I am 21 years and been with my fiance'e since I was 14, He is the love of my life
2006-08-01 07:49:10 · 16 answers · asked by Newlywed 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We are not planning on children, I just got my tubes tied.
2006-08-01 08:00:03 · update #1
I am a hopeless romantic and really hope that you two have a wonderful life together. It's maturity and committment that matter in a marriage -- not age, though I will admit that the two are related.
Should you get married? Do you love and respect each other? Do you laugh together? Do you make each other feel better about yourselves. Do you want to have his children and raise them together? Do you want to play with your grandchildren together? Answer these questions, and then you'll know.
If you do marry, remember to make it a habit to work on the relationship. You will drift apart from time to time. You will have mismatched libidos from time to time. You have set aside time every week to be with each other and talk about the good stuff AND the bad stuff. Be sure to make time to make love. It sounds crazy now, but 5 years from now, it might not.
2006-08-01 08:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are making some very serious decisions at a very young age. Live life a little! Finish college, earn some money, go on vacation, just experience life a little more. Things I thought I knew at 14 up through 21 are completely different than what I know now. It doesn't feel like I've changed, but when I look back, I certainly did. If you love each other, then waiting until you are a little older won't hurt anything.
PS - it's Fiance. You are the Fiancee.
2006-08-01 19:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got your tubes tied so young? Wow.
I'm sure that you're in love, but you're also only 21. Were you the same person as you were at the age of 14? Probably not. You both are going to change a LOT.
I would wait until you are old enough to understand this committment and the change you both will go through during the course of a lifetime.
Chances are this is the only guy you've ever dated. I'm always skeptical of those who marry their first loves. I'm sure it does work, but sometimes I feel that you may be settling for less.
Remember that marriage is going to be hard. There are going to be really rought moments. If you think the rainy days aren't going to happen, you're in denial. You need to prepare yourself for the struggles you and your future husband will go through and realize that you aren't going to be in the honeymoon period forever.
Those who say that they've been in the honeymoon peiod for their entire marriage are either lying to themselves or to others.
2006-08-01 16:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read somewhere (I can't cite the source) that 75% of marriages to women under age of 26 end in divorce. Do I buy it? Somewhat...
I've been with my guy for 8 years - we're getting married in 2 months and I'm 25.
There is no perfect answer for this question...I know that I "found" myself when I was about 23 and am lucky to still have my best friend by my side :) We didn't feel that we needed to rush anything. I'm glad we waited, but we knew we were "soul mates". This does NOT mean that we haven't had our ups and downs. We've just grown together.
If YOU feel its right - no one can tell you you're wrong...just make sure you have no doubts and can maintain the relationship you've built thus far.
2006-08-01 18:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by shelby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a little young, but since you and the young man have been together for that long it seems like you two are quite compatible. go for it and don't worry about what others think.
just know that marriage is sometimes hard, especially when you add kids. They are the greatest thing about being alive, so you two have a lot to look forward to in that department. But make sure you are on good financial footing and have good benefits first.
Congratulations and Best Wishes:)
2006-08-01 14:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged when I was 21 and am happy that I did not marry the guy. I moved and we were apart for awhile and I realized what I wanted in life and how much nicer men were compared to him. He was 9 years older then me and we dated for 4 years. You look for completely different attributes in a person in 4 years time. On the other hand one of my bestfriends started dating their husband in 6th grade and they got married at 25 and are happily married.
2006-08-01 15:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Tazaor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have been thru 7 yrs so its ok i assume you pretty much know each other and are a bit mature .normally I would say it is a bit early at 21 but if you have lived in together for 2 yrs then its safe enough to jump in
2006-08-01 16:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Success & Money 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any certain age...
I always said I would be at least 30 before I got married & I just got married last year right after I turned 23.
You just know when the time is right.
2006-08-01 15:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say to wait til you're at least 23-25. What's the rush if you both love eachother. You're still going to be with one another married or not, just this way you have more time to save for a bigger and more beautiful wedding.
Best wishes..
2006-08-01 14:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by preciouz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
26-30
2006-08-01 18:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋