I am about to get caught cheating?

Question

I have been married 12 years. I have been having an affair for 2. It is with a married woman and me and my wife both know her and her husband very well. The woman I was seeing started seeing a psychiatrist 2 months ago and she cinvinced her to stop seeing me and I can understand that but now she tells her she must come clean and tell her husband. On Thursday she is taking him to her appointment and telling him. This means my wife will find out and I know she will leave me. I'll loose her, my home and my job because I work for her dad and uncle.I try to talk to her but she won't answer. How can I stop her from telling her husband This Dr must be the real wako don't you think. What can I do.I haven't slept in 3 days and I can't think.HELP

Answer 1

Ok. Tell the woman with the husband NOT to tell her husband ok? OK. Cuz i got a really good plan! You're in luck Mr. Cheater! The woman with the husband her names gonna be Mrs. Cheater and you're Mr.Cheater.

1.Tell Mrs. Cheater to hold on and NOT to tell her hubby.
2.You call up Maury, or Jerry Springer.
3.You get on the show. You'll feel better because it's in front of millions of viewers.
4.If you can't get in touch (or on the show) watch Oprah.
5.If you don't have a T.V. you're screwed man!

Answer 2

Maybe you should think about being honest with your wife before she finds out elsewhere. There is a very strong possibility that she is going to be some angry and hurt. Or maybe she'll tell you that this woman's husband and her have been cheating on you both also, which would look good on you. I don't condone cheating at all but think it would be very ironic if indeed this was the outcome. Cheating on your wife has come back to bite you in the **** and although you may not agree with this doctor's recommendations you do not know what the woman you've been having an affair with has told her. So perhaps the good doctor is right and it will be a big benefit for the woman's mental health to fess up to her mate.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. However, I don't think convincing the woman you have been having an affair with not to tell her husband is going to work. The psychiatrist is probably doing what she thinks is in her best interest, not yours.

I have been in your shoes and had an affair while married. My wife also found out. It was brutal but we got past it. If you are an adult and you choose to have an affair or fling or whatever, you have to recognize that there is a risk your partner is going to find out. If you proceed with the act then you are really admitting that the risk is worth it.

Looks like you may have to own up to it. If you care for the woman you were having an affair with, you will leave her alone to heal her marriage (as hard as that may be). I would focus on doing the same with your wife. However, based on your message, it sounds like you are more concerned with the material aspect of your relationship then the fact that your marriage may end. Time to ask yourself what your really want out of life.

Best of luck. It may look like the world is going to end right now but it will pass.

Answer 4

No the doctor is not a wako your just upset because you are going to get caught with your pants down. Those who cheat get caught eventually. You were not so concerned about your wife, your home, or your job when you were cheating. It is called karma.

I have no sympathy for you or your plight. The person I feel for is your wife and your lover's husband. You and this woman did a very selfish act and are now going to pay the consequences.

The only thing you can do know is confess to your wife before she finds out from someone other than you. If she gives you another chance you should really think long and hard before you go and screw it up again.

Answer 5

Um.. well maybe you shouldn't have cheated, duhh! There's absolutely nothing you can do now. You will be better off sitting down and talking to your wife about it before she finds out from someone else. You have to come clean for what you did. Having an affair for 2 years is just ridiculous, cheating, and affairs are bad enough. But for it to last that long you only have yourself to blame. You and your soon to be ex wife should go to a psychiatrist also and you should come clean to her there and never talk to the woman you had the affair with or the husband.

Answer 6

Well personally I don't think there is anything that you can do, if the other woman's mind is made up then there is really nothing you can do about it. I suggest you come clean to your wife before the other husband does, she may decide to forgive you after all of this if you tell her the truth first. I can't believe you would cheat though, thats horrible. You are a sad excuse for a man, and if your wife does leave you, then I say thats the right punishment for your actions!!!!

Answer 7

I suggest you grow some balls and finally step up to your wife and be a real man and tell her before she finds out. Anybody who decides to cheat doesn't think about what happens if my spouse finds out. They just think i'm miserable and I don't want to deal with it so you go find something for the moment being. Anyways learn how to stick with one woman. You will probally loose a lot of respect as well as everything else your scared of loosing.

So I would talk to your wife and show her that you are sorry. But I would stay with the real story because i'm sure it will ALL come out....so don't lie anymore then you already have.

Answer 8

Being worried in an affair is not amusing for both social gathering. Certainly the sufferer of the affair (being cheated on) has the anguish of betrayal PLUS the anguish of "what did I do fallacious" The anguish of being the unhealthy man may also be beautiful unhealthy too. Depending at the degree of guilt a character feels, this may final so long as the sufferer's anguish. Bottom line is that BOTH humans have to gain knowledge of the artwork of forgiveness and the wonders it may possibly do to support heal wounds. If 2 humans can recover from their unhealthy judgment and gain knowledge of to admire one a further, there could also be the hazard of a HAPPIER and extra gratifying lifestyles in combination. (see assets)

Answer 9

You got screwed in more ways than one. If your cheating all that must not mean anything to you anyway. the only one that can help you now is your wife. the only thing you can decide now is how she finds out. which do you feel is worse, she finds out from someone else or from you. the only way you can do any damage control is to tell her. either way if your marriage is going survive the two of you are going to have to talk about it. if you think your man enough to juggle two women be enough of a man and own up to your mistakes.

Answer 10

First of all, yo ushould not have been cheating. Maybe it is time for you to see a psych. Find out why you cheated, because there has got to be some big, underlying problem. Maybe seeking help will save your marriage, but I personally would not stay with a cheater.