He thinks I'm still in love with him. How do I tell him I'm not?

Question

Im 13. My ex-boyfriend's a grade older than me. Im going 2 8th and hes going 2 high school. It was May, close 2 the end of the school year. His best friend told me that my boyfriend wanted 2 talk 2 me about something. Being in different grades, we didnt see each other everyday. So, we didnt get a chance to talk yet. His best friend was in jazz band with me so he told me instead. He said that he liked another girl in his grade, + since he's going to high school...His best friend has a reputation of being a liar, so I asked him about this. He said I thought ----- told you. Ok, so he's telling the truth. Well, that's fine, because I'm not even in love with him anymore, I thought, not said. So a while later, I liked another boy + asked him out + he said yes. Gossip spread + my ex found out. He was really upset. I emailed him what his best friend had said to me and he emailed me that's not true, that he loves me more than anything in the world. Im running out of room, read additional detail

So then I asked him if he could wait until high school and maybe we could get back together if things work out. He said he would wait, but he won't get another girlfriend and I have to promise not to get another boyfriend. So I avoided the subject. I really don't want to break up with my current boyfriend. How can I tell my ex without hurting him?

Answer 1

Ok, the problem is pretty obvious. Neither of you seems to be able to talk directly to the other person and get a clear understanding of where you are at emotionally.

Talk to him and find out what is going on. Does he still want to be with you? How about later, when you get to High School?

Let him know how you feel - are you interested in being with him or with someone else?

It is important to understand how each of you feel, and what each of you want. Then make the decision. If you really don't care for this person any more, end the relationship, but make sure you know what is going. Get it from him directly, not from someone who may or may not be telling the truth...

Answer 2

You're 13.

Seriously at 13 you should be chillin' with your pals at the malls or movies or something and not worrying about some guy that probably just wants in your pants. Let's be honest here, love is a word that is tossed around lightly now days. I hardly believe that a 13 and 14 year old could really love each other in the same manner as someone who has real world expirience. Once you finish school my dear things get different, very different. Independence changes people. I suggest while you have a good solid 5 years of having fun and being a teen left, do it. Don't worry about trivial things like love, you have a lifetime for love and loss ahead of you.

I'm not saying don't have fun with guys, but be smart about it. Have fun, hang out, chill, whatever, just don't start buying into love and relationships too early. Life is full of opportunity.

Enjoy it while you can.

By the way, I'm 24, male and have been in your situation with an older girl. It's not really worth it in the scheme of things when you get older.

Answer 3

Tell him the truth...that you already are seeing someone else, and you should both see other people until and unless you decide to become a couple again later. You are both much too young to be acting so serious, anyway. I know you don't want to hear that (I didn't when I was 13) but trust me, it is true. You will probably both marry someone else 10 years from now. Someone you haven't even met yet.

Answer 4

Your just gonna have to break the poor guy's heart..and break it off quickly. Dont keep stringing him along...just let it go. Have a face to face talk and tell him "its over." "It's not you, it's me." Whatever you say, make a clean break.

He will get over you and then you will have all the time in the world to focus on your new man. Besides, if you keep stringing the other one along, your current bf may get jealous and think you are unfaithful..so just break up with the ex and move on! :)

Answer 5

Just tell him it might hurt him but when he said what his friend told you was true then you got a b/f and he found out and now he wants to be with you that is bullshit he is toying with you just tell him forget you I have someone so get lost or get with that girl in your grade or mabey thats why he wants you back because no one else feels sorry enough for him to date him just move on girl!!!!!!!!!! bye

Answer 6

Just tell him the truth. That you don't love him anymore and you are dating someone else. Be honest with him. Don't tell him one thing and then do the opposite.And don't use the other boy to make your ex jealous. It's not worth it.

Answer 7

Uber drama. With some drama on the side.

Just tell him. thoroughly blame the best friend. Stick with the new boyfriend, hang around the old one just to see the ensuing fight with his best friend.

Anytime he tries to talk to you, just tell him sorry, but your buddy told me you had left, what did you expect.

Answer 8

Tell him politiely that you have moved on and that he should not have liars as best friends because that guy really screwed things up for the two of you.

Answer 9

Just tell him you don't. And by the way, what business do you have being in love so young? Start to mature now, honey, and just tell the boy ya don't love him. If he doesn't get it, then it is on him.

Answer 10

tell him in a way that wont hurt his feelings. he really likes you and you are just leaving him. this is to much drama and well you need to decide what to do

hurt his feelings oand do what ever you want or give him another chance