my 13 yr old son wants to meet his real dad im ok with it but i dont him to get rejected. the dad pays child support he lives in another state . my ? is how can i find a unlisted # or address so we can contact him.
2006-08-01 06:54:41 · 14 answers · asked by robin w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i need to add that i need a search on the internet that will give me info without asking me for money.
2006-08-01 07:19:27 · update #1
Does he have any family you know?...Alot of times they would really like to see the child too....Have you searched online for him?.....Also....you may try to contact the child support division, maybe they will give you the information. He has to keep them updated on his address. If you get ahold of the right person..they will try to help.
But...if he has kep this information from you till now...please be prepared for the fact that he may not want to see your son. I hope he doesn't get hurt and rejected either.....and its a really tough age for him right now....You would think he would have let you know how to contact him in cse of an emergency or something.......I wish you the best of luck....and I will say a prayer that your son gets what he needs from his dad......My son met his dad when he was nine, they talk about twice a month and only see each other maybe once a year...but he deals very well with it....he knows his dad loves him, its just hard....he also lives in another state.
2006-08-01 07:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems strange that your son's father pays child support yet takes absolutely no interest in him. You don't even have a contact number or address so that you can notify him in the event of an emergency?
You need to get a mutual party to let the man know that his son wants to meet him. Unless he has been staying away due to a court order, it seems that the father has gotten on with his life and may not be thrilled about meeting his son. Direct contact is definitely not the way to start this reunion.
If you know anyone who knows how to reach him, write a letter (or have your son write it if he's comfortable with that) and give it to this neutral party to be delivered.
Perhaps the father thinks that he's making the boy's life easier by staying away. You'll never know until you try, but do it through a third party to get things started. If the father wishes to remain anonymous, you should respect his wishes.
2006-08-01 06:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father pays child support, then the agency he pays it to will have his contact information. If your son wants to talk to him, take it in steps - maybe visit a therapist first and talk about different scenarios so your son is prepared for the most likely outcome - rejection or welcome. Then he should send his father a letter asking if it is OK to call him. If his father responds, then your son should call him and at that point, arrange for a meeting. If your son doesn't hear back, then that an indication the his father has no interest in his son. I hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-08-01 07:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you receiving the child support payments? Does he send them directly to you? Is there a return address? Most states require parents to provide contact information. If the Attorney General is collecting these payments, they should be able to give you the last known address or at least the name of the last known employer. They are supposed to send you that information if they have it.
2006-08-01 07:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by askme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't locate the number through the search engines others have suggested, (depending on which state you live in) your child support agency should release the info to your son. If they can't/won't do that, you could try locating his relatives. One of them must have a contact number for him, like your son's Grandparents?
2006-08-01 07:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by cheryl16k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he pays child support, you should be able to get a number or address from the agency that handles the child support.
2006-08-01 06:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by batmantis1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Lynn" up there is solid on with their answer! i'm assuming your son is in 6th grade and that's a time while he is going to attempt each and every little thing he can. that's the era they adjust from being a lil baby into turning out to be a teenager and truthfully curiously like he ought to truly use a guy or woman in his life that provides a rattling. he's making an attempt to be "cool" and galvanize different little ones all at an identical time as he nonetheless is determining himself. i comprehend you do no longer want to be around some "punk baby" yet you have the flexibility (and im no longer asserting beat his a$$) yet you have the flexibility to make this greater advantageous and be somebody he can seek advice from and relentless in his life. Realistically he's feeling awkward too... and probable senses your apprehension. you do no longer would desire to have lots of money to do issues with him. One on one time can come from a walk, a hike, going fishing, taking part in video games, tossing a ball on the park... Its the actuality which you're taking time to be with him that is going to remember the main. the actuality that he feels you're happy with him, love him, and supply him credit for doing issues... popularity. handbook him interior the suitable suited direction dad...
2016-10-01 08:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is at the age, and the dad maybe happy to see him, just be there for support.
A good search engine is called zabasearch.com for names and addresses it also gives birthdate info.
2006-08-01 06:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he pays child support wouldn't you know?
2006-08-01 06:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by toofdogger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the normal curiosity for a kid let him meet his father, it will definitely do a favor to him.
2006-08-01 07:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by sukhwinder b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋