He hasn't even told me when the funeral was. I had to hear from someone else.
2006-08-01 05:35:00 · 45 answers · asked by gzmom 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I just don't want to crowd him. He has a large family and he already told me that his house is packed. I wanna support him, but I don't want to be a source of stress for him right now. His siblings are pulling him in all directions. Thank you for all your kind answers, 'cause I knew his father too. I will go to the funeral, but not the house.
2006-08-01 05:47:15 · update #1
He just called me. I feel worlds better. I'm glad that I gave him his space and let him contact me on his own terms. I'm going to the house after all the crowds dissipate and I'm going to the funeral. Thanks again, everybody!!!
2006-08-01 06:25:53 · update #2
He's private.
Give him a call to let him know you're there for him.
If he doesn't invite you, don't force the issue.
2006-08-01 05:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by alwaysbombed 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Your friend is going through a rough time in his life with the lost of his father. Perhaps he is overwhelmed with emotions, family issues, financial and burial decisions. People have more than likely have been stop by and he just hasn't had the time. I would venture over and pay your respects to the family. In addition; without an invitation I would show up for the funeral as support.
2006-08-01 05:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go see your friend. I'm sure he would greatly appreciate a friend right now. He has a lot on his mind now. As far as you hearing the time of the funeral from someone else, don't take it personally. This is a very emotional time for him, so go comfort him and his family.
2006-08-01 05:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should pay the respect.
When people close to us pass away, the last thing we want is to start calling people to tell them where the funeral is. People have other things on their mind and migh have forgotten to call you.
It also, depends how close to this friend you are. Never the less, if you heard it from someone, just attend the funeral. At the end I am sure your friend will be glad and you will be guilt free....
2006-08-01 05:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through many situations like this, and they don't mean to be rude. They probably assume you would read about it in the paper. Everyone is calling their house right now, and they have a lot of arrangements to make, so I would not take it personally.
Try a call and sending some flowers. (Or whatever is your custom.) Tell them you will be there for them whenever they need you and leave it at that. They will appreciate it.
2006-08-01 05:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by fionagirl82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.....right now he is being selfish, and he has the complete right to do so. He has lost one of the most important people in his life. He is probably very concerned with things other than who to "invite" to his house or call with funeral arrangements. Be there for him, and let him know you are there to support him in this time of need...he knows how lucky he is to have you for a friend.
2006-08-01 05:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last thing on your friends mind at this time is whom to invite to the house or funeral. I would pay my respects anyway. Let him know you are there should he need you. Remember, this is a difficult time for him and his family.
2006-08-01 05:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by desertlily73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but don't plan to stay too long..I remember everyone who came to my father's funeral, who was kind, who called -everything.
Give your friend the benefit of the doubt -losing someone close is so devastating...I still cry when I think about my Dad and it's been many years (and therapy). You sound like you care about your friend and nothing is more important than caring - continue to be that good friend...
2006-08-01 05:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by l18dreamon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him a call...let him know you're there for him. Maybe even ask if he'd like you to stop by. He'll appreciate your friendship. And don't be offended by the fact that he hasn't invited you or didn't let you know about the funeral. He's grieving, and I am sure doesn't mean to blow you off.
2006-08-01 05:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by kturner5265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could call your friend and tell him that you are sorry to have learned of the passing of his father. Offer to be with him and see how it goes. In a time like this, there are many things to do, and many people to call, so perhaps he is just overwhelmed, plus grieving and helping other relatives, etc. That's likely why he hasn't called you yet. Don't take it personally. But I am sure he would appreciate it if you called him.
2006-08-01 05:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by SB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened with my ex girl friend. I thought we were close but when her father passed away, i was the last to know. But when i heard, I went straight to her place. She had a lot in her mind by then. So check on them. He needs you to do that. In our culture, you dont get invited for funerals.
2006-08-01 05:43:44 · answer #11 · answered by tomwaterboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋