I know honesty is the best policy, but can somone be to honest to the point of scaring someone way? It seems like everytime I start to get close to someone I reveal to much and they leave. I don't want them to feel like I have lied about anything so I end up being to honest about things. What I should I do.
2006-08-01 06:47:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest about who you are but don't feel like you have to tell them exactually how you feel about them. Say you have only been dating this person for about a month and you feel like he could be the one. Well don't EVER tell him that. Keep that to yourself until you have dated him for quite sometime. Just because you want to be honest about yourself doesn't mean be honest with all your feelings. I had a guy a guy tell me he loved me with in one month of dating. I wasn't feeling the same, so I ran like hell. This is what you don't want. I probally would of dated him longer if he didn't say that but it made me start to think that I didn't care for him that way and it scared me that he did that so soon. It told me two things, one that he hasn't dated much or two he falls in love to easy. So just becareful of how much you share about your feelings with guys until it's been awhile. Tell your gf's but not HIM!!!
2006-08-01 07:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being too honest can scare people away b/c you may tell them that you have a serious control issue that ruins the relationship. Yes, it's always good to be honest. An example that honesty scares people would be that you are verbally abusive to others.
2006-08-01 14:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by caltam84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U never reveal too much of ure self too fast until you have tested teh friendship to find out if its safe to do so......the old cliche, "the more people know about u, the more they can hurt u," well it still holds true to this day, however, I believe that honesty will always be the best policy, you ahve to know what to reveal and to whom..and can they be trusted with the info that you share..and will they allow u to be your true self with judgement or condemnation behind what you have shared...u gotta know the person first, and feel safe....
2006-08-01 13:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by sincere030170 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hold back until you've date for a couple of months. By telling them your whole life story so early on, they probably think that you already ready to get married. Slow down take your time, let things just happen naturally. When this happens, then and only then start opening up. Be just like a Rose, one day its a small bud and slowly it opens into a beautiful flower.
2006-08-01 13:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont reveal everything to them right away... yes, honesty is the best policy, but it can get to the point where someone is a bit too honest and that can scare people away... when you get close to someone, be freindly and polite... dont lie to them, but dont come blurting out with secrets and stuff... if they ask, tell them the truth, but if they dont ask then dont bring it up
2006-08-01 13:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to practice selective honesty. You don't have to reveal every detail of everything that you have done in your life. Unless you have committed a crime, what is it that you are revealing that scares people away? Are you saying that you love them before you have even gotten to know each other?
2006-08-01 13:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people don't like the real you what do you need them for because I have the same problem when people find out things about me
2006-08-02 00:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest slowly and in due time.
dont tell anything unless asked, until you have been with them for a bit of time
2006-08-01 13:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,yes its true that you should be honest and if the person loves you truly and deeply will accept you with all your highs and lows......if things are not going that way,then you need to wait patiently for that special someone who is on his way and you'll find him soon.........
2006-08-01 13:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ther is nothing wrong with honesty, unless you tell them that you are a psycho, or that you are a confused serial killer. the honesty doesnt hurt. it is what you tell them that hurts. so dont telll all.
2006-08-01 13:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by swndawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋