Dear Christians, would you recommend abortion to your 16 yr old daughter?

Question

If she was brutally attacked and raped by a criminal. Would you raise that child or put him or her for adoption?

Answer 1

Christians would not... but i would.

Make sure it's done somewhere where they know what they are doing though. See planned parenthood. It's in the childs best interest not to be born than to be born into such terrible circumstances... even if you put it up for adoption, there could still be problems down the road.

Answer 2

Oh, what an awful thing. I would not recommend abortion. I would first pray to God for her comfort and protection. I would then (after she had been taken to the hospital) hug her and not stop hugging her for the next few years. I would treat my daughter like a queen, and pamper her like crazy during her pregnancy. I'd get her anything she wanted, and when her labor began, I'd take her to the best hospital and make sure she received all the pain medication she could possibly want. But I would let her decide if she wanted to keep her child or give the baby to an adoptive family. Then I'd still pamper her, because if this happened to my daughter, I'd be so beside myself with grief and anger that I'd need a way to channel that energy into something good. If she wanted to keep the little baby, I would help her raise him or her.

Answer 3

As a Christian I do not believe in abortion. If the girl does not want to keep the baby then allow the baby to be adopted out. It is not the unborn child who asked to be concieved so why take their life when they especially did not ask for it in the first place.
I do not mean to seem harsh but as some one who has tried to concieve a child for 7+ years it angers me to a certain point people who seem to take the fact that they can have children for granted.
Now if you are not totaly sure if the girl is pregnant or not (in another words the test has not been performed) take her to a ob/gyn and have a DNC done. That would be my advice. But, you also have to remember she is a mother to be now and it is her right to choose what to do reguardless of what we think or what someone else percieves as right or wrong.
My heart goes out to the young lady and what has happened to her. If I was in her place honestly to say it would be really hard for me to choose whether or not to keep the baby. On one hand there is the factor that this child is part of the young lady in question but on the other hand everytime she would look at this child she may or may not see the face of her attacker and be in a constant remeberance of how this child became to be.
So honestly whether I am or am not pro-life or not I cannot honestly say what would the right or wrong action to take.

Answer 4

This seems very hypothetical since it doesn't happen very often.

First, I would lean toward early abortion.

Second, I would lean toward adoption because the baby could get a clean start and my daughter would not have a child around that would remind her of the rape. I would make sure that the rape information did not travel to the adoptive parents.

Third, a sweet baby might be seen as a gift arising out of a horrible incident and might make the incident seem not so bad.

Answer 5

If she was brutally attacked and raped by a criminal I may consider it but I would talk to my priest first. Adoption is a very good choice because there are so many couples that cannot conceive. But, you should discuss this with your daughter and a doctor. Then go over all your options and hopefully make the right decision. Good Luck to you both.

Answer 6

The child is not at fault for what his/ her father did and should not have to pay for his/ her father's crimes with his/ her life! Or in any other way for that matter! Just as my daughter would not be at fault for what this horrid excuse for a man had done!

I would not abort any child. I would see that the child would be raised properly, with a lot of love. Either by our family, or by a good adoptive family, depending on what my daughter would want. I would also see that the child's father was punished to the full extent of the law!

It would be painfully difficult to forgive a man for doing something as vile and shameful as this. Because of what God commands, I would have to forgive him, so I would. However, make no mistake, forgiveness does not mean accepting or condoning the terrible act itself. Also, full forgiveness would require repentance, and acceptance of just punishment, from the perpetrator of the crime. I would make sure the "man" paid the full price for his crimes and never saw his child.

I truly hope and pray that this is a rhetorical question, and that nothing so horrible has or will ever happen to your family (or anyone else). If this has happened to you, I pray God will help you to bear the terrible pain, to be merciful to the child and your daughter, and to know that you can and should seek justice! I also pray that you will eventually be able to forgive, but never condone the actions of, this man.

Answer 7

After a rape, the most important thing would be for HER to regain control, to make her own decision, to make sure she is calling the shots, because that's the big thing a rape victim loses - control. So, I would not recommend or force or suggest or mandate ANY course of action unless she specifically asked me what I thought she should do.
My personal opinion is that adoption would be a good choice in that situation, because she'd be helping another family, she wouldn't have to face a reminder of the attack on a daily basis, and she could cause something wonderful to come out of something horriffic. This could help her retain a sense of hope and self-esteem.
But if she wanted to get an abortion, after I was sure she was certain that's what she wanted, I'd okay it.

Answer 8

Never! Personally, I would raise the child as my own and turn a bad situation into a beautiful one. But if you or she were uncomfortable with this, I would give the child up for adoption. I guarantee you there is someone out there who will just LOVE that child! It is not that innocent child's fault that his/her biological father is what he is. Don't murder a child for the sin of his father.

In fact, if you can't find an adoptive parent, my husband and I will take the child and love him/her as our own! I have two children and I'm as SAHM. There is nothing better in the world than children. :) [e-mail]

I have a cousin that was a product of a gang rape. His wonderful mother kept him and doesn't regret it for a second. He is a wonderful man and has a wife and two children of his own today.

Answer 9

Don't do abortion please... IT hurts my heart if people say they're gonna abort their child.. oh man ! that is a really BIG SIN.. and God will judge you when u died up there.. just raise the kid by herself, dont need to marry the man if he's a criminal.. or this is another way but it's kinda sad, give the baby to the adoption center.. maybe it would help the daughter to continue school and stuff..

Answer 10

I would never recommend abortion because regardless of the horrific tragedy of the conception, it is still a human being. I would recommend adoption, if the young woman is not mature enough for parenthood and also depending on the attack, there may be reprecussions in the way she relates to the child.

Yes, I am a Christian, wife of a pastor in fact...but this answer comes from my heart not church doctrine. So whether is answer is acceptable to the church, I honestly don't know.

Answer 11

I can answer this one from my own similar experience. In my opinion, ANY adult who would have sex with a minor child is a criminal, and guilty of rape, but I do understand the difference. Still, I would not have acted differently. My story follows:

My daughters know I am pro-life. When my 14 year old came to me and told me she was pregnant, (she and her 16 year old friend, who just happened to be the preacher's daughter, had been sneaking out at night to meet their boyfriends, aged 23 and 19). I told her I would support her in any choice she made. She chose to have the baby.

16 years later, Jason, who was born perfect in every way, and who is always at the top of all of his classes, as well as being a very good looking boy (no, I am NOT bragging, it's the truth!) is the chief joy of her life...and mine, too. OH, and I ought to add that my daughter had to grow up quickly, but she has been a great Mom (she says she learned from the best, but I tell her she has vastly improved on her model).

Was it easy? NO! She was too small to have the baby, and it was a hard pregnancy. At times, I was terrified for her life, and for the baby's, and she will never be able to have another child, but it was her choice, and I supported her then, and now.

Was she influenced by my stance? Quite possibly. Does that bother me? Sometimes.

I am grateful to God for her, and for Jason, and I do know that it could have turned out quite differently for both of them, and nobody will ever convince me that God did not look after both her and her baby.