SInce my wife got poorly with Anorexia she hasnt left the house in over 2 years.
I really miss our little trips out together and now I feel so lonley when I have to go out and do the shopping by myself.
Please can someone give me a bit of advice
2006-08-01 06:51:49 · 20 answers · asked by Homer Baby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you spoken to the doctor about this situation, you really need to because you could do with some support yourself, your wife went through a bad time but so did you because you were the one who supported her and now its your turn for help, you need to get some advice so you can help and encourage her to be herself again and go outdoors, is your wife frightened that you are going to be taking her into situations and places were food is readily available and fears you are going to have her eat out, anorexia is a very big deal for the sufferers and they panic about situations they might be forced into that will lead to food, have you been to a self help group for anorexics to listen to what they say about the effect on their life, god its so hard for you right now but you really need specialist help with this situation so please ask for it and do not be ashamed and think you have failed, your a very caring man and you need some help too, good luck.
2006-08-01 11:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Remind her of the good times you had when she was willing to go out with you. Show her how beautiful she really is. Be understanding and uplift her spirits as well as you know how. Start with little things like taking her in the back yard, or an area where no one can really see, and do something so wonderful that you know she'll enjoy, then work her way up to getting her back to the old her. Just remember to always uplift her esteem by telling her how beautiful you think she is & list the things you see that ARE beautiful to remind her of who she is. It'll take time, but be patient and just dont give up.
2006-08-01 06:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your wife gotten counseling? That should always be the first step in anorexia. I'm sure her doctor could recommend someone if she isn't already seeing someone. I would mention to her doctor/counselor that she's withdrawn.
I would also, in a very non-threatening way, tell your wife just what you told us. You miss being with her. And getting out of the house could only aid in her recovery.
Good luck!
2006-08-01 06:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by aldera22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting her to go to the doctor and ask about Anti-depression med. They will help. I've taken prozac for 3 years. I was really sad all the time with body and I dropped down to 95 pounds(I weigh about 110-115 normally) My doc gave me some meds and had me talk to a specialist about it. Its been two year and I'm back to my original weight. When I got depressed I didn't want to go anywhere or do anything. I know how that is. I didn't even know that I was depressed, but the doctor asked me some questions and gave me some med to try and now its all good. If she doesn't want to go to the doctor then make her.
2006-08-01 07:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffer from agoraphobia and can go out with my husband in the car for short trips with the promise that the minute I want to return home, he will take me.
Start with short trips - maybe just to the next street and then make the trips longer. Always promise to turn around and go home it a panic attack occurs.
I now go quite long distances because I know my husband will return me home - and he has never had to do it yet.
I have trouble going out alone - but, there also, my husband has given me the confidence to walk with him as I know he will bring me home immdiately I ask him to. It is two years since I had to do that.
2006-08-01 07:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
build her confidence and esteem.. take her somewhere she feels comfortable.. Beachwalk at night, moonlit drive, candlelight dinner outside in the backyard is a start.. If she is not comfortable in public. Make it a nitetime thing at first.. When she sees whats she's missed maybe her confidence level will strengthen over time. Church is a great place to start.
2006-08-01 06:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by tracienmark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the shopping no more. Make her do it. If she gets worser with the anorexia, call a doctor or social worker to intervene. She obviously needs help and if you love her and care for her you'll get it for her.
2006-08-01 06:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by geewhizbaby2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew of a few friends with a similar problem, they all overcame their problem, with a little at a time, ry going around the block or into the garden, remember little by little, don't rush things or you will be straight back to square one. All the best and keep your chin up
2006-08-01 06:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by codge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really serious, you must make her go to the GP and get a referral to a specialist.
I know its good of you to be supportive and do the shopping but its not helping the main problem. You must not take her responsibility away. please go and get professional help. All the best to you
2006-08-01 07:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she taking iron? That should help her function so you can go out to dinner and then she could do the shopping too. Two years-man how boring. I wouldnt be able to stand it!
also cream of wheat and raisins have alot of iron!
2006-08-01 06:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋