i read somwhere really recently and it said stuff about how getting a family and having kids illiminates you from doing what you desire, only your hopes and dreams to your children. The thing is that if i do what i really would want to do, i would probably lose the one i love right now (have been dating for 3 years) bc of all the traveling.
love vs. goal in life
2006-08-01 06:11:32 · 19 answers · asked by bob888 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a woman that shares your dream, accomplish it together. Have you talked to your love about your dreams? Don't take for granted what she will or won't support in your relationship.
2006-08-01 06:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Hums2oldies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a tough one! Here's how I see it, hopefully it helps: If you settle down and have kids it will be great for maybe a couple years and then it'll be ho-hum again, you'll feel like a partial failure and wonder "what if...", and you'll have a huge mountain to climb to get to the top when you're dragging an unsupporting family along. If you go for your dream then you will undoubtedly find someone who will SHARE that dream with you and will understand the travel if it means your happiness. Consider this....if you go for love and forget about your goal then will you just be an unhappy person who your lady wouldn't want to be married to anyways? I say go for your dream and find somebody along the way who will support you in your endeavours instead of making you choose. Then again, maybe a very frank talk with your love will reveal a side of her that is more supportive. Hope I made ya think!
2006-08-01 06:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that following your dreams and accomplishing them is important.If you get married and just settle for a decent job you will have regrets not on the marriage but you will always wonder what couldv'e been.You said you've been dating for 3 years and think you would lose the one you love.Does she love you?If she does she should understand that your trying to better yourself and she should wait.How long will it take to accomplish your dream?Not a lifetime.Love can last a lifetime.What's wrong with just getting engaged,marriage don't have to be rushed.Don't settle for less a regular boring job,and accomplish the goals first and then love will follow.Good luck.
2006-08-01 06:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you do both? Why can't you travel? She won't let you follow your dreams? Would she expect you to support her or has she realized her dreams? I think if a couple is really in love, they support eachother and be there as one or the other becomes successful in what they want to do. Getting a wife doesn't mean you have to give up on life.
2006-08-01 06:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason you can not have both. A wife can be a complimentary advantage to a career as a helpmate. Babies are very flexible and have few real needs!!!~~~love, diapers, undershirts and a warm blanket.~~everything else isn't a need, but a want. Love is such a blessing and it can carry you through almost anything. If you are faithful and commit to your goal and your mate.
2006-08-01 06:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends what is more important to you . but if you have the right person by your side you can do anything without having to chose. I f she really loves you she will support you all the way to accomplish your dreams ,so you can make a better future for both of you.
2006-08-01 06:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by princess11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you have to decide on your own ... this is a huge life changing decision ... !
I can see how having children can complicate your future dreams and goals ... but the one you love should be open-minded and willing to compromise when it comes to things like this. It's hard since we ALL have our OWN dreams and goals .. hers might be something totally different .... !
Talk to her about where she sees your relationship going in the future and see what she thinks about you taking on this new career ... !
2006-08-01 06:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question....What is more important to you? I mean really important to you? Is it peace of mind...love..happiness...Joy...or is it the relentless pursuit of meeting the standards that society has placed on people in terms of what is successful and what is not? U have to create a balance in your life...I believe that you can have both.....the wife and the dream....you ahve to learn how to balance it..because think about it...once you ahve obtained your dream...what then? you will still experience that feeling of emptiness and void......you have to really search your heart to find out what make "you" happy and complete..and go from there.....
2006-08-01 06:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by sincere030170 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there may be a way to do both things. I know that settling down comes at the cost of possibly not being able to have the same amount of freedoms as when you are single. enjoy life as a single and pray about where God wants you. He knows best.
2006-08-01 06:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by frodobaggins115 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think settling down and having a wife and kids is more important if your ready. if you think that shes the right one for you, you wont wanna lose that. it might take another lifetime to find the "right one." it shouldnt hurt you that you dont have your dream job, it should be enough that your spending it with them. you never know, somewhere along the way, youll get both.. goodluck
2006-08-01 06:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋