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Question

What is the biggest mistake a girl can make in the early stages of a relationship. What would make you think "def. not the one!!" and what would make you think "this could go somewhere!"

Answer 1

If she is fun, and doesn't bust my chops about being perverted, or hanging out with my friends. If she can't make me laugh, the party is over.

It really does depend on how attractive he finds you, some guys will probably think you are the prettiest girl ever, and some other guy may feel differently. Remember men have to fall in love everyday with the woman they are with. Looks is very important to us, but don't feel like you have to be really skinny, or be perfect, all men like something different.

Answer 2

In the EARLY stages of a relationship (as in while you're dating or have just moved to the boyfriend girlfriend stage), the biggest mistake I can think of would be that a girl starts talking seriously about marriage. At that early stage everyone's still feeling eachother out and making up their mind if they want to take the relationship to the next level. Talk about marriage at that point will definitely scare the hell out of the guy. Another mistake would be to start imposing limitations on the guy....what he can and cannot do (we're talking about early stage of relationship here). That may be too much for him to handle as well. On the other hand, if the girl doesn't do these things and seems supportive of whatever the guy is into (guys NEED to have their egos stroked), they need to be reassured by their girl every once in a while how crazy she is about him, how manly she thinks he is, or how smart or handsome she thinks he is, or how tough or whatever she thinks he is. I know it's the same for women....your girl/wife should be reassured of these kind of things frequently as well. Don't be a door mat. Guys don't like girls that just agree with everything they say. Have a different opinion sometimes....not always or you don't have anything in common, but sometimes. If he asks you what YOU would like to do, don't say "I don't care...whatever you want". I could go on and on. I think a big thing is that he realizes that you have alot in common and can talk about a lot of things without their being a point where there is an uncomfortable silence. There are really an infinite number of combination of things that could make a guy think "hey, this could go somewhere". I've only touched on a couple. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I think for me the biggest mistake is to give the guy an impression that she is someting completely different than what she really is. I can look back on alot of relationships that started good but after a little while the girl would act totally different.My best advise is to just be yourself.

Answer 4

That is a very though question!
It all really depends on the person female and male. Normally the chemistry is right when you get to know each other and slowly loosen and warm up to each other. It is hard to find true love these days, everybody is out there trying to focus on their careers and school, leaving little time for meeting people. The best thing you can do though is just go out there and just talk to as many people as you can and eventually you will find something you like and even love. Everybody has this perfect image of their dream partner, yet it changes from relationship to relationship. So do things to get out and meet people till you find the one right for you.

cheers
Greg

Answer 5

Biggest mistake...turn out to be a liar. If you can't trust them, you don't want them.

Best thing to make guys think "this could go somewhere" is to make him look like the MAN in front of his friends. You can do this by being fine and only paying attention to him, or showing up with something for only him to eat/snack on...complementing him on something...

Answer 6

Def not the one= Drink too much. Talk too much about herself. Meet the parents too soon, order the most expensive thing on the menu, talk about exboyfriends, have a lot of guy friends

This could go somewhere-Listen, carry yourself well, speak for your self well.

Answer 7

Biggest mistakes: talking about weddings or children, taking a guy to look at rings, talking about "spending the rest of our lives together," talking about money issues, embarrassing a guy (or putting him down) in front of his friends or family, being too possessive (i.e. - never wanting to let him have "guy time" out with his buddies).

Could go somewhere: complimenting the guy in front of friends or family, just calling to say "Hi," getting two tickets for a sporting event he likes, asking him about HIS dreams/aspiration, being supportive of and interested in those pursuits, and acting excited/proud to be with him when you go out (make a guy feel good about himself, and he'll never leave you), and being secure enough to let him have some alone/guy time.

Answer 8

Biggest mistake -- be dumb and talk too much about gossip and not enough about any issues with substance. I would think "this could go somewhere" if she made me laugh a lot.

Answer 9

If he was possessive and clingy and called all the time wondering where you are and what your doing then I would say "not the one" If he lets you be who you are and you both have a good time together and have alot in common then I would say "this could go somewhere!"

Answer 10

Biggest mistake ever to make is to take the guy for granted or cling to him. Let him have his space, act a little (n i mean a LITTLE) pricey. Men like cashing women. Be someone whom your guy will like to own (i hope u r not a femminist ;-) )