She is not my child (neice) I watch her six days a week. She is two. I told her parents but they are not here to disipline her when it happens. I have been using time out but she will get up and five minutes later bite.
2006-08-01 05:49:46 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hmmm...that's a tough one. You might try going for something a little more aggressive. Try using a drop of Tabasco sauce or something along those lines, along with time outs.
Or you could really watch her very closely and the next time she goes to bite, grab her and yell "NO BITING!!!" and plunk her butt into the time out chair. It may be exhausting for a few days, but maybe it might get the point across.
If the situation becomes unbearable, you may need to consider telling your family that you can't watch her unless they find a way to stop the biting. It would seem that they don't care because they don't have to deal with her biting them or other kids.
2006-08-01 05:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Each child responds differently to disipline. What works for one may not work for another, and as this is not your child you need to come up with a plan, discuss it with the parents, then follow through.
here's a few suggestions:
Sit her on the couch (no t.v.) and if she gets up put her back make sure you leave her there long enough to make an impression, maybe even let her take a nap. I've found a tired child can be meaner than a rested one.
Tap her mouth (don't hit, do it gently, but again enough to make an impression) and tell her "No biting"
Hold her jaw (don't squeeze) and tell her "No biting"
You can try biting back but be careful not to do it too hard.
Take away a favorite plaything or activity and make sure you explain why you did it and that if she doesn't do it again she can have it back at the end of the day
What ever you do, remain calm;do not react in anger. It is too easy to go overboard and actually injure a child if you loose your temper.
2006-08-01 16:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biting...well I have two small children and I didn't have much trouble with biting, but I would suggest not making such a big deal about it in front of the child. Maybe she is doing this for attention? Try redirecting her to something else, when she realizes that biting doesn't get her desired result she may stop. If not may I suggest biting back? It sounds cruel, but maybe she doesn't know that it hurts...it is possible that by doing this may help her understand that biting is painful...good luck!
2006-08-01 12:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son went through this also. Time outs didn't work for him. What we had to do was give him ONE piece of red pepper in his mouth every time he bit someone. It didn't last for very long. Some people say to use soap and that's where I was going to go until the hot pepper idea was given to me. It is also a great tool to use later on when your child starts the talking back, spitting, or repeating swear words. I have had to give the hot peppers to my son only a few time for the above reasons. Most of the time now I tell him if he does a bad behavior (regarding his mouth) he will get a hot pepper. The warning of it seems to be enough and the behavior does not end up lasting long.
Good luck with this, but know that it is normal behavior.
2006-08-01 17:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by teacher&mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to the parents what's going on, and tell them the next time she bites, you will bite her. My daughter was a biter (she's now 16) and the only way I could get through to her that you don't bite was to show her how it felt. I bit her, rather hard--but not hard enough to leave marks, on her pinky finger. After that she realized that biting HURTS! Sometimes that's all they need to realize, and they don't realize it until it happens to them. But tell the parents first before you do this, or they may blow a gasket when they pick up their little angel and the first words out of her mouth are "Aunt Sally bit me today!!"
2006-08-01 14:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 1/2 y.o. and he has been through, sometimes still, the period of biting. As the caregiver it is up to you to discipline during your watch. I remind my son that biting hurts and threaten to, sometimes do, take a beloved toy away for the day if he bites. He gets the point but still does it when he's excited. I tell him to come up and hug instead. He's starting.
P.S. Time outs don't work w/ toddlers.
2006-08-01 12:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately I haven't had that problem, but my instinct is the same as when we were training our puppy years ago... Every time it nipped, we pulled back and recoiled in pain (yes, exagerated) and pretended to cry and be sad. Children do feel empathy, and 2 year olds generally aren't trying to inflict pain or damage, and if they are the question is out of my league. :)
Also, we started with time-outs around age 2... for 2 minutes (timed so she heard "beep" at end). Repetition is key... after about 3-4 fully completed 2 minute time-outs they get the message. But it would be better if the parents worked on it with you and did the same at home.
2006-08-01 12:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two children and they both only bit me once in their lifetime. I have always taught my children to see things from all sides, so when they bit me(they were both at the fun age of two), I simply bit them back. Only on the finger and applying minimal pressure- just enough to get the point across. I have never hurt my children or anyone else's for that matter, so please do not think I mean to hurt the child. DO NOT HURT THE CHILD. Just explain that it was a lesson that needed learned. Biting hurts.
2006-08-01 13:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a kid, I used to bite the neighbour boy. My mom tried everything. Finally she bit me. I never bit again after that. She said she figured at that age I didn't know that it hurt. Once I found out that it hurt, I never bit again. Best discuss this plan with the parents though. I turned out pretty good, I am not a serial killer and I know that biting hurts. Good luck!
2006-08-01 12:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by mad_hat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch her and see what is causing her to bite. Be ready to intervene and stop her BEFORE the bite happens.
Most of the time kids this age are biting to communicate. Remind her to "use her words" when you catch her and stop her. Help her learn the names of her emotions. "Wow! You look mad!" or "that made you angry!" or "I see you're getting frustrated!"
If it continues to be a problem, talk to her parents about pressing her own arm or hand against her teeth each time so she can see how sharp they are and tell her sternly "biting hurts!"
I know some nuts will tell you this but.....NEVER bite a child back!!!!!
2006-08-01 12:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋