Is this good or bad or a trick?
2006-08-01 07:13:06 · 38 answers · asked by diamondlovebaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol. sounds like he's just seeing if you want the same things as him down the road. And he's probably looking for someone to have his children. Me and a guy I'm dating fantasize about having a daughter. He's almost 28 and wants to be dad. I'm not giving him the kid anytime soon, hell no, i'm only 21, but I would like one someday too and b/c of that, he likes me that much more.
2006-08-01 07:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy would most likely ask you on the first or second date how many kids you want to have because it can be an indirect way of finding out how eager you are to have children. This way he can gauge your reaction to the question and see if your "biological clock is ticking" or not.
He's also probably trying to see what you want in life to see if your goals match his - just another way of seeing if you two are compatable. No he's not crazy or bad, this is a normal question people ask and should no (for future references) when dating.
2006-08-01 07:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is interested in having children.
It's actually a good thing if this is out in the open when you first start dating. If one of you wants children and the other doesn't, and you don't find out about it right away, you might try to enter a serious relationship only to be heartbroken when you realize it will never work out between you.
If he's asking questions like this, he's probably interested in a serious relationship. He is also likely to be very genuine, as most men wouldn't feel comfortable talking about such subjects when they first start dating.
If you're interested in having children and you are attracted to this guy, I'd say give him a real shot. If you don't want children, don't lead the poor guy on. Nobody deserves to have their heart broken.
2006-08-01 07:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by Sappho 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Which do you prefer: to find out now he wants to have a large family someday (8+ kids) and you do not or you find that out in 3 months? Why waste time if you do not want similar things? If you desire a serious and good relationship someday avoid men that inundate you with small talk nonsense those first few dates. It sounds like the guy you mentioned knows what is important and asks the keys questions.
2006-08-01 07:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, it means get the hell outta there! Why would anyone, let alone a guy ask a question like that on a first or second date?!?!? That would scare the crap out of me. Bad trick. Tell him 14
2006-08-01 07:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Some guys could be asking just to make conversation. Others could be asking to see if you are on the right track about kids (i.e. do you want them, and if you want the same amount). I think the first or second date is a little early myself. I'd be worried about a guy who moves to fast.
2006-08-01 07:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody who has answered your question ,so far, is on the right track. He's really rushing things, which means he's insecure and not allowing time to get to know you and you him. It could be a trick to make you think he's already falling in love with you. More likely he's looking for someone to take care of him, and that could be bad. He could turn out to be an abuser.
2006-08-01 07:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just probably just wants to know if your on the same level as he is on having kids. Not a good idea to ask on the first date or second though.
2006-08-01 07:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by supra02@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people don't know each other well, then sometimes it's hard for them to find good topics to discuss. And when you add some anxiety to that, then people can end up putting their foot in their mouth and saying things that are not quite right for the situation they are in.
You have to look at everything you know about the man and look at how he relates to you overall in order to judge him well.
You are bound to misjudge your man if you judge him only by his single utterance on your first or second date.
2006-08-01 07:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for a wife. That's good if you are looking for a husband. I can see how the question could put you off. From his perspective though, he's probably serious about looking for a wife and just wants to date like-minded women.
2006-08-01 07:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋