Lately, Ive been having a very hard time trusting my boyfriend. He is in his last year of medical school and in a couple months he will be starting his residency. I know he likes to flirt a lot. So im worried that he could find someone better than me once he starts his residency. Im 19 a junior in college and I go to school 3 hours away once school starts. So now im being even more worried than before. Because apparently there has been times when residents do hook up with nurses. With this thought going through my mind, i cant trust him even more. What can i do to ease my mind?
2006-08-01 06:46:36 · 15 answers · asked by qtgirliexox008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do your own thing. Don't let him know he's the center of your world. If he senses that you have other things going on, he'll show more of an interest in you. As far as him hooking up...nothing you can do about that...anyway with guys it's only physical most of the time. If he cares about you, you'll know soon enough.
2006-08-01 06:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is a two part anwer.... first of all, u need to be secure in urself before u can even be in a real, honest and healthy relationship. if u think he can find someone "better" than you... there's no basis to ur relationship!!! u need to be with someone who makes u feel like #1, the best person, and u also need to feel that u are with someone who is #1, the best person!!! obviously u think really highly of ur bf, who is a doctor, etc... but he is with u for a reason right? if he makes u feel unsure about urself, that's a huge indicator that he may not be the right person. but it also indicates that You are not ready to be in a relationship if u depend on Him to make u feel a good gf...... u should already be sure that u are awesome, so he Better treat u right..u know??
second part is, if he flirts a lot and u don't trust him around other nurses and stuff, that's just not a good sign. he's goign to be around girls All the time... nurses, patients, other residents, doctors..what are u going to do?? die w/ jealousy and wonder and fear?? that is NOT a healthy relationship. whatever guy ur with, u have to TRUST HIM. that's all u can do. if u don't trust him, Move on to someone who u can trust. whether he's a doctor, lawyer, teacher, Anything, all guys have girls around them. what u need to do is be secure in urself that u are worth this guy, THEN set boundaries and let him know that u don't feel comfortable w/ his flirting. if he doesn't do things to make u feel secure, then it's not a healthy relationship. it could be him or you, or him And you, but either way, something is not right. there must be a reason u don't trust him, so talk, communicate w/ him. if he truly loves u, he will be able to ease ur mind. if he is defensive, mean, or blows off ur worry, again it's an indicator he's just not right for u. work on ur own confidence; u have to know u are worth it before u get w/ a guy, because if not u will depend on him to build ur confidence up, and that's dangerous.
2006-08-01 14:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been watching too much TV! You don't just not trust a person for no reason. You say you worry he might find someone better than you...get some confidence in yourself girl..maybe you are the best. Get back into your relationship with this guy if you really want to build on it and forget about your status and his status in life at the moment. Remember what drew you to this guy in the first place, what has kept you together over the years and why you want to continue to build the relationship...and then do it. You're great, he is great and if you guys are meant to be you will be. WORK at IT..NOT against IT!
2006-08-01 13:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to trust him, if you don't then leave him. If you go off the college and worry about this all the time, then you might be in for a heartbreak anyways. He might get fed up with you calling and complaining all the time about weather or not he is cheating. So the big question here is Do you trust him?
2006-08-01 13:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trusting in him would be a start! You can't always think of what someone else has done wrong that your bf is goin to do the same mistakes...Ask your self this question: would you want him to think of you as what another girl has done to her bf/or husband and start accusing you of it?Nah, nobody likes that so, try and trust in him and see...never know! Good Luck!
2006-08-01 13:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All u could do is reassure yourself that your the one he wants. But keep an eye on him. U can't really trust people now a days.
2006-08-01 13:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is ur boyfriend, u need to trust him untill he dose somethin to lose ur trust in him. Guys flirt and u can really be mad at him for that. But if he starts gitin more intiment, end it with him. For now, trust ur guy
2006-08-01 13:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel. Hopefuly he will assure you that he will try not to flirt so much while in school, since it bothers you. He will also appreciate it if you weren't so insecure and untrusting but I know that is hard. Im just spreading advise that was told to me years ago. It worked but it was hard tooties.....Like my pic! hahaha
2006-08-01 13:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him out of your life or rather get away from him because you dont trust him and trust is the base of every relationship.if trust starts shaking,you need to reconsider your decision......before things get worsen for you,move on after discussing the same with him!!
2006-08-01 13:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust that he is yours. If not you are blessed to find out before you marry him.
2006-08-01 13:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mickey's gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋