i need help!!!!?

Question

hi i am 26 years old and have 3 girls 13, 3, and 3 months the youngest two fathers never help and dotn even want to be in there lives and now my bf, the father of my oldest, just went over to iraq about a month ago and now i fine out that i am 7 weeks pregnant what do i do i am young liveing on my own till he comes back and trying to take care of 3 kids and now i am pregnant m
I NEED HELP

i live in ny

and i dont go to church so dont give me that crap

Answer 1

You have some serious issues. First your name says you're an Armywife, in another question you're cool with your 13 yr old daughter sleeping with her 16 yr old bf, in another question you say you're dating her bf's father, and in this question you say your bf is HER father. So are you saying that your daughter is sleeping with her 1/2 brother? That is just sick. The pity is I'm paying for it all. My constantly increasing income tax & sales tax is paying for all your bastard children...paying for your 13 year old birth control pills, paying for their food and clothing and shelter. I am paying for your computer and medical care. The money I put in the collection plate at CHURCH pays for your kids christmas presents even though you would never set foot in one. In return, you do the horizonal mamba with your legs wide open to every Tom, Dick and Harry. I can only imagine just how rode hard and put away wet you are...and the infestation of STD's make me shutter with discust.

Answer 2

You can sue the youngest two fathers for child support.

You can try to petition the branch of the military where the
eldest father works that you need some resources to support
the family of a man at war - but I don't think you're going to
get very far. You might get housing or something for the eldest
child ... but if there was no marriage, you're going to have to
prove it was his (they may not accept his word for it), and it
could potentially get very ugly.

Your best, farest bet is to sue the two young fathers for
child support.

Oh yes - and you need to make sure that you stop having
children without thought to how they will be provided for.
Sure, I can aim the comment at the two young fathers, but
at this point, you have had enough children where you should
know better.

Answer 3

Well since you are not married to the soldier...I am not sure if the FRG (family readiness group) will help you since you are not a spouse.

I am too currently pregnant with other children in the house as well but I am married to my deployed soldier, so when I need help with anything I can call FRG or another military spouse who I am friends with.

I have to honestly say you should have not allowed all this to happen. I know this sounds mean and harsh but someone needs to open your eyes...you have children with different fathers and not married to any of them and not able to financially care for yourself or them...that is not right. You just had a baby a few months back and pregnant again...you should have used birth control...really that would be the smart thing to do so you do not have these worries.

Now you need to figure out how you are going to manage all by yourself. Well get on some WIC, Medicaid if you are not already on those programs. Get with some family who are willing to help you. But you need to help yourself by stop putting yourself in the same situation over and over again. I sure do hope that your BF plans on marrying your or something since you have 2 kids together so there can be stabililty in your life as well as those kids.

I really doubt you can go to his unit FRG for help since you are not a spouse.

Answer 4

First thing is look into social services for foodstamps and such, second thing is contact the child support agency to recieve support for the other children. Third thing is to consider the current relationship and what his intentions are, if he will not help then you can DEFINATELY recieve support for any children he has with you. The military will not mess around, contact the child support agency and get it going if he wil not help. It takes 2 to tango and he is just as responsible as you are for these children. Last thing is that YOU NEED TO GET ON SOME BIRTH CONTROL after this child is born. My heart goes out to you but you are 26 and you need to be more responsible. I hate to sound like parent here, but that is exactly what YOU are now. My answer in honest and to the point, God Bless.

Answer 5

Well, I'm not going to give any lectures but GURL!
Do you belong to a church? Surely they 'd have some kind of advise or help to give at this time.If your church is hypocritical I'd join another one and they don't need to know about all your dirty laundry either. You're not the first this has happened to and others have made it through alright.Be calm as much as possible so you don't stress your children out.They didn't ask for this.If you're going through with the pregnancy, WILL yourself into feeling 'blessed' because your baby will pick up all your stress!

Answer 6

Get and accept as much help as you can. But you also have to take on the attitude that you can do this, and you can do it well. You do what you have to to survive. Things work out in the end, and you just have to keep on keeping on. The fear is usually bigger than the problem. Take it one day at a time. Set goals, make a plan and do what you have to.

Answer 7

you need to pass directly to a physician, melancholy is common and extra severe (and extra deadly) in sufferers with social phobia. in case you do no longer think of your mothers and fathers will take you to a physician, then fake a suicide attempt. Empty a pair of bottles of pills on the floor and lie beside them. additionally, tip a pitcher of water next to them. fake to be ineffective or subconscious, they're going to take you to the ER and you'd be able to tell them each little thing you assert on your placed up. then you fairly can get the healthcare expert to describe on your mothers and fathers which you're no longer a basket case, and he will provide proper drugs which ought to get you extra clever in an issue of weeks. A tip for you: tell your psychiatrist you opt for for topiramate (Topamax) further on your antidepressant, which will develop the effect on the social phobia and likewise assist you shed some pounds. And yet another tip: stay removed from faith until you're extra clever.

Answer 8

well i think that every thing happens for a reason expecially the blessing of having children. i am so jealous of people like you b/c i don't think that i can have kids my b/f and i have been tryin for two years now and i want six kids. i would probably just keep the baby. i don't know what you financial situation is though but remember everything happens for a reason. i hope you make the right choice no one can make it for you do what you feel is right in your heart.

Answer 9

first i'm also 26years old and i have 4 children. Same boat as you. my oldes two there father wants nothing to do with them and my twins well there father is pretty much useless. It will be hard but you must stay strong and just do the best you can do. Just hope he comes home safe. But until then do the best you can do and it will be okay.don't stress it just makes it that much harder.

Answer 10

Go to your Medicaid/WIC/Government Support Office and talk to them there. They should help you out with the things you need...food, health insurance, housing, child care, and job placement. Also does your boyfriend in Iraq help you out with finances? I'm sure he is probably making pretty good money and should feel obligated to be sending you some money.