My feelings is always being let down because its like I put forth100% and she puts 45% into the relationship
2006-08-01 06:18:07 · 31 answers · asked by Samuel S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
percentage is subjective.
2006-08-01 06:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just not a good relationship.. =T.... u need to find someone who makes u feel the best! like u are a great guy, so lucky to have a girl this great....... if u put in ur 100%, u need someone who can do the same for u. the problem in this case is not you, but the girl ur with.... try talking to her about things, and say u are not really happy w/ the relationship and dont' feel that she is 100% there with u on the same page. if she has different agendas and goals than u, it doesn't even mean that she doesn't love u, but perhaps she isn't happy, or doesn't want a serious relationship, etc etc. if u know u are great person, boyfriend, and will put in ur 100%, do urself a favor and find a girl who can Appreciate that..cuz if u stay w/ this girl, u will end up Resenting her and eventually things will sour....no matter how long u stay together, unless she changes u will never be happy. u will be doing both of u a favor by letting her go.. she needs to find someone who makes her Want to put in her 100%.... and u need to find someone who wants to do that for you.
2006-08-01 06:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you how to feel and what you need in a realtionship. If you feel like you are not getting what you need you have to tell her. If she can't give it to you, you have to move on no matter how hard it is.
I was in a similar relationship for years, I thought there was something wrong with me because I felt so empty even though I gave her all of my love. Turned out that wasn't a two way street though I was blinded by love for a long time before realizing this.
Recently found a girl who fills me with all the love she's got to give, and I've never been happier. You got to make a decision. Is she worth the pain and emptiness? There are others probably who have more love to give.
2006-08-01 06:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by CrashCondon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a pretty good indicator that the relationship isn't working for you.
Do you just happen to be upset with her right now or is this a recurring pattern?
Your options are to:
A. Pretend nothing is wrong and keep things as they are
B. Talk to her about how you feel. Maybe she doesn't realize she's hurting you and she wants to work at being more considerate.
C. Break up with her and find a girl you have more in common emotionally with.
2006-08-01 06:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot to learn a bout women....For real. Most women do that, at least the smarter ones does. Please listen.. I also tell my sons this. The more a women shows her love to a man, The less he shows his love and caring. So women want there men to""think"" they can live without them. What I'm to say. Women are very misleading. It makes her man want her more.. I hope this helps you . Good luck. DO her the same way. You need to be Strong. DON"T GIVE IN!!!!! You will see. It may take a few weeks. Come on Women, Tell this guy how we are.. Before he goes crazy!!!! Let me know how it went.
2006-08-01 06:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Daris G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna take a guess here and say you are under 20 yrs old.and you know what Hun if you are under 20 you shouldn't be giving your 100 percent to just one thing right now anyway.when your in your thirties you will be longing for your twenties how dumb are you gonna feel if your twenties were wasted on a chick that cant even muster up the sincerity to give you AT LEAST her 50 percent .if she gives you 45 percent you give her 35 percent.i learned a long time ago that you gotta give it as good as you take it stop wasting your time.
2006-08-01 06:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. There could be a lot of reasons she seems distant, like depression or other worries that preoccupy her. Maybe you can strengthen your relationship by helping her through these things.
But if she really is just self absorbed, and with you until something better comes along, then maybe you should find someone else. You deserve to be loved and appreciated, too.
2006-08-01 06:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your putting more into this relationship than she is, you need to back up and look at the WHOLE picture. She may not see things like you do so, instead of you adjusting life around her, step back and see where things are between you two. Then adjust the relationship.
2006-08-01 06:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very valuable lesson to learn early in life is that actions speak louder than words. She is not acting like she loves so she probably doesn't. Sad but true. Love is faithful. Love is kind. She doesn't care about your feelings. Time to move on to greener pastures.
2006-08-01 06:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe something is wrong there are plenty of reasons that she is acting like that. if you really care and really want to know then call her or ask her in person. express your feelings and everything will turn out for the best. trust me im going through the same thing. she does caes but there is many things going on
2006-08-01 06:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by angelchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she knows that you really care for her and uses it to her advantage but remember what goes around comes around sooner or later you will stop putting so much into this relationship and she will be wearing the shoes your in right now so don't feel bad because your just being you and you will be being you then but the tables will have turned and you'll still get your blessing i guarantee you .
2006-08-01 06:26:28 · answer #11 · answered by connie g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋