we caught my 5 yr old son inapproriatly touching his sister how do i handle it and what do i say to him
2006-08-01 08:02:37 · 10 answers · asked by lillian 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Dont go overboard first of all, just let him know that is something private. Hes just curious not a molestor, so dont be worried. Kids dont know whats right or wrong, we teach them. Just like im sure you taught him not to run in the road, he didnt know that was wrong till you taught him
2006-08-01 08:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by *Krista* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you did not say how old the sister was. Unless it is constant touching, I would not worry too much about it. Being curious is a natural part of growing up. But if you feel the need to say something, explain calmly that what he was doing was inappropriate. But do not make it into something nasty. He does not comprehend what he is doing is wrong. He does not see it as an adult does. We all experiment at young ages and play doctors and whatever to varying degrees. This is just my opinion, there are many resources on the web you can resort to.
2006-08-01 08:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and tell him there are places it's ok to touch and then there are not. If he continues to touch his sister in the inappropriate places, then punishment will need to be meted out - its that simple. This can range anywhere from no TV (or whatever) for a few days for a first offense to a smack on the butt* for repeated offenses.
(*Note: I'm not typically an advocate of spankings but this is one of those things I feel falls into the "a$$-whoopin' offense" category for me)
2006-08-01 08:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Natural curiosity, definitely tell him about private parts and what is OK and what is not. its as simple as when you told him to not pull hair or bite. If he doesn't stop take away the TV or some thing else important ti him for a day. any longer is too much and no consequence is not going to get the point across. also there are books for children about their bodies and how they change and what is different about him and his sister. don't get to obsessed about this its very natural for him to want to know.
2006-08-01 09:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no its wrong and he is not to do it again. at his age there is a certain curiosity to all things and i doubt there is anything really sexual or abusive in it but he needs to be taught it is wrong....teach him about the bathing suit method...its a method of teaching small children the off limit areas to strangers and others...private areas...i forget which website it is on but basically all areas covered by a one piece bathing suit are off limits to others,especially strangers of course you will have to explain about peditricians and such though. you didn't mention how old his sister was but it sounded as if she were much younger....if not teach them both at the same time to respect each other private areas and if anyone touches them in a way that makes them feel 'funny' they need to come directly to you....
2006-08-01 08:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends, how was he touching her? Kids are naturally curious, especially when its something they don't have. I have three girls so to see a penis is intriguing to them. I think my friend was changing her son once and one of my girls asked if she could touch it. It wasn't anything sexual she was curious. Of couse we had to tell her that she couldn't, that it was his private part and nobody but him can touch it.
If he was hurting her or trying to stick something inside of her that would be another story. I would question where he is seeing this and I would take appropriate action. Hope that helps!
2006-08-01 08:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal of it, explain that certain areas of a person's body is private space and it's not ok to touch there.
2006-08-01 08:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Selena D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that there are places that he can and can't touch. Explain to him that whatever parts a bathing suit covers up are the parts you shouldn't touch.
2006-08-01 08:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he must have seen someone else do it i would keep an eye on your husband or any other family members as looks like someone must be interfeering with your kids
zombiec :)
2006-08-05 04:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is his sister older or younger. please e-mail me and i will tell you.
2006-08-01 08:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋