end up resenting you and probably really disliking you. He's made his decision and wants to marry this other girl.....so you should find another man.....I'm sure there are alot of them wanting to be with you. Not much of an answer, I know....I don't have enough information to be more helpful, but I think what I have told you is good advice.....of course, as always, it's just my own opinion and others will probably have other opinions.
2006-08-01 15:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by typicalguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean i was in love with my bosses son for like two years at the begining of that time we were dating but his mom didn't like me and we broke up he married another girl at work and i told my best friend that it would be trouble in a year or less well 10 mo later he was calling my phone ( he had gone through his mom's stuff to get it) and totally f*cked with my head for like a month and a half they had split ect well then he went back to her and all i have to say is men are set in their ways and they are all d*cks but i hold out that there is one who won't walk over my feelings and treat me like i treat them (i know that i treat men good but i sdon't get you any where so don't worry about being a b*tch they are the same when you are not)
2006-08-01 15:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by lovin'lifer you? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't share your feelings. He is engaged and commited to his fiance. You need to find a guy that is free to love you back.
2006-08-01 15:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he is in love with someone else. Tell him how you feel. He is getting ready to get married, so you might not get the chance to tell him ever agian. If he says he don't feel the same, just back off and find someone else.
2006-08-01 15:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
y'all women are all the same, you have a man who treats you good, you break up with him. Or you f*ck up and he breaks up with you and now that he has found someone else and is going to be happy without you in his life. You got to go f*ck things up. Get your own life, leave him alone.
2006-08-01 15:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by the_world_is_yours44 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Let him be happy, and find someone else who makes you happy.
2006-08-01 15:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not important now. Unless you want to put him in a mess.
2006-08-01 15:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by want2know007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has moved on. he is engaged. let him go. forget him. good luck.
2006-08-01 15:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋