how do i get rid of my sexual performance anxiety?

Question

i cant have sex!!!!!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I’m going to assume you’re referring to ejaculation when you’re saying performance. So, with that in mind:

Performance anxiety comes from the fact that many people equate sex with ejaculation; when it’s so much more.
1)Sex is primarily a function of the brain, so you need to be in the right mind space.
2)Who is the sex for? You or your partner? If you focus on your partner’s pleasure, they won’t care if you don’t ejaculate.
3)If you’re focused on your partner, you’re not focusing upon yourself, which might also help the issue.

If you focus on these other things, and you get a positive response from your partner, that might translate into confidence; confidence in your techniques. With confidence come a relaxed attitude toward ones “performance”, and that can only lead to good things.

If you’re talking about keeping an erection, many of the same issues might be at play here. Of course, there may be medical conditions as well. If you’re really concerned, talk with your Doctor (that's what they're there for).

Answer 3

Sex has to be something you simply enjoy,not a performance sport.
As long as you look at it as a test you will have performance anxiety.Anybody would who looks at it that way.If sex is a mutually comfortable and consentual experience the need to put on a stellar performance will melt away.

Ask yourself some questions about your realtionship with your partner to find clues that could be causing the anxiety.Is their something about your partner that makes you uncomfortable? Is there any unresolved issues outside of the bedroom?Does your partner communicate with another pereson that makes you feel being compared to? It's usually a non-sexual issue that manifests itself in sexual performance problems,not the sexuality itself.

Answer 4

Can't or don't want to really have sex? I say when you're absolutely ready for sex, you won't have performance anxiety. Most guys are not ED until latter in life, so just be patient with yourself and you'll find that special someone to share your magical bliss with.

Answer 5

You obviously have low self-esteem.. sorry, not to sound like a %$#, but by reading your question it seems obvious to me. You're probably scared of what they'll think about you so you won't allow yourself the pleasure of having sex. I recommend you see a therapist because it's obvious you have some body image issues that need to be spoken about with a professional. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

You have to improve your confidense, but don't let it turn to arrogance.Maybe you and your counterpart are not truly compatible.And this is real bad advise, but liqour always works.It removes anxiety.But that confidence is artificial and you will not know the outcome of a non natural solution.Just try and boost your confidense somehow.

Answer 8

Marry first. When someone loves you they don't care about how well you perform. Concentrate on making love rahter than performing sex...
If you feel this is more serious, get counseling. Really!

Answer 9

Get rid of the "performance" concept and think along the lines of party and pleasure and fun and light. Don't think about yourself so much. Groove on your partner and pleasing her.

Answer 10

Some folks just can't do it and that's ok. As long as you satisfy your needs in other ways like perhaps knitting sock puppets to keep your hands busy , you'll be fine.