my boyfriends mother doesn't like me at all. she says thing to hurt me all the time. i have to have supervized visits with my boyfriend. and last night i tried to make things better than they are by talking to her but it made things worse. now my mom and my boyfriend want to say something to her. but my boyfriend does not want to hurt his mom. so my boyfriend wants my mom to say some thing but i'm scard that if anyone says any more she him mother will stop us from seeing each other which is all that is holding me back from telling everyone grerat new???
2006-08-01 05:22:23 · 7 answers · asked by reba s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is the man i am engaged to and we are both around 18 years old
2006-08-01 06:16:47 · update #1
If you both are young I would let your mom say something especially because I don't think his mother sees how miserable she is making the both of you. Your mom would be best to try to talk to her about it. Your boyfriend may want to stay out of it for a little while until you both know there is nothing else you can do about her stopping, so that it isn't weird at home for him. I hope this helps and i hope everything works out.
2006-08-01 05:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep your mom out of it. She has a place with you but not in this situation. If she gets involved I think things will get even worse, not better. Your forseeing that correctly. I think it really is your boyfriend place to stand up to his mom. If he truly likes you and wants this to work out then he needs to let his mom know that's where he stands. Also, why is his mom doing this? Is there an age difference between the two of you? Are you a very young couple where his mom's word should have some pull or maybe your relationship should be monitored? Maybe that is something to take into consideration as well. If not, and both of you are at an age where you can tell his mom to "butt out" a bit then approach it nicely at first and then tell her straight up.
2006-08-01 05:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by moonshadow385 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really sad cuz her behaviour could make him want you even more. Your Mom should not get into this. He should find out what the problem is by asking her right out. Honesty is best. If you guys drive you should be able to at least go out alone for cheeseburgers. Life is full of compromising to make relationships work. She sounds so controlling. I knew someone who had that kind of Mom and once I did lose it and say something to her and she actually heard me. But he still ended up becoming gay and leaving home cuz she ran his life.
2006-08-01 05:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this my guy had to speak up to his mom, and for now she is sort of ok but u can tell she hates me but ya know who r u dating him or her that is the way i looked at it. she is going have to face it u r going to be dating him and ur going to be around him and he is going to be aroud her so she needs to grow up and realize that you two are going to be dating so ask ur self what do u want
2006-08-01 05:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by angela_37_missouri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're in trouble. But you should let your mom speak with his mom. Have faith in your mom, she will make things better! Good luck!
2006-08-01 05:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your problem? are you going to marry him or something? if not, why bother?
2006-08-01 05:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by stickan8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf needs to talk to her.
2006-08-01 05:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rusty Shackleford 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋