What's your take on adoption? I'm a single, 26 year old male, with my own home, good career, and I’m ready to have a family. The only problem is, I haven’t found that right person. In a year, if nothing changes, I will seriously consider adopting a child. What's your take?
2006-08-01 07:45:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I'm glad to hear that you're ready to have a family.
As one thing I've learned, providing for kids is a pretty big deal. Since you mentioned adoption and not foster care, - you're recognizing that you are providing a home and a family life necessary to grow a complete and fulfilled child to adulthood.
Now I know a lot of women think that men are optional, but to hear it coming from a guy, -that he wants to skip a crucial step in the family actualization process, -just to acquire the child, to be 'added' to his lifestyle choice like some kind of fashion accessory??... I don't think so. Besides, - shouldn't you be working with a spouse available for the full time work of raising a kid? Too many parents take the job of parenthood like a part time activity, farming out tasks like they're shopping for an auto mechanic. We see the results in today's society when kids are plugged in, tuned out, and can't name the states or find India on a map.
BTW... I've adopted a son, -as I married his mother. Handicapped, and needy, and I purposed to bring him home each day from the 'special' school he attended, -rather than having him institutionalized.
2006-08-01 07:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have a relationship there are plenty of children out there that need good homes. This would be a lasting love that will last a lifetime for you both. I would for a boy though, little girls are cute, but you will worry so much more about them. My recommendation, being a single parent myself is find a child that is in school already. Babies are a lot of work with working and all, it wouldn't be fair to either one of you. Good luck and congrats on wanting to be a dad, you will love it.
2006-08-01 07:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think adoption is great but just make sure your ready to take on that responsibility alone. I am a single parent with no help from dad and is very hard.
2006-08-01 07:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you ready to be a single father? i think it's fantastic that a man especially would like to adopt but realistically it will be very hard. there's so much more to think about.....are you going to leave your baby with a sitter while you are at work? are you ready to sacrifice your weekends to spend time and take care of this baby? are you ready for the whole mr. mom role? finding the right balance between working and being at home with your child will be a challenge....maybe you should try talking to other parents just so you can hear from their point of view what it will be like and you can ask all kinds of questions...talk with other stay at home dads, etc....good luck to you.
2006-08-01 07:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by origchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister has three biological children and one adopted child. Right now she's in the process of adopting another child (she can't give birth to any more children due to her kidney problems). Everyone in my family welcomed her adopted son with open arms- including his other siblings. I'm all for adoption and I wish you luck with it.
2006-08-01 07:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by ninja_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think adoption is an excellent idea! my father and aunt were adopted... there are so many children without someone to turn to because their parents abandoned them or simply could not provide for them. it's beautiful that you would consider rescuing a child from what could be a lifetime of hell... pray about it.
2006-08-01 07:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by spreejo456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a great idea! Though, as I understand it, it is harder for single parents to adopt than couples....... Are you willing to foster or adopt older children? They need love too ya know!
2006-08-01 07:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about going out of town meeting new peopleor sell ur house buy in a different place and start from there
2006-08-01 07:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by luvnoasis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋