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What do you think of spanking as a punishment. If you have ever been spanked what was it for and how were spanked and where were you and how old were you. Thank you! I will tell you mine in an additional detail.

I was caught having sex with my bf when I was 14. We got spanked bare-butt, in front of our parents and siblings. We were sapnked with a spatula, belt, and a hand. We were spanked for an hour.

Answer 1

Don't hit your kids.

Answer 2

There is a time for spanking and a time for not. It is not meant to relieve the parents' frustration. Spanking is meant for discipline in children. I think what happened to you was wrong. I strongly disagree with spanking beyond a certain age, but for having sex with your boyfriend, well I couldn't spank my kids for that. It would be better to sit and talk about it, maybe a little education about sex or whatever. I was spanked as a child and it did me good. I was a little wild and many times I thought twice before doing something because of that. There is a fine line between that and abuse. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I only spank with my bare hand and my now 8 year old daughter I consider too big to be spanked. It is more effective punishment to have her privileges taken away at this age. When she was young, it was a last resort, I used my hand only, and it was only a couple of swats. I probably stopped spanking her at around 5. I think your experience sounds traumatic and was abuse; I am sorry you had to endure that.

ps: I got spanked as a child when I would absolutely not listen to my parents. I think they stopped spanking me around school age as well. It always hurt my feelings more than my behind, which is precisely what I needed in those situations to learn to behave better. I think spanking is a viable and sometimes necessary option for some children when it is done in a calm and consistent manner.

Answer 4

Yours is a terrific question, it sparks such discussion, wow!
Of course "spanking" is a loaded issue for many of us.
When I was a boy between 5 and 10, I was spanked a few times, usually for doing something really bad. Either of my parents would smack me with either their hand or a ping-ping racket (ouch!). Other punishments (sent to my room, losing privileges were just as traumatic). Spanking is a form of shocking/scaring children into submission, and has been handed down from generation to generation by parents and religion. You can just as effectively hurt your children's feelings psychologically via any form of punishment, because children are naturally sensitive to their parents' negative feelings about them. Most people use spanking because they learned that it is an acceptable form of discipline, they don't have to take any courses to learn how to do it, and for some, they can express their anger against their children and get away with it, where they couldn't get away with it with anyone else. I'm sure some people spank their children for the sexual gratification they get out of it, I mean let's face facts that some adults get off on spanking. Spanking rarely does any good, and in most cases it just adds to the problems of the child and society. We don't hit people at work or church, so why would we hit our children. I will never hit my children, and they are terrific. I have never felt the need to hit them.

Answer 5

I think it very much depends on the personality of the one being punished. In the case of my kids spanking is not nearly as effective as taking away privileges. However, there have been cases where one sharp rap on the butt has been very effective in "getting their attention".

Spanking was used as a punishment when I was growing up. I was not spanked often, the threat of a spanking was a much more effective disciplinary tool than a spanking itself. Of course, you had to have had a real spanking before the threat carried any weight.

Answer 6

There is a thin line for spanking. When I was little I got "whacked" about three times for very good reasons (one was that I stole money from my mom's purse). Some things can't be fixed by talking. A little slap on the bottom is fine. Don't hit in the face - that's just mean and really hurts.
I know I'm gonna get hell from all these liberals and Dr. Spocks and such. But you have kids, there will be a point where talking doesn't work. So good luck to those people and DON'T COMPLAIN that kids these days don't have any respect for elders!

Answer 7

Oh yeah I was spanked, sometimes whipped with a belt! I would NEVER think of doing that to my daughter. Now, it's considered a form of child abuse. I totally agree that it is.

If you raise your kids right, you shouldn't feel the need to spank. Yes, they will get on your nerves, as all kids do, however, there's a thing called "time out" or taking things that they love away. Anything besides spanking!

Answer 8

I think it's great. I know alot of children who's parents absolutely refuse to spank. They think it's "abuse" but it's not. The children who's parents didn't spank are now older and walk all over their parents and don't take their parents seriously when they warn them or punish them. I was spanked when I was younger. I don't think I was spanked as a baby or a young toddler but around the age of 3 was probably when I first got spanked. It never was extreme pain and it never left a mark. It was only hard enough to hurt for a second or two. My parents never did it to hurt me, they did it to get my attention--and that's how I think it should be used.

I think all these other forms of punishment are just an extremely lazy way of parenting. Parents would rather just sit there and say "go to your room" instead of actually getting up and doing something about their children. I think -not- spanking is almost child abuse.

Answer 9

I am a true believer is a "good old fashioned spanking" but what you described is child abuse. not that you received a spanking for what you did, or even the fact it was a "pants downer" but OVER A HOUR? I am guessing you were covered with black and blue marks on your back side, which I log in the abuse category. I think spankings are OK as long as they don't leave marks other then temporary redness

Answer 10

The experience you described above was not a spanking. Just a spanking does not last an hour! That was abuse! Regular spanking is ok. There is a big difference.

Answer 11

Come on. You're kidding, right? You and your boyfriend were spanked in front of siblings?!
I was spanked once at age 6 after my birthday party for cheating at "pin the tail on the donkey." It wasn't very strong and it left a lasting impression, but it was back in the 1950s when spanking was considered "no big deal." Now, parents can go to court for that. Also they can take you and your boyfriend to court for statutory rape. It's all so crazy.