I want to have two children by the time I am 30. Why is that "too young" now a days?

Question

My husband and I want to have two children before I turn 30.

We have been together for 5 years and are emotionally and financially stable with a house that will be paid off next year.

I want to get pregnant in a few months when I am 24 and have my first baby when I am almost 25.

I want to have my second baby about 2-3 years later, so by the time I am 28 I will be finish.

If my husband and I decide to have a third baby then I will still have time before I am 30 to get pregnant again.

When people find out my age they think its crazy that I want to have children so “soon”.

Seriously, what is wrong with having wanting to be done with pregnancies at 30?

Is it so abnormal to have children in your 20’s now a days????

Wow, we have some child haters here. I DO have an excellent job in accounting AND I have hobbies! Thanks for your concern but 2 children is not "a lot". LOL

Answer 1

Don't listen to "everyone" do what will make you and your husband happy, that's all that matters! I think it's good that you 2 have planned it all out, and waited until you're ready to start a family. What "everyone" else thinks doesn't matter!

Answer 2

I believe that your plan of having 2 kids before you reach 30 is a great idea. Honestly, I don't believe what those other people are saying about you. In fact, you and your husband are in the 'best' position to plan about having more children in the family. What others say weigh nothing at all especially if it's your 'desire' to have more kids.

In your case, you are very 'fortunate' considering that you have your own house already and are financially stable. I believe that the reason 'why' other people are saying that having another child or more children before you reach 30 is a crazy idea, is because for them, it's just not possible. Generally, life today is very hard and to raise even one child is a lot of effort already especially if you are planning to give your child the best that life can offer. I guess, for some people, having more kids is not their cup of tea. Also, there are those people who are so caught up with the ways of the society- that it's better to get yourself established first by concentrating on your career, etc. Well, there is nothing wrong with it but if you are already married and that you and your husband are emotionally ready to have kids, then that is already the right time for you to have one.

Frankly dear, you don't have to listen to them. Maybe they are just 'concerned' (?) about you or maybe yet, just givng you a sweeping generalization that having kids would mean more responsibility and less time for yourself. Which in a way is true but bear in mind that children are precious gifts from God and no money nor other material thing could exchange the joys that you'll experience when you have kids.

I encourage you to go ahead with your plans. Best of all, you and your husband know exactly what you want.

Answer 3

Too young, roflmao. That's way old to me. I wanted to be done having my babies by 30. I started having them at 23, and had my last at 28. The older you get the harder it is to have them it seems and the less energy you have to keep up with them. Then again though if you don't get married until later on in life it makes sense. I'm not an advocate of single parenting by choice, it's not fair to the child and it's a very selfish choice honestly. It seems to be the normal today though, lots more women having babies into their late 30's and early 40's. I'm 32 right now and I have energy to keep up with my kids and still feel young enough that when they are all in school in a couple of years that I can go back to school. So I agree with you, it's not crazy to want to be done at 30, it's just that so many women think that 30 is the new 20, and it's SO not, lol, and most women are in party mode until 30 today it seems. I never thought that 25 was the new 18, lol, but I guess I think alot differently from alot of these younger women today. Oh well, I'm happy though...I have my kids and I'm still young enough to do what I want to, and I'll be a young hip grandmother one of these days...but not too soon, lol. Don't let others make you feel bad about wanting to start a family while you are still young. Best wishes!!

Answer 4

No, it's not too young. I had my daughter when I was 24. We decided not to have anymore but if we would have, the spacing would have been 2-3 years. Shortly I will turn 32 and couldn't imagine having a baby at this point in my life.

I've know of two couples in their 30s and older than me that are pregnant. AND I know of someone who just had his 20 year class reunion and his only child just turned 2. When I have my 20 year class reunion I will have a 14 year old. Craziness!!

Everyone's life is different. Just look at others who are your age and where they are at in life. It's amazing at how some are homeowners with families and others still live in apartments, single and still trying to find their way in life.

Good luck!

Answer 5

If you are stable, your husband and you are positive this is what you want and have talked about it, and you have the room for a baby then go for it.

30 is definitely not too young to have 2 kids. I am 23 and I have 2 children, ages 6 years & 1 years old.

Answer 6

I think you have a good plan. Alot of couples now don't but half asmuch thought into it as you do and I think thats great. I am 32 and my wife is 28 we have a 3 yr old and 1 1/2 year old. I always said i wanted my first by 30 and done by 35, we have 2years to decide if we want a 3rd. I do think alot of people have kids before they are finacially and emotionally ready but it sounds like you are in a good place in your life. Go for it!

Answer 7

Sounds like the two of you have done it exactly the way it's suppose to be done. That's a great plan if you ask me. I did it. We had 3 when I was between 24-30yrs. The only sad part is that my husband left when I was 7 months pregnant with our last child. We're now in the middle of a long drawn out divorce. Just be thankful you didn't marry the one I married!

Good Luck! Have a great time planning!

Answer 8

We are living in a very "Sex and the City" nation now. Twenties are now considered the time to play and be young and stupid (the college age). Thirties are left for the settling down, settling into a career (the grow up time). If you are financially stable and are in a loving relationship, who cares what age you are? There are plenty of people who are younger than 24 with a couple of kids already, and they are very happy. It sounds like you have a pretty good idea of what you want, so go for it. And, it is healthier for you to have kids at a younger age. Good luck!

Answer 9

Oh, please, people. I think that you can have as many children as you want, and you are particularly prudent at a time when you can take good care of them. People who say it's too soon know that it is too soon for them, but they have no say as to whether or not you are ready, and you certainly sound like you are.

Some people think that raising children is a 'waste of time' but it is not. It's the best thing that you will ever do. As long as you make your children your first priority you will be fine. You will grow as a person, and be more happy than any money could ever make you. On top of that, your children will be better people because of your influence. More power to you. I wish you many happy years with your babies.

Answer 10

Dont listen to stupid people who say that you are too young to get pregnant. I am 22 and will have my first child within the next couple of days, my pregnancy was planned, my husband and I have been together for 5 years and I am a homemaker. We felt we were ready and went for it, and we are very happy and excited for our first child. I am also very happy that my child will get to experience my grandparents who are the greatest people in the world. If you and your husband feel you are ready go for it. Screw what other people think, at least your not 15 and trying to get pregnant! Do it for yourself and dont worry about what other people think, for the most part people are idiots anyway!

Answer 11

My sister got married when she was 27 and her husband was 25. They got married on Aug. 5,2004. They concieved on
Dec. 23,2004. Their baby was due on Sept. 15,2005. They had twins on Aug. 21,2005. She is 28 and her hubby is 26 and their twins are almost a year.
You are right having kids in your 20s is normal. My younger sister is 15. She wants to get married when she is 24 and have 2 kids. First one at 26 and second at 29.
I am one of 6 kids. My mom started at 20 and ended at 36. Our ages are 28,26,22,18,15,12.