My Ex has been out of the pic for about 2 years and all of a sudden pops up and demands to see our kid. He hasnt paid child support, he took off to another state and hasnt seen the kid since she was about 4 months old. Do I have to let him see her? Because he has threatened to take her to Florida for good. Shes been living with me and Ive been supporting her since she was born. HELP!
2006-08-01 07:26:18 · 10 answers · asked by kayla200614895 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We also cant locate him.
2006-08-01 07:38:49 · update #1
He was very controlling and I wasnt allowed to do certain things without his permission, even after he moved to FLA. I broke up with him because I didnt want that life for my daughter and now I have everyone trying to convince me to let him see her.
2006-08-01 07:48:14 · update #2
I'm with the other answers on this one. Go to court and get full custody and a restraining order. This person has been abusive to you and will no doubt be the same towards your child. Protect your child from this person as he has already proven that he is not capable of being a responsible, RELIABLE parent. He has no right to see her unless the courts order it and you can fight that. Tell him to go through the courts...chances are he is not willing to invest the time or money to do this legitimately.
2006-08-01 08:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing is that you should get a restraining order on him, becasue of his threatening behavior. that will give you time to get the right legal papers done so you can go for soul physical custody. your daughter will have her own lawyer and they will do whats best for her. don't give into him and let him see her, he is not fit to be around her , he seems like it wasn't right then ,but now he should have all the rights in the world, thats not the way it goes. make sure your daughter gets her interests taken first. good luck
2006-08-01 10:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have him take you to court before he sees her, especially if he is threatening to kidnap her. As far as I would be concerned, he gave up his right to be a father when he walked out. You can prove that you have not seen a dime from him, and ususally courts side with the mother. It wont be good for her to see him if she is not going to on a regular basis. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-01 07:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda having the same problem, but now my sons dad lost total custody for not paying child support.
I can't really tell you what to do. I think you would have to know what's good for your daughter or not. But I would really think about the threat issue.
2006-08-01 07:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by bajinnoly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go through the courts. Meanwhile, file for full custody and get a restraining order since he's threatening kidnap.
Good luck and best wishes to you and your little one.
2006-08-01 07:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not let him see her....if he wants to see her he will have to take you to court to get visitation rights....if he does that he will also have to pay child support and support for her since she was born.....if he's threatend to take her to florida either record it or get someone to hear him say it so you have proof in court....if he does get visitation make sure its supervised by a male family member that you trust....but until then....dont even let him talk to her on the phone....if you have to get a restraining order on him to try to prevent him from kidnapping her if you think thats a possibility
2006-08-01 07:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by gaigesmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you dont have to let him see her ! and if I were you I would start the court process to get full custody and make sure you tell the court he threatened to take her to flordia for good and your scared , get a restraining order while your there..
2006-08-01 07:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Alanacoolata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to court, cos if he says hes going to take her he will, dont take that chance, the courts wont let him have coustdy if he is giving threats like that, and he will have to have supervised visits, they will most likely give u full coustdy make sure u got a good attorney, and let them know what kind of father he HASENT BEEN
2006-08-01 07:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop calling her "the kid", secondly you can't stop him if he tries to do it legally so just tell him if h e wants to see her bad enough to take the proper legal steps.
2006-08-01 07:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by girlfromflorida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont panic u will be the wholy solely parent and u know dont be scared go to cops and tell them whole things ands i assure u that they will really gonna sort ur problem out
2006-08-01 07:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋