Look. No stupid answers please.
Lets say you find someone, who's almost perfect. I mean honest to god as close to perfect as they come. but then something happens and this person is taken from you through unfortunate cirumstances. A year later, you start going the player route, dating as many girls as you can, to try and find someone who can compare. but then you stop because you realize your hurting people, who don't deserve to be hurt. and now, you're in a complete slump, unsure of what to do. Do I have to just deal with the fact that I'm not going to be able to find anyone who comes close and settle for less? or do I keep looking, hoping that someday I can find someone that measures up to what I lost.
2006-08-01 05:42:42 · 8 answers · asked by The Raven 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry for your loss.
You'll find someone.May be your expectations are to high,may be one of those broken hearts could have turned out to be the one if you weren't stuck on comparing everyone to your lost love.It sucks to lose someone,but remember that she was one of a kind.Stop comparing everyone to her and open your heart just a little more and the right woman will come to you.GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-01 05:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jillsifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just stated what your problem is, you are comparing these girls to the one you lost. You cannot do that, you'll never be able to find what you are looking for that way. Let yourself heal, and stop being to head-huntery about trying to find someone to replace her. Relax, when the time is right, someone special will be brought to you, and you will be able to love again. You can't expect people to be perfect, I know you aren't, because no one is. Just stop trying so hard, and realize that what you had is gone, and you can cherish, but the new people you meet have to be cherished for what they are too, not how much they were like the girl you lost.
2006-08-01 12:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a player isn't going to find you a great girl. Relax, take it easy, and maybe take a break from dating. You won't find somebody until you fully deal with your emotional pain from your last relationship, and accept your life now.
Get involved in clubs, etc., put yourself out there to meet nice, quality people.. but don't try too hard. When you're ready, you will find love again. Don't forget that nobody is perfect.. and we all have to "settle" in some sense by compromising and learning to overlook eachother's faults.
2006-08-01 12:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by leaner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect, and its a shame you lost someone who you cared about so much. But you shouldn't measure other people up to her, accept them for who they are and maybe you will feel the same with them as you did previously.
2006-08-01 12:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you weren't with the first person long enough to realize she was real and had faults like everyone else.
Unless you get over that, you'll never be satisfied in any relationship because you will always be comparing.
2006-08-01 12:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving up proves that there is no one else. Dont give up. There is someone out there. Just dont be a jerk and be strait up with people...your just dating around.
2006-08-01 12:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by createdbydefault 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. There is a person who is right for you. Don't look for it though, it will happen when it is supposed to. Good luck.
2006-08-01 12:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep looking there is someone out there for u
2006-08-01 12:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋