even at home, he has to be right by my side (serious separation anxiety). He whines if I even leave the room. He just started this about 2 weeks ago, and although I love him to death, it is driving me crazy. I can't get anything done. Nobody else can hold him, or he cries for me Even my husband (his dad). He used to go to everyone. The Dr. said this will pass, but is there something I can do?????
2006-08-01 07:40:33 · 10 answers · asked by ozzysgirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have a son around the same age who has sort of the same issue except it's with me (his dad). I think it's normal for a child to attach to one parent. I think you can try and encourage him to connect with other people whenever you get the chance with the understanding that there will be some rough moments. Most of all just keep loving him and remember we will both blink and our boys will be in HS and "too cool" to hang with their parents. Good luck to you.
2006-08-01 08:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by jimel71898 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My son started acting like that when he was around 15 or 16 months old, too. I put him in a backpack carrier or carried him on my hip with a sling when I wanted to get something done that required me to move around a lot. When I did things where I stayed in one place for awhile, like the dishes, I kept him occupied nearby. Sometimes, he would play with a toy in his high chair or sit in it and watch me do whatever as long as I was singing while I worked.
The solution that worked best for me was to find ways for him to "help" me with whatever I was doing. I let him wash the vegetables when I was cooking, gave him a tub of sudsy water, a clean sponge and some plastic tableware to "wash" when I was doing dishes. I asked him to "help" me carry the laundry basket, push the buttons on the washer and dryer. He still thinks "doing the laundry" means throwing piles of clothes in and out of the basket. =D I keep two brooms in the kitchen and let him help when I sweep. I let him dunk the mop when I mop. I either let him "vacuum" with the big vacuum before I do or give him the little portable one while I use the big one. I bought him his own "computer" for him to use while I'm on mine.
I had my husband choose a day and time each week when he consistently took over care of my son. At first, he cried and screamed when my husband tried to do things I usually did. I helped him calm down, but told him that it was Daddy day, so Daddy was going to take care of everything today. He got used to it after 2 or 3 Daddy days. After that, I was able to leave him with my husband for brief periods. I lengthed how long I was away a little at a time.
Then I started doing the same thing with my mom. At this point, I can leave him with them for a few hours without a problem, and he can play on his own in the house now.
The upside is that I haven't had to worry that he was getting into mischief I didn't know about, and I was always there to gently correct misbehavior or potentially dangerous behavior immediately, so he's pretty well behaved and knows a lot about what I want him do or to avoid.
Every child is different, so I have no idea if any of this would work for you, but good luck.
2006-08-01 19:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by mom2savi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 5.5 year previous daughter began that when her brother became a million and he or she needed in spite of he needed and each little thing became drama. I went out together with her to a interest shop and picked out diverse colored marbles. Took considered one of her brother's previous point one jars (had stored some for odds and ends) and instructed her she could get one if she avoided whining and crying while she have been given disenchanted approximately something different than getting harm. on the beginning up, we actively "caught her" being solid and gave her a marble very frequently. Then we chop up it into morning and afternoon. while she filled the jar, she have been given something small she truly needed. while she have been given especially solid at filling up her jar, we moved as much as a level 2 sized jar. And, we ultimately went to the comprehensive day as she have been given slightly older. we've a point 3 jar that's on this is way out. there isn't any want for it and he or she has just about forgotten approximately it. The whining is at a minimum, and it truly have been given her rear lead to line if we threatened to take a marble away if she truly misbehaved. solid success!!
2016-10-01 08:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My younger son did that for YEARS. He could not and would not go alone anywhere by himself. DROVE ME NUTS!!!
Every child is different. My 2 older kids are very independent. They never stay close to me like the youngest one did and does.
FINALLY last year when he was 6 he FINALLY would go outside by his self and play.
Going to the store is a nightmare. HE will NOT let me out of his sight!!! Someone ALWAYS has to be near him or in his sight.
Don't know what to tell you. Just ignore his pleas. Use some TOUGH LOVE here. Don't constantly hold him to please him. Start separating yourself from him. Sooner or later he will get the idea that you will come back.
2006-08-01 08:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is driving you crazy, then i suggest that if you want to get things done let him help. Yes it will pass, but what i suggest you do if you want him to leave you alone is put him in a play pen or a blocked area just make sure he can see you or better yet give him a picture of you it will amuse him. If that doesn't work get one of those things that people use to carry their children on their back. Good Luck with that!
2006-08-01 07:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by dragonflygurl_32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has something changed in those last few weeks?? I have the same thing going on here..although not as extreme..he's 2 , try talking to him, tell him this is not ok..you are in the house(area) and if he needs you, you're there..redirect him with something(toy,book, activity)..my guy only has a fit if I go to the store w/o bringing him..and going to the bathroom w/o closing the door won't happen for awhile I guess.
2006-08-01 07:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Selena D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem with my 1 1/2 daughter. They just love their mommy but it is streddful, i stay at home and when my hubby comes home i try and get out for a couple hours to myself and that helps me out. Theey do grow out of it but try and give him some playdoh so you can do laundry or turn the music up loud and dance around as you clean....good luck
2006-08-01 08:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he had a nightmare. My daughter went through the same thing. It's just a phase.
2006-08-01 08:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait it out, and assure him he will see you later, and tell him what mommy is doing everytime he gets ready to cry. This will help ease his mind if he knows all your moves (ex. mommy is going to the kitchen, mommy is going to the bathroom). I hated this period to, you just have to wait for this phase to be over with.
2006-08-01 07:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by lovher206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it recently started then I would say he is teething or not feeling so well. Comfort him and smother him with love!
2006-08-01 17:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by tigreria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋